Hoping for some direction--new to the curl

I'm new to CG--I have been straightening my hair since I was 10 (every single day) Blow dry straight then a straightening iron. I am now a 27yo sahm to a wonderful but high spirited little girl and I'm trying to embrace a carefree easier style. I also want to learn to care for curly/wavy hair properly in case DD has my hair type so hopefully she can avoid the problems I've grown up with--my mom was the type to attack me with a wetbrush and spray bottle trying to tame my hair and since it always looked horrid I took to the straightening iron using every product made at a very young age.

I am having trouble typing my hair--with air drying and brushing it is mostly straight, little bit of wavy on the bottom layer of hair. I've been trying to abandon my hair brush but I keep breaking down to get the ratty-ness out.Today I did my best to not mess with it as it air dried with no product (hard to do with a 1 year old, normally its in a messy bun)--it has some pieces that curl in loose ringlets, some wavy pieces and some straight pieces--gonna try to post some pics with this post--what it looks like most days and some from today.

Also with wavy-curly hair is ratty-ness the norm, or is it a sign that my hair is dry? I've always thought I had super greasy oily hair not so sure since giving up shampoo and doing a silicone free C/O--now I'm thinking scalp is normal and the ends might even be on the dry/damaged end.

And my last question for now--is there a good spot to ask newbie questions? I'm trying to search the forums since I am positive my questions and concerns are normal popular ones--kinda hard since I don't have much computer time.

Thank you to everyone!
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Oh and I have been using tresemme naturals nourishing moisture conditioner aloe vera and avocado for C/O and LA looks sports gel--are these good for starting out? Can't really afford too much more right now and it seems like all the cone-free list are outdated with discontinued products.

Oh also I've been using baking soda/apple cider rinse every so often is this ok too?
All of those products are CG-friendly. If they work for you, keep using them!
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Best place to find general information is to read the stickies at the top of the forums. Reading is the best way to start and gain knowledge. Posting in the General Forum is where you'll probably get the most response. If you show that you've researched a bit, more people will be willing to answer you questions.

Curl type is relatively unimportant. The most important thing for selecting ingredients/products are hair properties. Here's a link to help you with yours Live Curly Live Free - Curly Hair Basics Once you determine your properties, you can look with folks with hair like yours and see what they use (in signatures.) It's the best place to start.

"Ratty-ness" is not the norm with well maintained curly hair. It shows that your hair is dry and possibly damaged from the straightening. You should not brush your hair when dry. Most only use a wide tooth comb when hair is wet and full of conditioner. Some people use a Denman brush (I found that it pulls out my curl, even on wet hair.) Some people have to use a detangler to help comb their hair--only when wet.

It's hard to know how your hair will be when you start to really take care of it. I don't remember reading how long it's been since you stopped straightening. The straightening damages the hair and makes it porous. Protein and moisture will help, but won't fix the damaged hair. You may want to get frequent cuts while your damaged hair grows out. If your getting some curl now, a cut with long layers will help a little.
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Since having a difficult pregnancy and having our DD I have stopped doing much to my hair, I've only straightened for some photo session (maternity, newborn, first family pics). So maybe about 2 years since I was hardcore straightening it (been just wearing it up).

I've been attempting to REALLY care for my hair for about 3 months now--3 months ago I threw out all my old products and got the ones I listed above. I brushed it yesterday morning, this morning I finger detangled in the shower and tried out the conditioning/gel method listed on Live Curly Live Free--I've been using old t-shirts to scrunch dry and plop my hair. When I pull my hair up at home I use scunchies to minimize pulling and damage.

I just researched DIY protein treatments, after we are done moving I'm gonna attempt an egg one, hoping it works, followed up with a warm deep oil treatment.

I found this site this week and can't believe how much there is too learn, hoping to be able to pull this site up on my iPod touch so I can do more research while DD nurses.

Thank you guys so much for the replies!
I've comtemplating how much to get cut off--almost all the old color is off which is where the worse of the ratty parts start which is also more or less the last of the hair that was subjected to the hot iron regularly.

I'm just so afraid since I have only had bad experiences with layers, they have always been awful and weird looking its now all 1 length except for bangs (that were butched currently just letting them grow)
If you've just gone through pregnancy and are breast feeding, it's possible that hormonal issues have influenced your hair (in addition to providing sustenance for two!) Now may or may not be the time for you to start your curly journey.

When you're ready for your haircut, you could look for a stylist here Salon Finder - NaturallyCurly.com. Maybe someone has reviewed a stylist near you??
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity
modified CG, since April '07
CG since 3/11/08

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HGs: Anything Sevi; Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; UFD Curly Magic; Botanical Spirits Jellies, CJ Repair Me, Marie Dean Leave Ins and Curl Creams
I've comtemplating how much to get cut off--almost all the old color is off which is where the worse of the ratty parts start which is also more or less the last of the hair that was subjected to the hot iron regularly.

I'm just so afraid since I have only had bad experiences with layers, they have always been awful and weird looking its now all 1 length except for bangs (that were butched currently just letting them grow)
Originally Posted by Becca7
When I was reading your post I was thinking That you no doubt had damage from 15+ years of blow drying and flat ironing every day.
In my opinion it is best to ditch the damage to at least the color part. get a start fresh, and move forward with your healthy hair journey. I would find some styles you like in magazines and take that to a stylist for a consultation. Ask people whose cuts you like where they go. I know you are worried about a bad cut but are you willing to let that fear keep you chained to severely damaged hair?
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I guess I should clarify--I fear layers.

My hair grew like crazy during the pregnancy, had it dyed about a month before I got preggers and it was just below my chin...did not a dang thing to it til 4 months ago, my hair was almost to my waist and I had the stylist cut off everything that he thought was damaged which brought it up to just above my shoulders...I think there is still a couple inches of colored hair though, or its just how it looks in the photos/how the light hits it.

I was just reading another post--the one wiht what stylist say that should send you running away, now I'm thinking the guy I went is a bad choice, everyone was saying he is the go to person for curly hair--he specializes in African and curly hair and is amazing---in my one appointment he said almost every single big no-nos and did most of what I'm now reading are signs of what is going to be a bad curly hair cut :S

I kinda figured nursing and pregnancy would mess with my hair but I'm counting on if I start now properly caring for my hair in the state it is in now and be flexible to its changing needs as my hormones go wacky to normal then it will hopeful be setting everything up on the right path.

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