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Old 01-16-2007, 06:19 PM   #1
 
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Default Is it rude to direct a stranger to this site?

Do you ever see someone who could really benefit from the Curly Girl wisdom walking around with a head full of frizz? (That was me 6 months ago.) Is there a nice, unthreatening way to guide someone here, or to the Curly Girl book, without it sounding like "You are a frizzo mess?"

I'm guessing you can bring it up with friends, in a fun way, but strangers are off limits...what do you think?
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Old 01-16-2007, 06:31 PM   #2
 
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You could always start by asking if their hair is naturally curly. Then you could say that you are as well & that you have been using this site & it's just so awesome - you are learning more everyday, you can't believe how many types of curly hair there is, how many people have curly hair, etc, etc...Then you could add how you don't shampoo thanks to the CG book & your hair has never felt better...No need to say anything about how frizzy their hair is.
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Old 01-16-2007, 07:16 PM   #3
 
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I'm a firm believer is never offering unsolicited advice, so I would say strangers are off limits. Now if they came up to me and complimented my hair or asked what I use, then I would certainly direct them here. Otherwise, I mind my own business. No matter how nicely you try to phrase it, it will still sound like "Oh wow, I noticed you have some hair issues. Here, I can help."
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Old 01-16-2007, 07:20 PM   #4
 
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I agree with Bailey. I've been on the receiving end of hair comments, and it upset me. I was in Eckerd and was looking at some of the Herbal Essence products. A lady next to me was looking at them as well. She asked if they worked better than any other gels. I told her I had used Totally Twisted that morning. She then said "no, I guess it doesn't work better than any other gel!" I was mad about it all day!

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Old 01-16-2007, 07:22 PM   #5
 
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This site has "ambassador" cards and I carry mine in my wallet (with my nickname handwritten on them) and whenever I have the opportunity to talk to curlies that could benefit from coming here I ask them if they have a PC at home. If they say yes I hand them the card and tell them this is a fun place to discuss hair issues and talk about products. No one yet has seemed offended or anything, they usually just smile and thank me. Sometimes, the people I've given the cards to have nice curls just stringy and too coated with gel so I do compliment them because basically their curls are fine, just not cared for the right way.
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Old 01-16-2007, 07:26 PM   #6
 
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I was in Eckerd and was looking at some of the Herbal Essence products. A lady next to me was looking at them as well. She asked if they worked better than any other gels. I told her I had used Totally Twisted that morning. She then said "no, I guess it doesn't work better than any other gel!" I was mad about it all day!
Geez, how rude!

I've sent lots of people here but only if they were asking about my hair.
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Old 01-16-2007, 07:28 PM   #7
 
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Dude sherry people can be so tacky! I'm sure your hair looked good she's just a troll out from under her bridge for some air
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Old 01-16-2007, 10:01 PM   #8
 
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I would be careful about judging. My Sunday rolled out of bed nasty hair is thankfully much different than my cared for hair during the week. I'd rather not discuss my hair on those "off days" especially with a stranger.
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Old 01-16-2007, 11:14 PM   #9
 
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If I'm looking through products in the haircare aisle and a fellow curly strikes up a conversation with me, I'll mention that such-and-such gel got a good review on this site, regardless of what kind of hairday she's having. If someone says that they have curly hair but don't know how to manage it, I'll also bring up this site.

But a neighbor of mine has the worst, frizziest chin-length triangle of hair that you can imagine. It's clear that she brushes it and doesn't use product. And what with the humidity here... It's a shame, because her face is very pretty, but her giant hair is distracting and makes her look frumpy. But since she's never talked about hair, I've never offered any advice. That would be insulting.
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Old 01-17-2007, 06:23 AM   #10
 
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Sometimes when I know someone whose hair is a mess, I'll ease into a conversation like, "Isn't it hard to deal with curly hair? I always struggle with mine." This often prompts the person to ask if I know any good products and I give them an ambassador card. But I wouldn't do that it they didn't ask for some help.
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Old 01-17-2007, 11:29 AM   #11
 
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I wouldn't say anything to a stranger unless we somehow struck up a conversation on the topic.
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