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Old 07-24-2010, 08:00 PM   #1
 
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Unhappy I wish I could liberate all Indian Curly haired girls

So I'm from South India. I know India has this ideal of girls with thick long smooth beautiful hair...and idk where that bs came out of, but that's not true in south India anyway

I have 3b hair but my mom would brush it out over and over again and put tons of coconut oil into it and put it in super tight pony tail or french braid

This is what most Indian girls do. My mom from examining her hair I think is a 4a or 4b and she does pretty much the same. The moment I found the curly girl book, all my troubles were gone

Now I see other Indian girls and they're always so jealous of my hair and want to know how to get it. I can see them lose interest and back away with disgust and disbelief the moment I start though. Not even my mom listens to me. My sister is the only convert.

So instead they're doomed to a life of straightening their hair and combing it out and wearing it in braids with a permanent halo of frizz around it.

I feel so much prettier with my curly hair I wish I could make them feel the same. I know most of them have insecurities do to their hair.
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Old 07-24-2010, 08:09 PM   #2
 
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So I'm from South India. I know India has this ideal of girls with thick long smooth beautiful hair...and idk where that bs came out of, but that's not true in south India anyway

I have 3b hair but my mom would brush it out over and over again and put tons of coconut oil into it and put it in super tight pony tail or french braid

This is what most Indian girls do. My mom from examining her hair I think is a 4a or 4b and she does pretty much the same. The moment I found the curly girl book, all my troubles were gone

Now I see other Indian girls and they're always so jealous of my hair and want to know how to get it. I can see them lose interest and back away with disgust and disbelief the moment I start though. Not even my mom listens to me. My sister is the only convert.

So instead they're doomed to a life of straightening their hair and combing it out and wearing it in braids with a permanent halo of frizz around it.

I feel so much prettier with my curly hair I wish I could make them feel the same. I know most of them have insecurities do to their hair.
Hm. Well, I'm glad you helped start the family liberation. I'm doing my best, and already am getting some ripple effects. I don't go to any sibling gathering without taking a tote with curly hair stuff just in case I can get my hands in there and scrunch them up.

I will say that after watching Chris Rock's GOOD HAIR, and how those Indian gals sacrifice their locks so Western people can have weaves and what-not, well, it's just so weird to me. I don't want my head full of someone else's hair unless I'm, like, bald from illness or chemotherapy or something.

I do like Bollywood flicks, and what I see is a lot of amazing, thick dark hair--but straight to wavyish, like it's been blown or smoothed in some way. And when I go to the Indian stores to get some nan or rasmallai or raita or a can of garam massala or somesuch, those ladies have the long, long ponytail of straight dark hair (though it looks coarser on some than others). Even the Hindi ladies my hubby works with have straight hair. So, I think the idea comes from, well, watching Aishwarya and Sharukh and Deepika and Rani and others who at most have some body-waviness (generally) and not all out head of curls (with exceptions, of course).

Clearly, there's a lot of BODY...cause one of my faves, Madhuri sure can wave beautifully....man, I'd switch faces with HER! And bodies, for that matter.

So, yeah...it's what we see, we non-Indians who once or still may lust after that idea Bollywood hair.
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hey m too from india , north & not south .. but my hair is typical south indian type (rest all in family got damn silky black long hair ) so am not left with many option but tie my hair in braids when they wet ..oil all time and life seems so terrible
i have tried many a salons but they all suggest going for straightening .. i did that once and hair looked fab
but thats not a permanent solution ... plz plz plz suggest me what to do ???
india has a dearth of salons for my kind of hair
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hey m too from india , north & not south .. but my hair is typical south indian type (rest all in family got damn silky black long hair ) so am not left with many option but tie my hair in braids when they wet ..oil all time and life seems so terrible
i have tried many a salons but they all suggest going for straightening .. i did that once and hair looked fab
but thats not a permanent solution ... plz plz plz suggest me what to do ???
india has a dearth of salons for my kind of hair
Have you ever been to a store called Health and Glow? It's a chain that I know I've seen in south India and a few in north India too. They sell lots of haircare products, including brands like Garnier and Loreal. You might be able to find gel, conditioner, etc. at that shop though it tends to be a bit costly. HTH
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Old 07-08-2011, 08:20 AM   #5
 
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What a beautiful sentiment to want to help other Indian women. I have admired such dark, long hair since I was a kid.
I can tell you that even when you talk to people about how you make your hair curly and they seem disgusted; they certainly did hear what you said. They will remember. They may try it themselves someday. You did your best to try to free them from braids and pretending their hair is something else. Culture is difficult to overcome. You are a role model for how beautiful curly hair can be and so is your sister and that makes more of a difference than you might think.
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What a beautiful sentiment to want to help other Indian women.
I agree! And what an amazing community we have that we can reach out thru the wires and do whatever we can, even from the other side of the world!

Love you guys!
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Old 07-08-2011, 05:46 PM   #7
 
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Awesome! I agree with IAgirl, they did hear you and may even convert someday.

My mom's friend's daughter was one of those who tried to convince me to give up relaxers years ago. I didn't listen at the time, but I eventually gave them up. My sister did too. We had to deal with a lot of negativity from our family members, but there were also a lot of people like us who admired us for embracing our hair.

I truly hope you can influence some people with your beautiful hair.
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hey girl.. loved your post.. and have a question for you (not sure though if you'd be able to give me an answer..

I have 3A-B type hair and I live in Bangalore would you by any chance know a good stylist/salon for a haircut??
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Old 09-14-2012, 11:03 AM   #9
 
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How did I miss this post! Sigh!!

Yes, it is very difficult to get over the culture. Also in India we dont get as many naturals products as here in USA. You have to order online and ofcourse it ends up pretty expensive because of shipping. As far I know majority of heads are curly-wavy in south India. I was able to create some awareness with some of my Indian friends here in US, but not as much in India because of the lack of the right products.Hope that will change someday!!
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Old 09-17-2012, 07:02 AM   #10
 
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I'm from south India too and have 3b curly hair I use body shop rainforest shampoo n conditioner free of sulphates parabens and silicone!! That's the only brand I can get access too and now I'm goin CG but I can't find ang CG friendly gel or mousse please let me know if I can find any..
My 3rd day hair tends to become dry as I has a compulsion to comb my hair 😌hope I et over that
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Old 09-17-2012, 10:21 AM   #11
 
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Nirucurls, I know there is not a lot of products available, especially no Gels.Sad part. But I think we can get Flax seeds in India from groceries, you can go ahead and prepare your own Gel.

You can also order online - There is a member Curly Priya here who is from South India and follows CG. You might want to PM her for Ideas
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Old 10-14-2012, 08:30 PM   #12
 
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