I'm new here, very very happy to have found you all, because believe it or not, I don't know anyone at all with real curly hair! My sister moans that hers is "frizzy and kinky" when its actually poker straight, don't know what planet shes on
Anyway, I just want to tell you about this awful habit I have gotten into, I know its going to make you cringe, its not good. I had TR done ages ago, and took loads of damage at the root, causing a 90 degree bend. Those bends started to snap, and I got into this habit of gently pulling through each strand from the root, til i reached the bend, trying to force it out. What happened instead was, the bend would snap and the hair would embed into my finger...youchy...
Now I have waist length hair, only 5 inches at the ends which are still straight, but I'm still pulling the strands through my fingers. And when I come across an irregularity (there are LOTS) I scrape my nail across it, trying to iron it out....and yes, they snap. I know this is damaging my hair, and I'm trying to stop, someone needs to tie my hands together!
Do any of you always touch your hair? I touch the frizzy bits most, trying to calm them, and of course, this worsens the whole thing. Very hard habit to break!!
Glad to be here, and hoping to find ways to finally love my curls!
habits are always hard to break. I pick at my cuticles way too much.
Considering how long your hair is, have you thought about getting the last 5 inches cut off? If you cut that damage off, you might find yourself NOT looking for the irregulariies as much or even if you do, mabye you won't find as many.
Five inches is a lot of hair, but with waist length hair, you'll probably be the only one who even knows it has been cut. You'll probably get better curl formation, too.
Just a thought.
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Thanks for your reply, yes, I very much want to say goodbye to the straight bits, as they make the rest look very odd, and of course, need totally different care to the curls, eg, I comb the straight ends, I woudlnt even get a comb near my curls, and the ends respond differently to curly products too, and not in a good way.
The trouble is, I'm salon-a-phobic! I've honestly never had a haircut or treatment where I havent hated the results, and when I have had the courage to go back and complain, they still havent made me look much better. I have actually take the scissors to it myself, around the face, so that I can tie it up for school where i work (headlice prevention!), and leave some curls hanging, as tied back hair doesnt suit my face at all. I might end up just snipping the ends off myself!
Thanks very much, I think I'm going to give this a try this evening, since I dont have to go out early tomorrow and can find some coping strategy if I dont like what I've done! Coping strategies, I'm good at
The one thing I'm scared about it having a chopped appearance. I think the best way seems to be grab a solitary curl and snip the end off, then repeat as necessary, rather than try to snip across a patch of curls.