Hey Green Card
when you say wash do yo mean shampoo-ing? you could give conditioner only washing a whirl... shampoos play havoc on my hair and since i gave up the sulfates I have been soooooooooooooooooo much happier!
or another good option that I used to transition to a no poo life ( almost 2 years!) is the WEN hair cleanser route - WEN itself is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay pricey fro a curly girl but Sally' beauty makes a good knock off called Hair One.
Gel can be D R Y I N G...depending on the ingredients. Try an Aloe based gel, IC makes on thats available at Target for about 3 dollars.
Over all I think most curlies with frizz issues have moisture issues as in not enough.
Do you use a leave in conditioner? I use just more of my reg conditioner, it makes soooooooo much difference!
Teri is AWESOME! I use a modified version of her curl regime.
All that being said:
I get 2cnd and sometimes 3 rd day curls these days. On days when I wet my hair I wash with condirioner and detangle with my fingers - rinse then apply more conditioner, I scrunch some Redken Ringlet and clip it out of the way - finish showering then I wrap hair is a t-shirt- dont laugh! it TOTALLY changed the way I see my hair!
after letting the t-shirt absorb x tra product and water I just let it down and ignore it. - air dry EVERYTIME for me.
that night I put a little oil in - jojoba usually and put it up in loooooose pony tail
next day i take it down sort of fluff it into place and
I am 3b/3C/4A