A curly amongst the straight: High school

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There's just something intimidating about going to high school with curly hair.
I've been in a hate relationship with my hair since FOREVER. In elementary school, I was the one with brushed, puffy wavy hair because I didn't know I had curls. My mom would iron my hair on the ironing board because I didn't even know what a straightener was. I didn't know what to do with my hair, so i kept it in the worst looking ponytail until middle school. In middle school, I straightened my bangs and then begged my mom to give me a relaxing treatment. It only worked the first 3 days, and after I washed, I straightened my hair every day to get it as straight as the day in the salon when I first got the treatment. I straightened it for about 5 years, and would be so EMBARRASSED to go out in curly hair; I didn't know how to manage it.
I tried stretching my curls, brushing then making a bun, curl ironing the top part of my head, braiding it, and NOTHING worked. It wasn't until this summer how I searched for my fellow curlies amongst the valleys of YouTube. OMG, it helped SO much! But then I realized that those girls weren't making crazy routines like me. They would wash, scrunch, apply product, dry. Simple.
So I tried it out for myself. I bought myself some shine shampoo and conditioner after my grandma insulted my hair and its lack of shine. Got myself some good mousse, hairspray, shine spray, and a scrunchie. I washed, dried, scrunched, applied products and air dried. And for the first time in 17 years, my hair is born.
I'm not ashamed of it! In fact, I posted a picture of it on Instagram and it's my most liked pictured

Now here's the thing: I finally LOVE my hair. I love that it's wild and exotic, and voluminous and 2c3a spontaneously wavy curly all in one. My boyfriend loves it, he goes CRAZY for it. However, I'm going to my senior year of high school, and i go to the most PRETENTIOUS high school EVER. It's a private school, where everyone has the nicest car, their molecules were formed so perfectly that everyone is beautiful, everyone has the straightest longest hair that they can fit together in a tiny clip, and everyone looks the same; skinny, with expensive shoes, and tiny clothes and UGH. It all just gets to their head.
I joined naturallycurly because it gave me confidence. I didn't feel alone in a sea of stringy hair. I even watched Sex and the City to feel better about my hair by seeing Carrie's. It's just that I have noticed that people treat me different in school depending on my hair. When I straighten it, I feel included and equal. I mean, about 95% of my school is caucasian and rich and spoiled and superficial. But the few days I wore my hair curly, I felt like the black sheep and geeky.


So I'm reaching out to the CurlTalk and to my inner confidence. I'm hoping that on my senior year, I don't give a crap about how people perceive me, or how many weird looks I get. I am myself, I love my hair, and I finally found myself this summer. I wanna be that rebellious girl in my school who looks exotic, and gives confidence to the other curlies who are hiding behind their straightener. I guess I found the answer myself; maybe I need to be the revolutionizer and pump it up.. Literally
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There's just something intimidating about going to high school with curly hair.
I've been in a hate relationship with my hair since FOREVER. In elementary school, I was the one with brushed, puffy wavy hair because I didn't know I had curls. My mom would iron my hair on the ironing board because I didn't even know what a straightener was. I didn't know what to do with my hair, so i kept it in the worst looking ponytail until middle school. In middle school, I straightened my bangs and then begged my mom to give me a relaxing treatment. It only worked the first 3 days, and after I washed, I straightened my hair every day to get it as straight as the day in the salon when I first got the treatment. I straightened it for about 5 years, and would be so EMBARRASSED to go out in curly hair; I didn't know how to manage it.
I tried stretching my curls, brushing then making a bun, curl ironing the top part of my head, braiding it, and NOTHING worked. It wasn't until this summer how I searched for my fellow curlies amongst the valleys of YouTube. OMG, it helped SO much! But then I realized that those girls weren't making crazy routines like me. They would wash, scrunch, apply product, dry. Simple.
So I tried it out for myself. I bought myself some shine shampoo and conditioner after my grandma insulted my hair and its lack of shine. Got myself some good mousse, hairspray, shine spray, and a scrunchie. I washed, dried, scrunched, applied products and air dried. And for the first time in 17 years, my hair is born.
I'm not ashamed of it! In fact, I posted a picture of it on Instagram and it's my most liked pictured

Now here's the thing: I finally LOVE my hair. I love that it's wild and exotic, and voluminous and 2c3a spontaneously wavy curly all in one. My boyfriend loves it, he goes CRAZY for it. However, I'm going to my senior year of high school, and i go to the most PRETENTIOUS high school EVER. It's a private school, where everyone has the nicest car, their molecules were formed so perfectly that everyone is beautiful, everyone has the straightest longest hair that they can fit together in a tiny clip, and everyone looks the same; skinny, with expensive shoes, and tiny clothes and UGH. It all just gets to their head.
I joined naturallycurly because it gave me confidence. I didn't feel alone in a sea of stringy hair. I even watched Sex and the City to feel better about my hair by seeing Carrie's. It's just that I have noticed that people treat me different in school depending on my hair. When I straighten it, I feel included and equal. I mean, about 95% of my school is caucasian and rich and spoiled and superficial. But the few days I wore my hair curly, I felt like the black sheep and geeky.


So I'm reaching out to the CurlTalk and to my inner confidence. I'm hoping that on my senior year, I don't give a crap about how people perceive me, or how many weird looks I get. I am myself, I love my hair, and I finally found myself this summer. I wanna be that rebellious girl in my school who looks exotic, and gives confidence to the other curlies who are hiding behind their straightener. I guess I found the answer myself; maybe I need to be the revolutionizer and pump it up.. Literally
Originally Posted by Ana021
Cool story. Same here. I am 16 and in my school is full of spoiled straight haired people. I never straighten it because I like it and I am afraid of damaging it. But its true I feel like a black sheep and its even worse because I am a guy . So guys tell me that long curly hair is for girls and that I have to straighten it or cut it and girls tell me that they are jealous of my hair . My hair used to look really puffy and triangle shaped but because of length and cg method it looks perfect.I think that you should wear your hair naturally and down let people bring you down most of them are just jealous of you BTW I don't have really tight curls just 3a but really thick
Curl Pattern: 3a mixed with 3b
Porosity:Low
Density:Medium to High
Width:Medium-Coarse
Length:Medium

CG Method since 25/6/13

Want to reach terminal length !
Being a high school curlie is really tough in my school as well, but you just gotta stick through it. It's awesome being different in a sea of people afraid to be who they are (and not just hair wise too). You go Glen Coco!
Being a high school curlie is really tough in my school as well, but you just gotta stick through it. It's awesome being different in a sea of people afraid to be who they are (and not just hair wise too). You go Glen Coco!
Originally Posted by awkwardcurly
I completely agree ^^
Curl Pattern: 3a mixed with 3b
Porosity:Low
Density:Medium to High
Width:Medium-Coarse
Length:Medium

CG Method since 25/6/13

Want to reach terminal length !
Same here!! Im in highschool..but i love being different and unique i dnt wnt to be like any other teens who just tries to look the same )) this site help me a lot too!! And i watched A LOT of cg videos on youtube to finally wearing it curly
Aww you guys are perfect! I love this site, I've been on here for two days and I can already feel the "oneness" of this community And thank you David! It's great to see things from a different perspective, and i DEFF do not think you should cut your curls.. You can be like the next Fabio hahaha trust me, In a couple of years, some women will find that SOOOO attracive and you don't have to worry about balding anytime soon Love you all
Aww you guys are perfect! I love this site, I've been on here for two days and I can already feel the "oneness" of this community And thank you David! It's great to see things from a different perspective, and i DEFF do not think you should cut your curls.. You can be like the next Fabio hahaha trust me, In a couple of years, some women will find that SOOOO attracive and you don't have to worry about balding anytime soon Love you all
Originally Posted by Ana021
Thank you ! My hair is so thick that i dont think i will have balding problems xD Welcome to the site !
Curl Pattern: 3a mixed with 3b
Porosity:Low
Density:Medium to High
Width:Medium-Coarse
Length:Medium

CG Method since 25/6/13

Want to reach terminal length !
Btw, if u guys have Instagram, I am @Ana021 there u can see pics of my curls
Oh my gosh. I swear I was like you in highschool. I had been straightening my hair all throughout jr. High and freshmen year we had swimming for p.e. well that's when everyone thought I got a perm because I couldn't hide the curls and I soon found this website again. I did get lots of haters though, like why don't you straighten your hair? However, over the years I have had strangers come up to me or compliment my hair and those are the Best compliments ever! Just work it girl I'm hear for you. Your gonna wish you'd rocked the natural hair sooner cause I know I do.

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Sometimes I get carried away and manipulate him too much. He tells me he's fine on his own but I never listen. I wash him less now and all in all we're happy.
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BC #2: 10/2/13
2c/3a/3b w/ loose botticellis, whirls and curls,
Coarse, High Porosity;CG since 2007
You know what's also funny? Today I was in line at the grocery store and opera's magazine had her rocking a HUGE fro. I freaking loved it!! I also work at a tutoring center and these siblings there (and about a handful of the kids overall) have gorgeous biracial hair. I absolutely adore it and some of my coworkers despise it. To each their own. I know there are days where I wish my hair were even curlier and crazier or that I was biracial haha. And I know that me a few hears back would think I was crazy. Strength in numbers girl!

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Sometimes I get carried away and manipulate him too much. He tells me he's fine on his own but I never listen. I wash him less now and all in all we're happy.
Beast's Favorite Things:
Shea Moisture
Kinky Curly
Curl Junkie
Natural Stuff
BC #2: 10/2/13
2c/3a/3b w/ loose botticellis, whirls and curls,
Coarse, High Porosity;CG since 2007
LOL ... BCB. When I first saw your avatar - if that's you - my knee-jerk reaction was that you "look" biracial Yes, it was a big assumption because we can look any old way. It was just a first reaction I couldn't quite help because you remind me of so many I've seen (your hair included)

Although we biracials can have any type of hair, to me it appears a rather large percentage of us have something in the 3a to 3c range. Then again, there are some who have 4a or higher. Fewer, in my experience, have something solidly in the 2 range or lower.
3b/c?

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I started relaxing my hair when I went to high school and mostly for the same reason lol but as I got older I started not to care what and how other people would think. I started transitioning and was curly before I even graduated
You know what's also funny? Today I was in line at the grocery store and opera's magazine had her rocking a HUGE fro. I freaking loved it!! I also work at a tutoring center and these siblings there (and about a handful of the kids overall) have gorgeous biracial hair. I absolutely adore it and some of my coworkers despise it. To each their own. I know there are days where I wish my hair were even curlier and crazier or that I was biracial haha. And I know that me a few hears back would think I was crazy. Strength in numbers girl!

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Originally Posted by bringingcurliesback?
Then they are in the wrong career! Being judgemental about their charges appearance is hugely unprofessional, and very difficult to completely disguise from the kids. Wow.
2a-2c, medium texture, porous/ colour treated. Three years CG. Past bra strap length heading for waist.

CO-wash: Inecto coconut/ Elvive Volume Collagen
Treatments: Komaza Care Matani, coconut/ sweet almond/ fractionated coconut oils, Hairveda Sitrinillah
Leave in: Fructis Sleek & Shine (old), Gliss Ultimate Volume, various Elvive
Styler: Umberto Giannini jelly, Au Naturale styling gelee
Flour sack towel, pixie diffuse or air dry.
Experimenting with: benign neglect
OK I'll play devil's advocate. If someone somewhere "despises" a certain hair type, well, that's just how that person feels and there's nothing innately bad about her/him stating that opinion all year round IMO ... As long as that sentiment isn't expressed in the face of people who have that particular type of hair (because that's just a tacky maneuver LOL) ... and as long as their opinion isn't a catalyst for discriminatory behavior.

Otherwise, I personally, as someone with stereotypical 3a/3b/3c "biracial hair", could care less about people who for whatever reason don't care for the way it looks. I think the closer you get to the point where you've truly accepted your hair and enjoy the Hell out of it, those comments and the people who make them cease to cause emotional impact with their words.

I think some of the "veteran" curlies at this site know what I'm saying.
3b/c?

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Otherwise, I personally, as someone with stereotypical 3a/3b/3c "biracial hair", could care less about people who for whatever reason don't care for the way it looks. I think the closer you get to the point where you've truly accepted your hair and enjoy the Hell out of it, those comments and the people who make them cease to cause emotional impact with their words.

I think some of the "veteran" curlies at this site know what I'm saying.
Originally Posted by Korkscrew
I think it's funny that the majority of people with what they call biracial hair (like my older sister) are in the 3a-3c range and I'm just here like

naps, naps everywhere XD it's like it didn't get the memo. I'm only a quarter black (I think) XD It's kinda amusing. I sometimes think if I straitened my hair (which I will never do because I'm lazy as fudge) people wold never even guess- I have white skin and blue eyes XD

I've never actually seen/heard anyone hate on my hair, they usually all love it. and want to touch it and tell my I should wear it bigger (I would but it would have been embarrassing if people couldn't see the board cause of it >.>

Sometimes people say things like "You should do something with your hair" not realizing that I have done something with my hair...But that's just because they are ignorant and don't really know better. I definitely felt like the odd one out in school because I was the ONLY one- in my entire highschool- who wore my hair nappy and not relaxed- but now that I'm out and free (going to college in a few days XD) I don't feel so confined XD

And the pic down there was a day when my hair did what I told it and curled XD Doesn't do that very often unfortunately.
"I will not stop. For mad I may be, but I
will never be convenient."
~Revolution by Jennifer Donnelly
I am going into my sophomore year of high school and I big chopped after five months of transitioning. 95% of my school is white and the other curlies have relaxers or weave. People always give me weird looks and make fun of me and I am so happy I am not alone in this. We just have to embrace our beauty that God gave us because look how unique our hair is. Even if society says that straighter is greater that doesn't mean it is true.
I totally forgot to say about how I chopped all my hair off in tenth grade...yeah, I did that. It was an inch long and only got two comments on it. A very underwhelming experience.

Thanks for reminding me Imani XD

I like that name by the way.
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"I will not stop. For mad I may be, but I
will never be convenient."
~Revolution by Jennifer Donnelly

I think it's funny that the majority of people with what they call biracial hair (like my older sister) are in the 3a-3c range and I'm just here like

naps, naps everywhere XD it's like it didn't get the memo. I'm only a quarter black (I think) XD It's kinda amusing. I sometimes think if I straitened my hair (which I will never do because I'm lazy as fudge) people wold never even guess- I have white skin and blue eyes XD

I've never actually seen/heard anyone hate on my hair, they usually all love it. and want to touch it and tell my I should wear it bigger (I would but it would have been embarrassing if people couldn't see the board cause of it >.>

Sometimes people say things like "You should do something with your hair" not realizing that I have done something with my hair...But that's just because they are ignorant and don't really know better. I definitely felt like the odd one out in school because I was the ONLY one- in my entire highschool- who wore my hair nappy and not relaxed- but now that I'm out and free (going to college in a few days XD) I don't feel so confined XD

And the pic down there was a day when my hair did what I told it and curled XD Doesn't do that very often unfortunately.
Originally Posted by ultracurlz
How great that you haven't had to deal with a lot of knuckle-headed comments about your hair ... I don't think any of us curlies deserves that.

Your icon pic is very cute! Based on your pic - your features, not your hair - I would never have guessed you were 1/4 black! You look more 50/50 to me I can't quite tell what your hair looks like, but I love that you're allowing it to do it's thing, and I bet it looks terrific
3b/c?

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There's just something intimidating about going to high school with curly hair.
I've been in a hate relationship with my hair since FOREVER. In elementary school, I was the one with brushed, puffy wavy hair because I didn't know I had curls. My mom would iron my hair on the ironing board because I didn't even know what a straightener was. I didn't know what to do with my hair, so i kept it in the worst looking ponytail until middle school. In middle school, I straightened my bangs and then begged my mom to give me a relaxing treatment. It only worked the first 3 days, and after I washed, I straightened my hair every day to get it as straight as the day in the salon when I first got the treatment. I straightened it for about 5 years, and would be so EMBARRASSED to go out in curly hair; I didn't know how to manage it.
I tried stretching my curls, brushing then making a bun, curl ironing the top part of my head, braiding it, and NOTHING worked. It wasn't until this summer how I searched for my fellow curlies amongst the valleys of YouTube. OMG, it helped SO much! But then I realized that those girls weren't making crazy routines like me. They would wash, scrunch, apply product, dry. Simple.
So I tried it out for myself. I bought myself some shine shampoo and conditioner after my grandma insulted my hair and its lack of shine. Got myself some good mousse, hairspray, shine spray, and a scrunchie. I washed, dried, scrunched, applied products and air dried. And for the first time in 17 years, my hair is born.
I'm not ashamed of it! In fact, I posted a picture of it on Instagram and it's my most liked pictured

Now here's the thing: I finally LOVE my hair. I love that it's wild and exotic, and voluminous and 2c3a spontaneously wavy curly all in one. My boyfriend loves it, he goes CRAZY for it. However, I'm going to my senior year of high school, and i go to the most PRETENTIOUS high school EVER. It's a private school, where everyone has the nicest car, their molecules were formed so perfectly that everyone is beautiful, everyone has the straightest longest hair that they can fit together in a tiny clip, and everyone looks the same; skinny, with expensive shoes, and tiny clothes and UGH. It all just gets to their head.
I joined naturallycurly because it gave me confidence. I didn't feel alone in a sea of stringy hair. I even watched Sex and the City to feel better about my hair by seeing Carrie's. It's just that I have noticed that people treat me different in school depending on my hair. When I straighten it, I feel included and equal. I mean, about 95% of my school is caucasian and rich and spoiled and superficial. But the few days I wore my hair curly, I felt like the black sheep and geeky.


So I'm reaching out to the CurlTalk and to my inner confidence. I'm hoping that on my senior year, I don't give a crap about how people perceive me, or how many weird looks I get. I am myself, I love my hair, and I finally found myself this summer. I wanna be that rebellious girl in my school who looks exotic, and gives confidence to the other curlies who are hiding behind their straightener. I guess I found the answer myself; maybe I need to be the revolutionizer and pump it up.. Literally
Originally Posted by Ana021
Love the attitude girl! I've been natural all my life and I got bullied for it in elementary school and middle school because I hated my hair! Because I was so self conscious people reacted and made it worse. Now I'm going to be a senior too in a pretentious school also. I have learned to love and care for my hair and it makes all the difference! People can tell that I don't care about their negative comments so either they don't say anything or they will complement me. People love to touch my hair and think its the coolest thing because its not mainstream. That can get annoying but ill take it over bullying any day. Just rock it out girl! And plus, after high school, no one really cares about how you style your hair. My cousin with super curly hair wore hers curly all through college and did crazy things to it, and I mean crazy things like adding random dreads, dying it, you name it, she did it. No one at the college she went to cared what she did. After high school there is no "expected look" so I personally can't wait for that!
Love my auburn 3b/3c curls!! Favorite products are Treseme Naturals conditioner and DevaCare ArcAngel(<---miracle for definition!) I really just want to GROW MY HAIR OUT!! It's not really working...

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