My first thought is that it sounds like you might have a lot of product weight going on.
Each curl is like phone cord (you know those kinds that are all spiraled and springy?) hair products can lay on the surface/ add weight to hair and do the equivalent of pulling on the curl and making it appear wavier instead of curlier.
My recommendation, try letting your hair dry without any product in it to see what it wants to do on its own when dry. You will see if it's dry and needs moisture, if your curls spring back ,etc.
An option to look into is trying some oils in your styling. A little goes a long way, and they are much lighter in your hair. Though they usually need to be sealed in! (look up the LOC method on the website here. I do an altered version with Gel instead of creme, so LOG I guess )
Knowing what you're working with can really help.
Hair Type: 3A, low porosity.
Co-wash: Deva No-poo, weekly: Lush Squeaky Green shampoo bar.
Condish:Rotating, constant- Deva One Condish, current- Say Yes to Cuc
DT: GVP Conditioning Balm
Styling: Garnier Fructis Sleek & Shine oil, sealed with DEP lv 10 gel.
I'm a total product junkie and LOVE trying new products every time!
Inspiring CG Botticelli Curls Hair envy since August 2009.