Bullying after big chop?

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Next week i'm going to be starting my junior year and I want to go natural. Since my hair is severely heat damaged it won't curl anymore. I would be fine getting a short haircut as my big chop but i have to get a buzz cut. I'm honestly scared that people are going to make fun of me. I go to a predominately white school and natural hair or a 16 yr old girl getting a buzz cut is not going to be accepted. Even the small population of African American girls mostly perm and flat iron their hair so i'm not going to get much support for doing this. Was anybody bullied after doing their big chop? How should I prepare for this?
I recently started senior and I too had my big chop. I got some compliments but others were really rude. Calling me a boy and a lesbian. Probably because I dress tomboyish lol. What you should be prepared for though is a lot of staring. And rumors. Having short hair is amazing though. It makes you feel unique in comparison to all the straight haired clones. If your hair grows fast I'd say it should be about pixie length by next month. You can always wear pretty earrings or nice headbands. The point is to not feel intimidated. Once you feel intimidated they'll eat you up. Be confident about your new look. Embrace it and don't let anyone make you feel bad about your hair. Just because your hair might be different to the rest doesn't mean you should be bullied. People should never judge a book by its cover. So walk into junior year feeling proud and beautiful. Good luck class of 2015! xx.
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But really though, just tell yourself that other peoples options don't matter. It's hair, It'll grow back. The big chop is the easiest way to get healthy hair. If they care enough they will be supportive and if they don't then ignore them. It's your head and you can do what you want. Rock it Be mentally prepared to brush it off.

It might go over well, you never know. I did the same thing when I was sixteen, only my hair was about an inch long all over. I only go two comments on my hair I think. One from a teacher and one from a friend. I was actually very disappointed cause I'd thought up all these sassy comebacks XD I went to a mostly white school too. There were only 2 girls with hair similar mine and they relaxed theirs. I just did the best with what I had and now it's long and healthy and I look soooo much better than when I had strait hair or when I was trying to transition.

Good Luck!

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Ooh, reminds me of a girl i the grade below me. Last year she buzzed her head. She was white and had strait blonde/brown hair I think. She rocked it XD
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Next week i'm going to be starting my junior year and I want to go natural. Since my hair is severely heat damaged it won't curl anymore. I would be fine getting a short haircut as my big chop but i have to get a buzz cut. I'm honestly scared that people are going to make fun of me. I go to a predominately white school and natural hair or a 16 yr old girl getting a buzz cut is not going to be accepted. Even the small population of African American girls mostly perm and flat iron their hair so i'm not going to get much support for doing this. Was anybody bullied after doing their big chop? How should I prepare for this?
Originally Posted by Ilovelax27
Welcome! If you are bullied at all - especially if there is a racial or homophobic component - you must speak to senior members of school staff and they must take action. Will your friends back you?

Just rock it - hair accessories, make up, maybe big earrings, head high and a half/ knowing smile (fake if needs be) that shows you know something everyone else does not. If people stare, catch their eye and smile! Think of it like a job interview or being on stage, you are on show and it's often the attitude that impresses.

The natural movement is a huge trend, so maybe you are just ahead of the curve in your school! There are celebrities embracing their curls now from Solange Knowles (she had a BIG chop) to Rihanna, even Oprah wore a MAHOOSIVE afro on the cover of her latest magazine.

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I Bc two months ago but I transitioned for three months actually but I have an afro and all the african americans or part african americans flat iron or weave it out. I am going into my sophomore year and I am super nervous but I know that my hair is health and the only opinion about me that matters is God's. When I go out, some people give me weird looks but I know it's because they aren't used to seeing people kinky curly hair these days. Recently I went to the store and I saw about five girls rocking a fro just like me and it gave me such a confidence boost. Just remember that God says you are wonderfully and beautifully made.
I decided to go natural and I'm a mixed girl surrounded by many permed friends and people. I did the big chop over the summer with my best friend there who is white. She loves my hair better short and at school people seemed to love the shorter hair than my shoulder length split ends. I realized that there were girls in my school that were also going natural. It made me feel better amongst the crowd. Plus it seems my decision to go natural has had a chain effect amongst my permed friends. Just walk with your head high and be confident about what you have done.
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I big chopped my sophomore year but I live in a city where 98% of my population is black. I honestly didn't care about what people would say. To e honest with you it was the black girls who always had something to say about why I would cut my hair and that I needed a perm again. But the white kids in my classes always compliment my hair. The black girls did too but some were just rude but over all I didn't get a lot of rude comments it was just about 3. Don't worry about them you will be fine
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I big chopped my senior year of high school. I did it in the beginning if the year. I was really nervous because I always had long hair. And I got really positive feed back, a lot of people actually liked it and I didn't care what people thought. (If they didn't) You just have to go in there confident. I love the thought of big chopping because it shows that US that do it are not afraid of change bc we know at the end, it's only temporary.


I did get called names at my work place but I was SO confident in myself it didn't matter. Kids are gonna be kids at the end of the day so if your comfortable In your skin the stares or the talking wont matter. Good always outweighs the bad

Ps: your hair will grow sooo fast
Sincerly yours,

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Im in my junior year I came in with a big chop no one judged me they embraced me. If you have confidence you shouldnt have to really worry about people talking about you or not because natural girls always have haters, especially from relaxed girls. But just love it and everyone else will too.
I don't think you should worry about bullying to much. Yeah people will say stuff but I think you should just ignore them because they're just jealous they couldn't bite the bullet and do something brave like that. I went natural the summer before senior year began and people embraced it and were pretty curious anyone who didn't or had ill comments kept it to themselves. I think if you just wear pretty earrings like studs and pearls nothing to over the top you should be fine. Good luck!!!
Also I'm not really sure if people acknowledged the fact that you have to get a buzz cut, but I think you should look at celebrities with them for inspiration!!!
I really like the idea of if you catch someone starring, smile at them... It kind of changes the whole mood from whatever it was they were thinking about you..Plus it'll help your self confidence because its no longer, 'do they like my hair' it becomes 'do I like these people'... I'll definitely have to try it..

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There are a lot of great ways to rock short hair! When I first did a BC everyone flipped out, but then the compliments started pouring in because I took it as an opportunity to:

-wear huge earrings and show off my neck
-be more creative with my makeup and styling
-go super girly with my clothes for visual contrast

Just look at all the fabulous celebs and fashion icons who wore short hair and looked so much more stylish and avant garde then the long haired masses, and remember to never apologize for your hair, it is yours
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I did several "big chops" during high school. I had always worn my hair relatively short so most of the time, it didn't matter. my sophomore year, I had to buzz my hair though. The only negative comments came from 2 people, one boy on my swim team and one girl who had been after me since 6th grade. Here's my list of pro's and cons I made:


Pro:
1.my hair will not be "fried" as my older brother "lovingly" pointed out.
2.I can wear hats because my massive amounts of hair isn't pushing it off my head.
3.a hot/warm season is coming and my head and neck won't be as hot as the other girls'.
4.it's swim season, I don't have to buy a new swim cap every other week because my hair isn't to big anymore therefor, it's not breaking them!
5.I don't need to wear a swim cap during swim practice! (omg, the water feels so great on your head with a buzz cut!)
6.people will believe me now when I tell them I'm blonde (my hair is so thick that it looks darker, but it ranges from light blonde to dark blonde. dirty blonde?)
7.I always loved rubbing the heads of my friends with buzz cuts, now I have my own to rub.
8.people stop asking about my race.
9.if i wake up late for school i don't have to figure out the mess on my head.
10.the hairs are never a mess.


cons:
1. it's winter and my hair isn't covering my ears. (see #2 for problem resolution )
2.i might be confused for a boy
3.kids might tease me


then the end all be all for me: i have to do it anyways, so why not do it now?


i know my pros and cons definitely won't match up with yours, but try out a list. if the pros outweigh the cons, go for it. don't be too scared of your peers, be confident in YOURSELF. they can call you whatever they like, if it isn't true, don't let it bother you. one of my co-workers calls me gay on a near daily basis (he and i have a love/hate relationship, some days we love each other, others we're at each others throats), but i am confident in my sexuality, so i don't let it bother me.
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