SOS! Desperate to grow my hair!

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I think I have 3a/3b hair and I'm African American but everyone says they think I'm Hispanic because of the quality and thinness of my hair. I've been trying to grow my hair for year and I've recently started putting Jamaican black castor oil on my scalp and massaging it in everyday for 3 days. I also added some to my conditioner and it has made my hair softer. Does anyone have any other tips I can try? I'm fed up with my just barely shoulder length, thin hair. My goal is to have thick, full mid back length hair. And so far it seems impossible! SOS! Help! I've attached a picture on my hair currently and my goal.
Only time will tell if it is possible. Black castor oil does have a good reputation for making hair (and eyelashes) grow, so you've made a good start. I have also seen some recommendations for supplements that are supposed to help, too. You might look around to see what you can find on that. I have worn my hair short for so long that I am often discouraged at how fast it seems to grow and need cutting, but I do know how frustrating getting it to grow can be, too. Just keep at it, you will see progress, how much though depends on your hair's growth, your health, the health of your hair, and some other considerations, so the going may seem slow, especially when you are impatient to see results. I suggest trying to wait about 3 months between measurements so your hair will have a chance to show some real (average= about 1 1/2 inches at 1/2 inch a month average growth) noticeable progress.
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Only time will tell if it is possible. Black castor oil does have a good reputation for making hair (and eyelashes) grow, so you've made a good start. I have also seen some recommendations for supplements that are supposed to help, too. You might look around to see what you can find on that. I have worn my hair short for so long that I am often discouraged at how fast it seems to grow and need cutting, but I do know how frustrating getting it to grow can be, too. Just keep at it, you will see progress, how much though depends on your hair's growth, your health, the health of your hair, and some other considerations, so the going may seem slow, especially when you are impatient to see results. I suggest trying to wait about 3 months between measurements so your hair will have a chance to show some real (average= about 1 1/2 inches at 1/2 inch a month average growth) noticeable progress.
Originally Posted by raindear
Thank you so much, I'll look into the supplements. Thank you, thank you.
Assuming you don't have a health issue and your growth rate is normal, the key to growing long hair is retaining growth. A lot of times people think they're hair isn't growing, when it's actually just breaking off at the ends almost or as fast as it's growing in, resulting in the same length hair. It happens so slowly that you don't notice it on a day-to-day basis.

To help grow focus on protecting your ends. They're the oldest part of your hair so the most prone to dryness, breakage, etc. Some things to keep in mind - not sure if you are doing these:

1) Seal your ends/hair. I think you can use any oil for this. It protects your hair and also keeps moisture sealed in the strands.

2) Wear styles that protect your ends. especially if your hairs is long enough to hit your shoulders or rub against your clothing/scarf. It doesn't have to be fancy, just wearing buns, high ponytails or any updo counts, IMO. I struggle with this because I LOVE my wash-n-gos and having my hair be free and wild....but I'm trying to at least wear buns about half the time.

3) Be gentle as possible when combing your hair, most breakage occurs during detangling

4) If your ends are split/puffy/damaged, get a trim. Not a big cut, just enough to get rid of the damage....your hair will continually split and break off, leaving more splits to break off again and never grow if you hold on to damaged ends.

4) Treatments....I do this weekly and it's really helped. Moisture so your hair doesn't dry out and turn brittle (easily breaking), protein to give your hair strength and resilience. Knowing your hair properties (strand thickness, porosity, etc) will determine how much and which treatments to use.

Good luck! I have the a similar goal as you - growing my hair to full APL curly (probably MBL or WL stretched).
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The only thing I can add to the ladies above is that unless your hair has thinned and you're trying to recover thickness it is probably as thick as it will get. Castor oil will help with growth but it works on restoring damaged hair follicles not creating them. It will however thicken the hair shaft of the hair you have.
3b/c with some 4a in the middle of crown and back, medium to high porosity, frizzy, thirsty hair!
Assuming you don't have a health issue and your growth rate is normal, the key to growing long hair is retaining growth. A lot of times people think they're hair isn't growing, when it's actually just breaking off at the ends almost or as fast as it's growing in, resulting in the same length hair. It happens so slowly that you don't notice it on a day-to-day basis.

To help grow focus on protecting your ends. They're the oldest part of your hair so the most prone to dryness, breakage, etc. Some things to keep in mind - not sure if you are doing these:

1) Seal your ends/hair. I think you can use any oil for this. It protects your hair and also keeps moisture sealed in the strands.

2) Wear styles that protect your ends. especially if your hairs is long enough to hit your shoulders or rub against your clothing/scarf. It doesn't have to be fancy, just wearing buns, high ponytails or any updo counts, IMO. I struggle with this because I LOVE my wash-n-gos and having my hair be free and wild....but I'm trying to at least wear buns about half the time.

3) Be gentle as possible when combing your hair, most breakage occurs during detangling

4) If your ends are split/puffy/damaged, get a trim. Not a big cut, just enough to get rid of the damage....your hair will continually split and break off, leaving more splits to break off again and never grow if you hold on to damaged ends.

4) Treatments....I do this weekly and it's really helped. Moisture so your hair doesn't dry out and turn brittle (easily breaking), protein to give your hair strength and resilience. Knowing your hair properties (strand thickness, porosity, etc) will determine how much and which treatments to use.

Good luck! I have the a similar goal as you - growing my hair to full APL curly (probably MBL or WL stretched).
Originally Posted by triple_spiral
Love everything you said! Thank you so much! I will give all of these things a try.
The only thing I can add to the ladies above is that unless your hair has thinned and you're trying to recover thickness it is probably as thick as it will get. Castor oil will help with growth but it works on restoring damaged hair follicles not creating them. It will however thicken the hair shaft of the hair you have.
Originally Posted by Sweetumms
I didn't know that, thank you very much.
My hair has recently grown a lot about 5 inches in 8 months which was an improvement on how much growth I had been getting. My hair is waist length right now and I am aiming for hip length.

the main thing for me was just starting to take care of my hair. I can list a few things that I did to help.

-I stopped using any kind of heat styling tools on my hair. I realized that the heat was what prevented my optimal hair growth because I could not retain length due to the split ends and breakage at the ends of my hair. I should also mention that I have never used any harsh chemicals in my hair and I have never used hair dye, if you do use these things I would suggest not using them while you are trying to grow your hair.

-I started using sulphate and paraben free products and began putting a lot of moisture into my hair by doing deep conditioning treatments and using oils and other types of treatments. Through a lot of research and trial and error I found the products that worked well for my hair.

-I was very gentile with my hair and I actually purchased a comb that is meant to de-tangle curly hair which helped reduce how much hair I lost in the shower.

-I started co washing a lot more

-I protected my hair while I slept

-I drank a lot of water, watched what I ate and started taking a multi vitamin along with 5,000 mcg of biotin

-I did scalp massages at least once per week with oils and I also did hot oil treatments

- I sealed my ends after styling, used split end remedies to help prevent split ends, and I used leave in conditioners and other treatments to keep my hair soft and moisturized.

-I purchased professional hair shears and trimmed my ends for splits myself to keep them healthy

those are just SOME of the things I did and they helped significantly. hair takes time to grow it doesn't happen overnight, so no matter how anxious you are for longer hair it will happen in time. You just have to be patient and care for your hair.

Good Luck!
My hair has recently grown a lot about 5 inches in 8 months which was an improvement on how much growth I had been getting. My hair is waist length right now and I am aiming for hip length.

the main thing for me was just starting to take care of my hair. I can list a few things that I did to help.

-I stopped using any kind of heat styling tools on my hair. I realized that the heat was what prevented my optimal hair growth because I could not retain length due to the split ends and breakage at the ends of my hair. I should also mention that I have never used any harsh chemicals in my hair and I have never used hair dye, if you do use these things I would suggest not using them while you are trying to grow your hair.

-I started using sulphate and paraben free products and began putting a lot of moisture into my hair by doing deep conditioning treatments and using oils and other types of treatments. Through a lot of research and trial and error I found the products that worked well for my hair.

-I was very gentile with my hair and I actually purchased a comb that is meant to de-tangle curly hair which helped reduce how much hair I lost in the shower.

-I started co washing a lot more

-I protected my hair while I slept

-I drank a lot of water, watched what I ate and started taking a multi vitamin along with 5,000 mcg of biotin

-I did scalp massages at least once per week with oils and I also did hot oil treatments

- I sealed my ends after styling, used split end remedies to help prevent split ends, and I used leave in conditioners and other treatments to keep my hair soft and moisturized.

-I purchased professional hair shears and trimmed my ends for splits myself to keep them healthy

those are just SOME of the things I did and they helped significantly. hair takes time to grow it doesn't happen overnight, so no matter how anxious you are for longer hair it will happen in time. You just have to be patient and care for your hair.

Good Luck!
Originally Posted by Ericachristina
Thank you so much for the advice, I'll try these things. Thank you, thank you! Your hair is very pretty.
All of this is awesome advice - these girls know what's up.

One tiny thing I'd like to suggest is learning how to self-trim your hair. This way you are completely in control of how much comes off when you do need a trim. There are tons of tutorials for all types of hemline and layer styles on YouTube. I personally use the CreaClip and absolutely adore it. Www.creaclip.com. No more losing too much length to a scissor-happy stylist. Be sure to buy a good sharp pair of hair scissors too.

Good luck!

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All of this is awesome advice - these girls know what's up.

One tiny thing I'd like to suggest is learning how to self-trim your hair. This way you are completely in control of how much comes off when you do need a trim. There are tons of tutorials for all types of hemline and layer styles on YouTube. I personally use the CreaClip and absolutely adore it. Www.creaclip.com. No more losing too much length to a scissor-happy stylist. Be sure to buy a good sharp pair of hair scissors too.

Good luck!

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Originally Posted by LISA LISA
Thank you so much! I've had a few bad haircuts! Thank you, thank you!

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