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Old 04-08-2012, 03:48 AM   #1
 
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Default Does anyone else get irritated when people play with their hair?

Or when they play with other people's hair without asking their permission?
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Old 04-08-2012, 07:13 AM   #2
 
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Yes I get mad! It's rude. I wouldn't just reach out and touch someone else's hair. I reserve the privilege of touching my hair only for people I have intimate relationships with.
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Old 04-08-2012, 08:03 AM   #3
 
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Is it weird that i like it when people play with my hair? Obviously i like it when my girlfriend does, but i also like it when strangers do too. I think its hilarious when they start asking questions like, "how is it so curly", "how do you brush you hair?", and my favorite "have you ever straightened it??"
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I cannot stand when someone plays with my hair. It's a quick way to completely piss me off. To me it's like touching my face. Hands OFF.
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Depends, sometimes I don't mind... sometimes when im going somewhere and need it to stay looking nice, I do

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Old 04-08-2012, 09:29 AM   #6
 
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The only times I have ever had anyone touch my hair, I was in grade school. I have a very sensitive scalp and could feel it even when someone was just touching the edges of the frizz. They were usually very embarrassed, and apologetic when I turned to see who was touching my hair. But, yes it irritated me then, and would irritate me if it happened now.
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The only times I have ever had anyone touch my hair, I was in grade school. I have a very sensitive scalp and could feel it even when someone was just touching the edges of the frizz. They were usually very embarrassed, and apologetic when I turned to see who was touching my hair. But, yes it irritated me then, and would irritate me if it happened now.
OMG, I forgot all about those classroom incidents!! My mom, bless her heart, used to brush out my hair which was all 1 length and very long, making it into a big long pouf. It was common for whoever was sitting behind me to complain that my hair was covering up their worksheets or book on their desk! But they wouldn't usually just push it out of their way, they would play with it! The teacher would yell at them sometimes, lol.
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Old 04-08-2012, 12:50 PM   #8
 
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I agree that it's super rude to just reach out and touch someone's hair without asking. I can see why that would be really annoying to people.

That said, when it comes to me personally - I LOVE it when people touch my hair, whether they ask or not (well, the only people who touch my hair without asking are friends and family. I probably wouldn't react well to a stranger or loose acquaintance touching without asking, but I've never had this happen).

I also play with my own hair quite a lot. I know it's a bad habit - does it really irritate people a lot though? Yet another reason to break the habit.....
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I also play with my own hair quite a lot. I know it's a bad habit - does it really irritate people a lot though? Yet another reason to break the habit.....
I do this too, I know it gets on some people's nerves.
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I feel it's rude to touch anyone's head unless you have a close relationship with them/asked beforehand.

I've had more people SMELL my hair than actually touch it. Which is just THEE most awkward thing ever! To just have someone go "What smells like Vanilla/Peppermint/Citric" and then have someone without warning with their face all in your hair .

I'm weird. I don't like people within 1-foot of my space. Even at work I am like that. I won't say anything, just move so there's space.
I was made fun of growing up as a child with my unprocessed hair so when it comes to my hair I am sensitive and mean business.
Usually people ask before touching it but you do get those who just "LOVE" natural hair and feel overwhelmed to touch my Afro or Afro Puffs
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I hate when people touch mine too! I also hate the questions that come along with it. It's like people are amazed of curls, it says a lot about the society we live in. :-/
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Is it weird that i like it when people play with my hair? Obviously i like it when my girlfriend does, but i also like it when strangers do too. I think its hilarious when they start asking questions like, "how is it so curly", "how do you brush you hair?", and my favorite "have you ever straightened it??"
LoL! Most guys like for us to play in their hair. I don't get mad unless the person is just totally disrespectful with it. I mean, I'd rather they didn't of course. I guess it's "annoying" but not "enraging" to me.

People need to realize that just because you like the look of something doesn't mean you can just reach out and touch it. That applies to EVERYTHING!!

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Old 04-08-2012, 05:24 PM   #13
 
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I don't mind if people ask first. My friend's roommate was super amazed by my hair, she asked if she could touch it, I said ok. She spent 30 seconds sproinging one curl - it was kind of amusing, and she did ask first.

If you don't ask first I'm all "GET OFF!!!"

Close friends and family of course are exempt to the rule, though they usually don't touch (well, except my husband, he loves my hair).
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Old 04-08-2012, 09:20 PM   #14
 
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One time, when I was in class, I was wearing my fro out. And one guy sticks a picture in my hair!! Another time, they were throwing hard candies at it, to which my fro bounced it right back. was so embarrassed, even though everyone said they love my hair and how awesome they think it is. Now, that's what I call other people playing with my hair, lol
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Old 04-08-2012, 11:12 PM   #15
 
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i have a co-worker who likes to touch my hair (it's cool, she shares her unwanted oyin handmade stuff with me). the other day, she pulled a curl at the back of my head and stretched it out. then tried to tuck it back in without me noticing! lots of giggles the rest of the day.

i don't mind the touching, as long as they ask first.

my biggest pet peeve is when people tell me "i bet your hair looks really pretty when it's straight." grrrr!
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One time, when I was in class, I was wearing my fro out. And one guy sticks a picture in my hair!! Another time, they were throwing hard candies at it, to which my fro bounced it right back. was so embarrassed, even though everyone said they love my hair and how awesome they think it is. Now, that's what I call other people playing with my hair, lol
That would enrage me. I wouldn't take it at all well.
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i have a co-worker who likes to touch my hair (it's cool, she shares her unwanted oyin handmade stuff with me). the other day, she pulled a curl at the back of my head and stretched it out. then tried to tuck it back in without me noticing! lots of giggles the rest of the day.

i don't mind the touching, as long as they ask first.

my biggest pet peeve is when people tell me "i bet your hair looks really pretty when it's straight." grrrr!
Lol!! Straight hair comments are soooo annoying.....!
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I don't know what it is about my friends, they all LOVE playing with everyone's hair, straight or curly. Lol, most of the time I don't care but somedays I'll be like "hands. Off. The. Hair." (:


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Old 05-21-2012, 12:03 PM   #19
 
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It can be flattering, but it all depends on the context and if they ask first. I do play with my own hair a lot.
The worst though is when someone (close to me or not) rakes through my dry hair! Frizzies and stringy curls forever after that!
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Old 05-22-2012, 04:22 AM   #20
 
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It only happened to me once that a lady I vaguely know came up to me cooing "ooh, aren't your curls lovely", she then proceeded to stick her hand into my hair, which made me feel uneasy, but she tried to rake it downwards, in which she got stuck and just yanked her hand out, ouch! After that painful experience, I would now visibly back away if I saw someone's hands trying to connect with my hair!
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