I prefer my hair straight

I really tried to love my hair curly....I really did...but no matter what I do I still prefer my hair straight....for every possible reason:

1) It looks better on me. Period.
2) I can wear any outfit with it because I don't have to worry about balancing the outfit to my hair...when it's curly I tend to look top-heavy for some reason...
3) It takes me about 15-20 minutes to straighten, whereas it's a whole long process to leave it curly and have it look good (a few hours, 2 to 3)
4) I'm not one of those ppl that can just wash and go and have their hair look good
5) It's predictable - I wake up and don't really have to worry about having one side squished against my head
6) I can't leave the house with wet hair cause then my throat hurts the next day - when it's straight it's really dry - but if I overdry it when it's curly it gets really frizzy

etc etc etc

I really really really want to wear my hair curly a lot more...I really do...but I just don't know how to learn to love my hair and manage it so that it's easy to do...
I've tried tons of products to try to tame the frizz, to loosen the curl, but nothing works...my hair is still dry (even when I've left it curly for a while and didn't touch it with a flat iron or a hot blowdryer) It's just how my hair is....
Don't get me wrong, there are days when I feel really blessed to have curly hair cause I'm having a good hair day...but honestly good curly hair days happen about 15% of the time, while bad ones occur the other 85%...
Sorry for the vent, but I had to say it...
Was 3b then I did a soft relaxer and I think I'm now a 3a
pw: curly
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You mean you can leave your hair wet and it stays straight?
oh no I wish...I mean to straighten it it takes about 15 mins (with the use of a blowdryer and a paddle brush lol)
Was 3b then I did a soft relaxer and I think I'm now a 3a
pw: curly
I kinda feel the same way. My hair doesn't always hold the curl well so I have to be careful to not lay on it, or mess it up or it might look horrible, and then there's no fixing it.

It takes me forever to do it curly, and fix it til I think it's "perfect", and then hope the weather is nice so it doesn't frizz or fall, or get sticky and producty.

When I straighten it all I have to do is wait til it's 75% air dry, and then blow dry it w/ a round brush. I don't even have to section it off or anything - it takes me minutes to do, and it's predictable for the rest of the day.

I'm trying to focus more on the care of my hair in terms of products and conditioning. Right now my hair is not quite curly enough for me to "force" it to be curly. I'm going to grow it out to one length, and keep blow drying it the way I am. I figure at all one length it may be easier to style it if I DO want it curly/wavy, b/c I won't have to scrunch in product, and diffuse to get all my layers to curl uniformly.

Plus I think my curly hair makes me look too young - like cutesy kiddie young. And almost like I forgot to do my hair that day or something.
~ the artist formerly known as babywavy ~

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I'm with you as well!!!! I actually had my hair chemically straightened 2 months ago (Matrix Opti-smooth) and can NOT believe that I can put 2 yes TWO products in my hair and let it air dry YES air dry and it looks great. I have a LOT of hair but it's very fine & so so frizzy. I can't believe that I've had to wait 35 years to like my hair. It's so much easier.....I spend WAY less time not to mention money on gel and hairspray!!!!!
I think it's fine to like your hair straight, but I would encourage you to still let it be curly from time to time. It took me about 6 months of letting it curl before I started to like my hair curly. Now, I actually prefer it curly, and it's been a huge step for me in terms of self-acceptance overall. I still like to blow it out every once in a while and enjoy the sleek look, but it isn't me anymore. The curls are different from day to day and they are never "perfect," but neither am I.
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Here's all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid. ~ George Carlin
You may have not been talking to me, but my hair has been curly for 13 years.
~ the artist formerly known as babywavy ~

Please excuse any typos. For the time being, we are blaming it on my computer.
I love the texture of curly/wavy hair on me by feel but I'm growing out layers that look good straight but not so much curly so some days I miss straightening. But I usually get frizz and my hair tries to clump up in it's curls partway through the day anyway.
I miss how short my routine used to be but I still don't use many products. What I leave in my hair is usually just a leave in and my gel. In the summer just gel.

Do whatever makes you happy
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Low porosity, medium texture.
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You may have not been talking to me, but my hair has been curly for 13 years.
Originally Posted by babywavy
I was responding to the original poster. I do love your curls, although I see why you think they make you look too cutesy. I just happen to like cutesy.
*Poster formerly known as Bailey422*

Here's all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid. ~ George Carlin
I can relate. For me, if the good Lord had asked me what kind of hair I'd have wanted, I'd have to go with straight. I think it looks better on me, too.

But, being that I have fought with it all my life because I thought my hair was straight and just being a bit rebellious, it's nice to know it is the way it is because it's not straight . It's taken every bit of the entire time I've been on this site since finding it (2-1/2 years ago) to learn to work with my hair, and I don't get as frustrated with as much as I used to trying to force it to be straight. Which never worked anyway and I could never figure out why it would wave/curl . But I still struggle with looking in the mirror and wishing it was straight from time to time.

I hope that all came out okay - I'm trying listen to music, type and read at the same time !
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I'm exactly the same. After straightening my hair constantly for 18 months it was completely fried and starting to snap off, enter nc.com and my battle to embrace my curls. I can see that my hair is so much healthier now and on the odd days that I can get it looking decent - like you 15% if I'm lucky - I'm OK with it but I'll never really love my curls like some people do and would defy anyone to say they honestly (and I mean honestly) think I suit my hair better curly than straight. I have such unruly, untidy curls and whatever I do, whatever products I use it's always frizzy. I had a haircut a couple of weeks ago and the hd cut the layers round my face too short (my request, not her mistake!), unfortunately this coincided with a bout of humid weather (which we rarely get here) and my hair has been completely unmanageable and just plain ugly, to the point where I couldn't look in the mirror without cringing. Couldn't even tie it back properly as the layers are too short. So I straightened this last week and it was just so much nicer, my fringe doesn't look odd, it's so much less trouble and I don't have to get up 2 hours before I need to go anywhere so I have time to let it dry. I always feel more confident too, which is good, at 43 I don't think I should be having to deal with a lack of confidence about how I look.
I somehow feel guilty about it, but there you go. I sympathise.
Are you a teenager?

I felt the same way back then, but in my late 20s I learned to love my curls and have never even wanted to straighten my hair since then.
How appropriate.....I straighten my hair maybe 2 times a month. I chose to do so today. And every time I do, I am coaxed by many to always straighten my hair. I find it cumbersome to straighten it and also understand how much more stress I put on it; however, when I get comments all day about how much better I look, not to mention the overall response I get from the instant attention I seem to get as the blonde with long, straight hair. On top of all of that, I get this in an e-mail as I proceed to respond to this from a co-worker who traveled with me today:

"By the way; the hair - not only do I like the color, the new style is a great fit for you too. It makes you look taller."

How do I go back to curls when I get so much positive response. I also like my hair straight, just hate straightening it every day.

I understand that I should be happy with what I have and be confident with my curls. I had for several years. But I'm in sales and appearance is incredibly important. I am going to try straight more often.
Fine, blonde 3a botticelli curls
Are you a teenager?

I felt the same way back then, but in my late 20s I learned to love my curls and have never even wanted to straighten my hair since then.
Originally Posted by SuZen
I can relate to this. It can be trying at times and everyday if I plan to go out, I have to wet my hair and style it, but honestly, I almost have no desire to straighten out my hair; it's like once I started wearing it curly, I didn't really look back. For me, it's a very tedious task and can take upwards of a couple of hours. It's thick and has to be sectioned off to get straight. I actually have to put more products in it to get it straight than I do to have it curly. I have a routine down now and my hair is all the better for it. It's no longer breaking off or severely dry. I use 3 products in it and that's it. The only thing I hate is the winter time. I hate leaving w/wet head! I could probably solve that, but haven't found a diffuser that doesn't blow the form right out of my curls. It's to the point now that I think I look funny w/straight hair. It looks very weird on me , but I've been known to straighten it out (not too often b/c of the time it takes!). Wear your hair how you feel most comfortable. For me, there are pros and cons to each one, but I have more cons with my hair being straight! LOL!
Butterflyprincess-

I think you may be my hair twin! I was looking at your pics, and I think you look gorgeous both ways. I know how you feel, I think I look much better with straight hair, but I wear it curly most of the time just because I am too lazy to straighten it. I did the japanese straightening thing, and liked it for a while, until my hair started falling out and breaking off. Anyway, I think you have beautiful hair (I wish mine was that long!) and I honestly think you can't go wrong either way. But I do feel your pain!
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Trying a shorter style at the moment, but starting to get the itch to grow it back out.

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what happens if you just leave your hair to dry in its natural state - without a lot of products or manipulation (diffusing, scrunching, straightening, etc.)?

eta: just for the record (and i know it's probably not what you want to hear) i think curly hair suits you a lot better, and i think you look much lovelier with it.

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Are you a teenager?

I felt the same way back then, but in my late 20s I learned to love my curls and have never even wanted to straighten my hair since then.
Originally Posted by SuZen
LOL I wish! no I'm not a teenager, but I can tell you that I've felt this way about my hair since I was one (that was about the time that I realized that my hair was not 'slightly wavy' but was actually very curly)...
When I was 15 or 16 I used to straighten all the time, I would almost never wear it curly cause I hated the way it looked on me, then I got a bit older and I started wearing it curly a lot more, but I've always and I mean always preferred the way I look with straight hair...
I absolutely LOVE curly hair on other ppl, just don't think it looks that good on me...

And Ashleyerin, thanx for the compliment
Was 3b then I did a soft relaxer and I think I'm now a 3a
pw: curly
I like both for me. Right now I have my hair super duper flat ironed.
Straight it is easier to touch up but if I have a good product in my curly (ahhh joiwhip) (a little plug )hair I can get several days of easy curly touch up hair days.

95% of the time I wear my hair curly. I flat ironed Tuesday after work. I spent the rest of the week having people stand and stare at me at work.
They get such a kick out of the whole thing.
I think your curly hair looks extra better. With the straight hair you look like every other chick. Now really who wants to just blend in?
Right now you have a very straight hair attitude, which is a shame because your curly hair looks fabulous!!!!
I am a 3c reformed product junkie thanks to the economy.

I lurk a lot, I change my hair color a lot. It's currently black and bsl when wet and beyond my shoulders still when dry.

Now I will stop procrastinating and get back to what I was supposed to be doing before I got on here.

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I have to say that I prefer the curls too, they're gorgeous and give you a more unique look. I'm sorry you're not able to deal with them... but hey, it is not my head of hair, so I am not the one who has to live with it. So if straightening makes you happier, then by all means... straighten away.
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Hair: 3A/B, Underlayer of 2B
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