Yay! Somebody like me!
For me, I've found going just about entirely shampoo-free has helped enormously - that alone really enhanced the wave in my hair. I do occasionally still use a sulfate-free shampoo on my hair , but that only amounts to about once a month - usually if I've gotten really dirty or used products that I don't normally use because of a fancy event or somesuch.
I usually use the same condish for CO washing and conditioning - Down Under Naturals. Its great, cause it's not too heavy, it's CG friendly, and its cheap. For a DT I'll either mix that with a bit of olive oil and leave it on, or use Aussie 3 Minute Miracle.
My stylers tend to change around alot, but with the weather cooling off, I've been using DevaCurl Angel
l mixed with a touch of HE Set Me Up, layered over a bit of AG Re:coil
. the Re:coil
is a curl enhancer, and I find it's great especially for underneath, where the waves tend to get weighed down. Plus, plopping tends to help me to prevent flat top and boosts volume a bit too.
Feel free to ask for a bit of clarification if you're confused about any of what I've suggested - I know I threw an awful lot at you all at once.