I prefer my hair straight

1) It looks better on me. Period.

Disagree. I think you look amazing with it curly. Very exotic and sexy. With it straight, you look very pretty, but blend in....

2) I can wear any outfit with it because I don't have to worry about balancing the outfit to my hair...when it's curly I tend to look top-heavy for some reason...

Hmm...never heard of that before. Maybe just a self conscious thing?

3) It takes me about 15-20 minutes to straighten, whereas it's a whole long process to leave it curly and have it look good (a few hours, 2 to 3)

Totally can relate. I can wear my hair straight for 5 days before I have to rewet and only one day with unpredictable curly hair. It's so frustrating.


4) I'm not one of those ppl that can just wash and go and have their hair look good

Me either. Pisses me off.


5) It's predictable - I wake up and don't really have to worry about having one side squished against my head

Yep, straightened hair is so much better in this way. I've been straightening for this very reason. I'm tired of not being able to cuddle up with my 2 year old for naps and wrestle around on the floor for being afraid of ruining my hair.

6) I can't leave the house with wet hair cause then my throat hurts the next day - when it's straight it's really dry - but if I overdry it when it's curly it gets really frizzy

So I'm in the same boat basically. But, I like the way my hiar looks curly sooo much better than straight. Unfortunately, I've gone with straightening it for the last 3 weeks now because I want to live without worrying about my stupid hair.
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Wow, butterflyPrincess, I didn't look at your pics the other day but I just did ... your curls look fabulous on you! Although I can relate to how you think you look better, now that I've seen both - the curls are definitely you!
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I have to revise all your points: #1, I cannot agree with that, period? Says who? Your straight friends? That hardly count. #2 Sounds just like a little insecurity to me. #3 Are you sure it's only 15-20 mins. to dry hair your length? #4 Hardly any of us here can boast of that either. #5 That one I totally understand, there have been times when I need to not bother with my hair for several days and straight is what I choose. #6 My nose gets stuffier so I usually partially diffuse only so I won't get frizz. Most people posting here have learned to really love their curls so even if we sympathize a little most of us would wish you'd reconsider and wholeheartedly join the "curly sisterhood" .

I too decided to look at your pics and at first when I only noticed the straight hair pics I began saying to myself "well, I don't blame her, she looks good with straight hair". But then I saw "Close Up 2" and the others and, Holy Cow!I thought you were a "knock out"! Seriously, you look so much better, sexier IMHO. But before you think I'm being too nice I must confess that I also thought you didn't deserve to have those beautiful curls since you don't really appreciate them, you can be sure many of us would love to have curls like yours.

I know you will not want to take us older curlies seriously but please consider that we know what we're talking about because back "in our day" household blow dryers, paddle brushes and flat irons had not been invented yet and, still, we did all we could to get the coveted straight hair during the late '60s and '70s. Just read a few of our stories inThe Straight Hair Years and see! Worse yet, even if we'd wanted to give our curls a try we didn't have anyone to teach us what to do nor any adequate products, but today many good books have been written about curly hair care and loads of fabulous products been especially created for us.

I understand that at your age fashion is important and that kind of shapes your opinion of what looks good on you, but fashions change and one of these days the world will get tired of straight hair and we'll be back to the '80s when anything went. In any case, your curls are the real you and by denying them you are denying a part of yourself.

A few years ago I was actually surprised when my now 22 y.o. daughter who has wavy hair and regularly blow drys straight, chose a very curly 'do for her prom. Coincidence or not, that was my first year as a true curly even though the really stick straight hair craze was at its peak. Despite that, when she and I looked at hairstyle magazines they all featured curly hair updos or half updos for prom night, and ditto for wedding hairstyles. We quickly figured out WHY... curls look more glamorous and interesting, something straight hair really can't pull off very well, it's simply too "blah" for night time and formal occasions. Even the one teacher with straight hair in beauty school said how boring straight hair was, she said color was about the only thing straight-haired people could do to break the boredom. I had to put diluted gel and 54 little curlers on my daughter's hair but it was worth it, she look fabulous and everyone agreed.

Maybe in a few years when the "tide turns" (and it will, as always) and curly hair becomes "in" once again you'll realize how truly blessed you are.
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"Converting the 'curlskeptics' one curly head at a time..." HWHC
wow thanx so much everyone for responding!!! There has been a tremendous amount of support in this thread so thanx

But just to clarify a few things...if I could choose to have curly hair or straight hair I would most definitely choose to have wavy/curly hair, it's just that I would choose to have it be shiny and non-frizzy and a bit less curly than it is now...and I would have more root volume...
and don't get me wrong I do LOVE my curly hair on a good day...it's just those bad days when I just cannot deal with it!!! Like for example the last two days my hair has been looking very good curly (mind you I did use a curling iron to fix it but sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do) but still!
And also I don't straighten my hair all the time...most of the time yes ( I know no good) but I do also leave it curly...
But I guess if I left it curly more often I would have more of a chance of having a good curl day than if I just do it a once in two weeks or something...
And I do realize that I can't just keep straightening my hair because of all the damage...
I guess maybe I just haven't found a good routine that works yet...I thought I had a few times but then it would always stop working for some reason...
So I'll try to do it curly more often and see what happens...

And one more thing...how old do you guys think I am??? Everyone keeps referring to the 'old days' and 'maybe when I'm a bit older and the trend of straight hair goes away I'll grow out of it' lol
Was 3b then I did a soft relaxer and I think I'm now a 3a
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Sorry, I did think you might be a teenager from your screen name and the fact that many of the people who post about their struggles with curly vs. straight hair are teens. Apologies for the wrong assumption! I hope you run across some products or routines that help.
i feel exactly like you do...
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I'm in a similar boat. Getting my hair to its curliest (2b verging on 3a) is more time-consuming than straightening it. And the curls are less predictable, and much easier to mess up. I go around worried about touching my hair too much, or other people touching it, or any kind of changes in the weather that might upset the balance of my hair. Plus, it requires more products. Conversely, I can let my hair mostly air-dry, then grab a brush and dryer and get it reasonably straight in 10-15 minutes--and that look will last for a longer time.

If I comb it out after the shower, and put just the basic products (for me, leave-in conditioner and firm-holding gel or mousse) then let it air-dry and do its own thing, it comes out wavy (2a-2b) but still unpredictable and often really fluffy. Plus, letting my hair air-dry completely isn't practical on most days, particularly with Chicago winters! Still, I'm liking my hair best when it most closely approximates its natural texture (funny how that works ).

These days, I let my hair air-dry a good bit, then I either grab the brush and dryer and straighten, or I grab the dryer and diffuser and scrunch it into waves. Or, I dry it almost entirely dry, then pin it up in a few twists for 10-15 minutes to encourage the waves.

I still follow basic curly hair principles--lots of moisture, less frequent shampooing, being careful about sulfates, etc.--because that makes my hair look its healthiest. And I'm trying to significantly cut down the number of products I use. My hair is shinier and healthier when I don't use so much goop.

I'm still a curly girl at heart, even though I rarely do my full-on curly routine. But I'm much happier with my hair this way. Talk to me in six months though...that could always change!
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What meegs said.

I get bored with my hair one way and it always lets me know when it won't curl any more, etc. Likewise, when it wants to curl up it lets me know too.

Hair exists to be played with. EVERY woman wants a new look once in a while. It's natural.
I never have straightened my hair, because I've always, always loved curly hair, even when I thought mine was just frizzy and not really curly, because I didn't know how to take care of it. I most be one of the few teenagers on the planet who feels that way. I have to laugh when I hear girls whose hair is naturally smooth with just the tiniest bit of wave saying that they straighten every day.

I've watched my cousin, who is half-AfricanAmerican, going through the battle: To straighten, or not to straighten? She has gone curly almost all the time now. I think that you should do whatever you're most comfortable with, but at the same time, who wants to spend their entire life fighting their natural hair? I think your curls are beautiful, but also that no one has to go one way or the other, there's always the option of a week straight, a week curly, or some other arrangement like that. Good luck!
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Proudly CG since 8/10/06 - the story of my hair!
Type: 3a/b, very thick
Length: almost BSL wet
Products: Suave coconut conditioner, coconut oil, Totally Twisted gel

Don't forget to be awesome!
I just saw your pics and while I think you look great with straight and curly hair, I prefer the curly hair. It looks great.
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IPlus I think my curly hair makes me look too young - like cutesy kiddie young. And almost like I forgot to do my hair that day or something.
Originally Posted by babywavy
hmmm maybe THAT's why i like my hair curly
baby and butterfly, the main thing is that you take care of yourself and your hair and have fun with it whether straight or curly. straight is not an option for me now, tho in my pre CG pics i have a couple of shots of my hair very straight and blond even! for me it is too much work to make it straight and for you it sounds like having it curly is more work. be proud tho, curly or straight!
Susan suburban NY
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I have to agree with people. I much prefer my hair straight. I can wash, dru and straighten with GHDs in less than half an hour. Curly hair takes longer to do. I hate having wet hair all morning, especially in winter.

The only reason I am trying to learn to love my curls is a) I'm frightened by the big pile of snapped hair that is left in front of me after I use straightening irons (they really can't be good for me!) and b) I'm trying to grow my hair long.
Butterflyprincess--I totally understand. My hair has a similar curl pattern (tighter on the bottom than the top), and it just drives me crazy. I just posted about hating my hair. I know it isn't healthy, but I like it better straight. I like being able to touch it (and let my family touch it). I like the predictability, and I like looking more "together". I am much older than you are (40), and I have a job that requires some kind of professional image (trial attorney). My hair nees to look polished every day, and I just can't get that kind of look with it curly. That said, on weekends and for vacations, I'd like to be able to do it curly, but all the curly products that really work to give me good curl formation and eliminate frizz seem to cause breakouts (yes, I've tried them all). So I guess I'm stuck with some kind of straightening.
I never have straightened my hair, because I've always, always loved curly hair, even when I thought mine was just frizzy and not really curly, because I didn't know how to take care of it. I most be one of the few teenagers on the planet who feels that way. I have to laugh when I hear girls whose hair is naturally smooth with just the tiniest bit of wave saying that they straighten every day.

I've watched my cousin, who is half-AfricanAmerican, going through the battle: To straighten, or not to straighten? She has gone curly almost all the time now. I think that you should do whatever you're most comfortable with, but at the same time, who wants to spend their entire life fighting their natural hair? I think your curls are beautiful, but also that no one has to go one way or the other, there's always the option of a week straight, a week curly, or some other arrangement like that. Good luck!
Originally Posted by Elithia
Wow, I'm so impressed by your post! For a teenager you seem very mature, not only you have a very healthy attitude about your hair, you zeroed in on the futility of always fighting what we've been given but you also proposed a very rational in-between option for the OP, congratulations!
2A/3A, medium length, layered, colored dark/medium ash blonde - "CGer" since April '02.

"Converting the 'curlskeptics' one curly head at a time..." HWHC
Wow - I am blown away by the number of you who say it's more work and time consuming to wear your hair curly vs. straight. I am quite the opposite, my hair is so much more work to wear straight. It's so incredibly thick that I cannot blow dry it straight, so I have to dry it completely and then run a flat iron through it section by section. With all my hair this takes forever. But when I wear it curly I put in my product(s), diffuse until damp and go. (If necessary I might touch up a few random strands with a curling iron, but even that is not a big, time-consuming deal).

However, I also believe I look better with straight hair, and on the rare occasion that I do straighten I get tons of compliments (so many that I start to think that my normally curly hair must really look crappy - but hey, that's another story!)
Mishy (color-treated, thick, 2b/2c, several inches below shoulder length, long layers).
I myself find it easier to do it curly, that's part of the reason I rarely bother to straighten it.

In order for me to get it to really look nice and last, I would have to set it in curlers which by itself would take half an hour, then I'd have to sit under a bonnet dryer at least another half hour. Even drying it with my ionic round brush dryer which shortens the time seems too much work for me because of the sectioning, clipping, etc.

Curly I just rinse, condition, squeeze excess water, apply styler, scrunch and partially diffuse for anywhere between 5-10 mins. and after maybe a half hour I "fluff" the curls for fullness. Even if it takes longer when I air dry it does it ALL by itself and I can go about doing other things.

I believe the CG routine really simplifies things. The hardest part, most of the time, is just finding the right products to match our hair's needs but figuring those out is really not rocket science. Once we have some products that give us reliable results it's all pretty much "touch and go".
2A/3A, medium length, layered, colored dark/medium ash blonde - "CGer" since April '02.

"Converting the 'curlskeptics' one curly head at a time..." HWHC

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