i hate having curly hair

Hate is a strong word. I don't want to get in trouble, so I formally apologize for all inconveniences made. Thanks naturallycurly.com, you really changed my outlook and saved my life! They told me to see for myself and find out what other people thought, well, here it is folks, I got the answer. Nobody thinks like me so I should probably just chill out.

Last edited by voidofidea; 04-07-2010 at 05:06 PM.
Why is my hair like this? What does it mean? How could a person with straight hair be attracted to someone with hair as curly as mine? I'm probably a 3C. It's so curly it's annoying and weird it should be straight and normal like everyone else. It's impossible to grow this crap out I wish there was a way to change my genes so I could comfortably walk outside under the sun
Originally Posted by voidofidea

Many people with "straight hair" are curlies in disguise.. normal = curly since curlies are in the majority.

But if you truly hate your curly hair (I don't think you do, but you do seem frustrated), there are ways to straighten it permanently with chemical treatments, although there's no guarantee that you'd have much hair left after you use the chemicals.
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Im not the best at giving advice, which is why I never comment on questions like this, but in my experience people are more attracted to personality than hair. Even when I never knew about this site and I rocked a brushed out afro, I wore it with CONFIDENCE...and the guys were still attracted to me because they saw that I had confidence in the way I looked, straight haired and curly haired guys of all nationalities.

Why is your preference so narrow, that you would only want people with straight hair to be attracted to you?!? And as far as you wanting your hair to be normal, it already is! More than half the people in the world have some sort of curl or wave naturally. Congrads on being part of the majority.

There is nothing we can do to fix this, because we cant fix your mentality. You can either accept that you have curly hair and learn to live with it and love it, or you can spend your whole life and countless amounts of money fighting them. But in the end they still win, because regardless of what you do, they still grow out of roots curly. But you will save much more time, money, and energy if you just accept that they are who you are. And when you finally accept that about yourself, people will be more willing to accept that about you.
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My mentality is narrow because I was born and raised among white people and culture. The middle school and high school I went to were private institutions schooling many wealthy and upper class people. All my girlfriends were of European descent, and I'm simply not attracted to "ethnic" people. I find that lighter people are more beautiful because they are lighter, the traits stick out, they are more heaven like as opposed to the darkness. The whole reason of having long hair was to distance myself as much as possible from being seen as ethnic, but in the end I'll always be an ethnic no matter how hard I try. I think I'll have to accept wearing a hat everywhere I go, but there's no escape.

I'm sorry if these ideas offend anyone, it's the culture and people I was raised in and around. I mean, just think of the words people use and the subliminal effect they have on people's outlook. Every time I get my hair trimmed the stylist will say I have thick and coarse hair. Compare the words thick and coarse to thin and fine, there is a difference in connotation no matter how subtle it is.

And why would I only want people of European descent to be attracted to me, because I am attracted to them and eventually would want my children to look like them, and the only way for that to even happen among a still small probability because of the genes I carry, is to reproduce with a carrier of those qualities. It runs deep in my head.

Last edited by voidofidea; 04-07-2010 at 10:16 AM.
My mentality is narrow because I was born and raised among white people and culture. The middle school and high school I went to were private institutions schooling many wealthy and upper class people. All my girlfriends were of European descent, and I'm simply not attracted to "ethnic" people. I find that lighter people are more beautiful because they are lighter, the traits stick out, they are more heaven like as opposed to the darkness. The whole reason of having long hair was to distance myself as much as possible from being seen as ethnic, but in the end I'll always be an ethnic no matter how hard I try. I think I'll have to accept wearing a hat everywhere I go, but there's no escape.

I'm sorry if these ideas offend anyone, it's the culture and people I was raised in and around. I mean, just think of the words people use and the subliminal effect they have on people's outlook. Every time I get my hair trimmed the stylist will say I have thick and coarse hair. Compare the words thick and coarse to thin and fine, there is a difference in connotation no matter how subtle it is.

And why would I only want people of European descent to be attracted to me, because I am attracted to them and eventually would want my children to look like them, and the only way for that to even happen among a still small probability because of the genes I carry, is to reproduce with a carrier of those qualities. It runs deep in my head.
Originally Posted by voidofidea
Hmmm...I was raised in a very white culture and don't think this way in the least. Being "ethnic" isn't bad. Just because you grew up among people who you think had straight hair (if they're European, chances are they at least have wavy hair), it doesn't mean your hair and/or self are ugly. Learn to take care of your hair, rock the curls instead of hiding in shame.

I will tell you as a white person of mostly European descent (there is some American Indian thrown in waaaayyyy back), my hair is curly and I caught WAY more guys as a curly than a straighty. Just my experience.
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Well maybe it's true that my perception of people's thoughts are incorrect. I guess I'll have to work on my thought processes AND my hair. Lol

Like I said I love all people no disrespect we're all equal
I don't know what region you are in but I was raised in the south. I also went to all-white private schools with wealthy people my whole life and I do not think that affected my view of beauty. So, I don't think you can blame your perception of beauty based on the environment you were brought up in. In fact, I never wished I looked like my counterparts, and it was never an issue that my skin color was brown. I had tons of friends of all races and even dated outside of my race.

Your perception of beauty should come from within, however, that's easier said than done. At this point, I think hair is the least of your concern. It seems like you have deeper psychological issues than hair. You can permanently straighten your hair as another person has mentioned, but this doesn't seem like a reasonable solution to your REAL problem. I mean chemically straightening your hair is mini-issue as opposed to the bigger issue, which is your self-esteem. I don't know how to tell you to work on this, but I think it's really important that you resolve this inner issue.
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Your perception of beauty should come from within, however, that's easier said than done. At this point, I think hair is the least of your concern. It seems like you have deeper psychological issues than hair. You can permanently straighten your hair as another person has mentioned, but this doesn't seem like a reasonable solution to your REAL problem. I mean chemically straightening your hair is mini-issue as opposed to the bigger issue, which is your self-esteem. I don't know how to tell you to work on this, but I think it's really important that you resolve this inner issue.
Originally Posted by vangrey
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When I was younger, I hated my hair too. I didn't know what to do with it. It was a big frizzy mess. It really was. I tried and tried and nothing made it look good.
I finally got to the point that I just gave up caring. I concentrated on makeup.
Then, I started slowly but surely learning different techniques that improved the look of my hair. My hairstylist taught me how to have smoother curls. Then I found products that I liked. I finally went on this site and found out some more techniques that has helped me tremendously.
Now, I love my curly hair. I would not have straight hair if someone paid me. Well, I guess it depends how much they pay me. LOL
Stick around and you'll find some techniques and products that will work for you. Ask questions, read, and then read some more. Good luck!

Now, onto your self-hatred. Yep, that's what I call it. All colors, all hairtypes, are beautiful. There are many straight haired people who complain that their hair is soooo thin and flat. There are curly haired people that complain about frizz. There's ways to fix what you have without radically transforming it.
I have learned through the years to love the person I am. I had self-esteem issues when I was younger, as well. Through loving myself more, I have appreciated others as well. By opening up your heart to yourself, you begin to open your heart to what's around you. Am I perfect? Heck no! Do I always have "good hair days"? No, but even my bad hair day isn't so bad anymore.
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I agree with all of the previous posters - but, I do understand exactly what you are saying. My hair is VERY, VERY wavy/wurly and gets really curly and frizzy when it's hot and humid out. I have always HATED my hair. So, I know where you're coming from in that respect. I have always wanted straight, long hair, and I always will. That would be my dream, but I know it's not going to happen. All of my friends had/have straight hair, so I always felt like the odd man out, so to say. As I've gotten older I guess I realize now that there's not much I can do about it except that I have tried to learn different ways to style it and wear it.

I really don't think that anyone is 100% totally happy with the hair he/she was born with. We just have to learn how to deal with it.

Good luck.
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Last edited by anniemae; 04-07-2010 at 03:09 PM.
Why is my hair like this? What does it mean? How could a person with straight hair be attracted to someone with hair as curly as mine? I'm probably a 3C. It's so curly it's annoying and weird it should be straight and normal like everyone else. It's impossible to grow it out
Originally Posted by voidofidea
What does it mean? It means you were born with hair with a certain texture and it's up to you to decide what to do with it in order to be happy with your hair--whether you go the natural enhancement route or the retexturizing route.

Hair is not something that ought to question your existence or normality. It can be vexing--like other grooming/beauty issues, but it's not life-threatening or soul-destroying. Get a grip.

And note....this is a curly hair forum, so it's chockablock with gals and guys with curly hair, I gotta tell you that part of your post is highly offensive to me.

For your info, most of the people in the US (not sure if you are in the US, but a lot of us are) have textured hair, NOT straight. The fact that you see a lot of straight hair isn't cause it's "normal", but cause folks use blow-dryers, flatirons, and keratin treatments, to name a few of the straightening processes.

Even in nations with primarily straight-haired folks--like Japan--people will retexturize hair (perm it, curl it, etc) seeking their ideal of beauty. Straight hair is not the summa of beauty. It's one of the ways hair can be lovely. WAves and curls and 'fros and braids and other styles/types can also enchance and show off one's beauty.

Heck, I've seen hot BALD guys and gals, so hair is not even a beauty necessity for some.

Like I said: get a grip, please. Find perspective.

Curly hair has been prized for ages, so it's hardly something to consider ugly or abhorrent.

Stating that curly hair is so offensive/unattractive that it would render one unmarriageable/unattractive is, quite frankly, ignorant and insulting.

So, please, quell your angst and your insensitive streak.

If what you want is help in accepting and learning to enjoy natural curls, fine. But have a thought to what you're saying IN WHAT FORUM you are saying it. This is no different than going to a gay forum and gay bashing or going to a religious forum and religion-bashing.

I am fat, biracial, and curly-haired. I've had 4 marriage proposals and am the object of the highest love for the last 28 years of a very sexy, very smart, very kind man who adores my curls. (Like me curly better than straight, anyway.) In this forum, all sorts of beautiful women (and men) are the objects of love and desire, and no one with a fully functioning brain would think they were "less than" for not having naturally straight, easy-care hair.

ALL THAT SAID: People here are a great resource (in terms of experimentation and experience) for how you can be happier with your hair. And if the only thing that will make you happy is straight hair, then you know what, there is the Brazilian Keratin treatment. That's a solution for you if you can afford it.

Better to be happy with straight hair than to question your very normality because it's not. But better yet to examine why you have such a dire view of your hair. It might have deeper roots than just hair and you're just venting. Maybe.

Whatever. I hope you find a solution for your woes and alter your views a little to enjoy the diversity of hair that blooms on this planet.
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My mentality is narrow because I was born and raised among white people and culture. The middle school and high school I went to were private institutions schooling many wealthy and upper class people. All my girlfriends were of European descent, and I'm simply not attracted to "ethnic" people. I find that lighter people are more beautiful because they are lighter, the traits stick out, they are more heaven like as opposed to the darkness. The whole reason of having long hair was to distance myself as much as possible from being seen as ethnic, but in the end I'll always be an ethnic no matter how hard I try. I think I'll have to accept wearing a hat everywhere I go, but there's no escape.

I'm sorry if these ideas offend anyone, it's the culture and people I was raised in and around. I mean, just think of the words people use and the subliminal effect they have on people's outlook. Every time I get my hair trimmed the stylist will say I have thick and coarse hair. Compare the words thick and coarse to thin and fine, there is a difference in connotation no matter how subtle it is.

And why would I only want people of European descent to be attracted to me, because I am attracted to them and eventually would want my children to look like them, and the only way for that to even happen among a still small probability because of the genes I carry, is to reproduce with a carrier of those qualities. It runs deep in my head.
Originally Posted by voidofidea
Yep. You're been shaped into, and let your self be shaped into, sadly, a beauty bigot. You obviously see that given your admission, and your next step could be (dare I say should be) to work on that. Light and darkness as metaphors do not apply to human beings in the way you apply it. It's destructive.

If anything, as a Christian, I realize the first man (and by extension woman) (and yes, this is my philosophy/cosmic belief which you may not share) were made from the earth, so it's doubtful they were white. If anything, "earthy" is a better appellation. The Christ was born a Jew, so he was not white. Does this mean anything in terms of race? Not really. God is color-blind. It has to do with the idea, for me, that the most perfect man ever was indubitably a man of color, and the second most perfect man was an "ethnic" by designation. (Ethnic technically applies to whites as well, so it's a weird way we use the word today colloquiially.)

Quite frankly, how anyone could look at someone like Aldis Hodge (the hot computer geek from LEVERAGE) or Rachel True or Tetsuji Tamayama (Asian hottie from Nana and Nana2) or Rosario Dawson or Iman and think they're not beautiful cause they're not "Euro White" looking....okay, unbelievable. Just unbelievable. What a small beauty box that is.

Your issues run far deeper than hair. I am biracial. I'm FAT. Big, big FAT. I'm Hispanic, and for a while in my childhood, I lived in a white neighborhood where the local Irish gang picked on me and my family--robbed us, berated us--and called me **** on my way to school.

So, I know about not fitting in. However, the problems now are not about them but about you, and really, that's something only YOU can work on and fix. I hope you do. Self-loathing is a bad, bad thing. I've seen more than one gal do surgical and cosmetic alterations to look white.

Now, that said--being frizzy-curly, having bad teeth, having zits, being fat, and having very poor and uneducated parents who couldn't give me socio-economic advantages (we lived in the "ghetto, but my parents and kin were amazingly loving and hardworking and kind), I nevertheless had enough spark and smarts to attract all kinds of guys. My husband is white (Irish-German-Hungarian) and tall and good-looking. He's madly in love with ME. Fat, unpretty, ethnic, biracial ME. ME. My spirit, mind and soul were enough to get me attention from black, Hispanic, and yes, Euro-white men (blue-eyed, green-eyed, hazel-eyed, blonde, etc).

If you look around the media, you'll see all sorts of ethnic women married to all sorts of men. Love sees through all that crap.

Real love isn't limited by hair or skin color. Trust me. If they love you, they love YOU, and if they can't love you as you are naturally, then really, what is that? It ain't love.

When you learn to look at yourself with kinder eyes, you'll be more lovable. Oh, yeah. And do that before you reproduce. If your kids end up looking just like you, will you loathe them? Think about it...no guarantee your kids will look like a white spouse. None at all. Learn to love you, so you will eventually not have any obstacle to loving those just like you.

And maybe browse these pics: Spin Off: Post pictures of 3c hair
I don't know how you can look at those ladies and not see beauty. All of them have your hair type--3c as you've said.
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That being said I spent most of my school years dumping chemicals into and searing my hair with all sorts of heat in an effort to have straight hair. It made it look so much worse. It literally melted at one point. I got made fun of a lot. In hindsight if I had just left well enough alone and worked with my curl instead of fighting it, my hair would have looked so much better. Would they still have made fun? Maybe. Ignorant people are, well, ignorant. But by having the beautiful healthy hair I have now, they would have looked the fool for poking fun. They would have looked stupid and jealous. Instead I was the one putting myself and my hair through the abuse. I let them win. I looked stupid and so did my hair. I was the fool. This site changed everything for me, I hope it can for you too.
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First, MirCurls, you are damned beautiful. I know. I've seen your pics.

Second, to the OP: I hate to be the bearer or bad news, but choosing a white man to have children with probably won't do much to make your children look white. I'm only 1/4 Black, since my grandfather was Black and my mother is half Black. I am married to a white man. My children, who are only 1/8 Black, look biracial. And they are GORGEOUS. Genetically, the genes for typical Caucasian looks seem to tend to not be dominant.

Something like 65% of the world's population has curly hair. How are you not normal?

I am truly sorry that you have so much hate for yourself and others like you. It is very sad. But it is something only you can change.
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I have to ask where you are from. Sadly, there are many areas of the country (and world) where your social class and worth are determined by your skin tone. I would recommend moving as far away from where you are as you can before it's too late.

My dad is Mexican and my mom is white. My mom used to send me out in the sun full of lemon juice trying to make me blond. Then one day my dad's girlfriend dyed me dark brown. How messed up is that? I hope you get out and see the world soon.
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MirCurls - Well said.

I feel really sad that people still think this way. Don't mean to be harsh, but it is very ignorant.
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Lol. Well, you all have certainly had a lot to say, most of which I've heard from my parents and family already.

Secondly, I'm not a girl, I'm a guy.

Thirdly, with regards to chemically straightening my hair and all that stuff, I wouldn't do that ever. That's a little too extreme, my "self-esteem" issues as you've called it don't run that deep. In fact, I find it hilarious you all think I have self-esteem issues because I'm pretty happy with who I am and what I've done. I just wish my hair was a different color and straight because to me the traits that are recessive and rare in this world are worth preserving, even if they have no real value like an organ does. I really believe my outlook is logical. If people didn't think straight hair was better why do so many people spend tons of $$ and time burning theirs until it becomes straight?

Also, I'm from the United States, and grew up in NYC. I spent several years living IN europe when I was 13, and I don't plan on leaving the United States for a second unless it was for vacation. As far as skin color is concerned, I'm brown but less brown than most brown people. Take a LOOKSY

And for the last time, lol, I do not hate people like me. I just think most, not all, there can be pretty people in every gene pool, aren't as pretty as the caucasian people ive met in my life.

And I already stated that i know how genetics work. I know that even if i manage to find a norweigan or finnish even female to fall in love with, the chances of the offspring being like them is extremely low, but the chance is still there. Otherwise, there is no chance and the child will have black eyes and hair like me.

Last edited by voidofidea; 04-07-2010 at 02:54 PM.
Well if it wasn't that serious then why'd you post

Why is my hair like this? What does it mean? How could a person with straight hair be attracted to someone with hair as curly as mine?
..in the first place..?


People want to be accepted for who they are, not because someone is fetishizing them for XYZ reason (looks, age, financial status, race, etc). But people with good sense don't stick around long with people who only appreciate them for external reasons..

But then you did get the attention you wanted so badly.
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Lol. Well, you all have certainly had a lot to say, most of which I've heard from my parents and family already.

Secondly, I'm not a girl, I'm a guy.

Thirdly, with regards to chemically straightening my hair and all that stuff, I wouldn't do that ever. That's a little too extreme, my "self-esteem" issues as you've called it don't run that deep. In fact, I find it hilarious you all think I have self-esteem issues because I'm pretty happy with who I am and what I've done. I just wish my hair was a different color and straight because to me the traits that are recessive and rare in this world are worth preserving, even if they have no real value like an organ does. I really believe my outlook is logical. If people didn't think straight hair was better why do so many people spend tons of $$ and time burning their until it becomes straight?

Also, I'm from the United States, and grew up in NYC. I spent several years living IN europe when I was 13, and I don't plan on leaving the United States for a second unless it was for vacation. As far as skin color is concerned, I'm brown but less brown than most brown people.
Originally Posted by voidofidea
Hey, a dude! Okay, just switch the genders in my posts.

I lived in NYC for 12 years! Not the nicest hoods, though.

Okay, you say you have great self-esteem, but that doesn't come across at all. When you want to wear a hat and don't consider brown folks beautiful, that also reflects back on you. I think there's a lot between those few lines, honestly. Just talking about preserving "recessive" traits says more than you think it does. Straight hair is not going away--Asia will see to that. What you are focused on is "whiteness" implied by that hair (although lots of white folks have curly hair as all those Irish nuns who taught me as a kid can visually testify to).

Because people seek after a particular ideal of hair doesn't mean the hair is better in the most objective sense. For centuries, women burned their hair in pursuit of curls (you've seen the art, read the history books, yes?). You've been to the Met. What did the Greeks and Romans do to their hair? CURL IT. Look at the goddesses and gods and Roman matrons with their elaborate coifs.

Because Greeks or Florentines dyed their hair blonde or used arsenic and lead to make themselves paler doesn't mean those are logical ideals. It's like saying only large-breasted women should reproduce cause men like boobies that are huge. Or saying only men with enormous members should pass on their genes. Or only people with straight, white teeth are worhty. Or only men who are taller than 6 feet are attractive. Or only women with size 7 or smaller feet are worth having their DNA preserved.

It's crazy. The limitations we put on stuff is crazy. Sometimes what we designate as beautiful is obsessive and nuts. Normally, what is rarer is more prized, hence the whiter and smaller or taller or thinner or fatter (depending on the period and famine levels) are valued. But if we stop to logically consider, if we have the historical perspective and ability to look beyond preset notions and cliched metaphors, we can see how silly it is to say, "Red hair is better than brown hair. C cups are better than B cups. Tiny feet are better than big feet. Round eyes are better than long eyes.""

If what you value is white skin or straight hair, then what you should do is not reproduce and encourage whites to marry whites, straight-hair to marry straight hair. That's what that sort of thinking logically leads to.

If you court women of Euro-white DNA, then you are the one belying your intention to preserve their characteristics. Thought and action are incongruent.

It only leads to that metaphorical darkness, thinking that way.
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