I'm am currently trying out the activate shampoo and I like it alot. It doesn't have sodium laurel sulfate and is very gentle yet cleans the hair well. I have tried the burts bees grapefruit and beet shmpoo which was good, also no sulfates, but a bit "harsher" feeling on my hair then the activate. For non drugstore stuff try jessicurl hair cleansing cream
(really like this!) or her other shampoo (don't recall the name, never tried it), or devacurl low poo
(this was a bit harsh, compared to others) or no poo (also never tried it).
as for conditioners try activate. I'm using it now and like it, and alot of people on here like it too. another option is trader joe's nourish, I've heard good things about it. other than that the others I've liked are non drugstore ones. I love devacurl one condition
but got sick of paying so much for a conditoner. elucence moisture balancing
condish also gets good reviews on the boards. a good conditioner is hard to find.
also for styling it so hard to figure that part out. first you need to find a good gel, cream or mousse - depending on what type you like. a good drugstore gell is aussie tizz no frizz, biosilk rock hard gelee or herbale essences set me up or totally twisted. non drugstore gels that are nice are batia and aleeza gel, devacurl angel
l and devacare arcangell. some people love jessicurls combo of rocking ringlets (watery gel like) and confident coils (cream styler). the only cg mousse I've found that works great is joico joiwhip.
then depending on what else you hair needs, frizz control, curl definition, etc... you can add in other things like AG re:coil
or Curl Keeper
you really have to try everything out and see how your hair does! and read alot. good luck!