I want to make some final comments. first, I think an overarching issue is how freaking much we women are subject to scrutinization over our looks, our body parts, our age, our weight and our values. In ways that men are NOT. I suspect that the OP got way more than she anticipated in terms of the strength and emotion in the replies here, but if you ask strong women a question, you are going to get strong answers. I feel bad if she feels bad, but I dont feel bad that she got truthful answers from this community based on how much (or how little) we think it is important for a fiance to accept what is a part of her, and way more than a superficial issue. Finally, I do think that often people - especially young people, and I dont mean to sound condescending or "know it all", because I did this too when I was young, often select a mate based on qualities we think we should use, which can be largely what the media says is important, and is largely hormone driven. From my viewpoint, it is very important that partners share the same values. OP, if you are still reading this, it might be worth your time to hit the pause button and ask yourself if you and fiance are on the same page with your values before you make that big promise to one another. All my best!
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