OMG, thanks for writing this!!
My hair reacts like your hair, I hardly use any conditioner or a little drugstore conditioner, thats all I need.
Other than that, my routine:
I shampoo every 4 or 5 days with Phytojoba shampoo & I rinse every morning. (only shampoo the scalp)
When I rinse I dont use conditioner, only after washing with shampoo.
It seems that my hair doesnt need it, as I dont color, blowdry & sleep on a satin pillowcase.
Curly hair is different, my hair is hardly greasy, its just ...moist.
On the no-wash days,Rinse & feel the wet ends, if they are a little rought, add a few drops of condish.