I understand that she is 15, and that you were trying to give her a helpful alternative, as were all the posters here. However, it still amounts to appeasement of father who has crossed a personal boundary with her and is inappropriate and controlling....that concerns me.

Thank you for all your suggestions. My father isn't usually overbearing like this. He has never came down so hard on something so unreasonable before. But I am a stubborn person, and I think I may choose to wear it curly, but not really because I like it curly but for the principle of the matter. To say that I am no longer a little kid and while you still have much control over my life, I have to have control over something, and my body is mine and what I do with it is my own choice.

Is this a bad idea? I'm really not sure how to handle this like a mature coherent person and not come across as a spiteful rebellious teenager who doesn't know how to pick her own battles.

I don't mean to be rude about your father - I'm sure you love him and e loves you, very much.

But this is very concerning and angering to me. As a mother, and as a teacher of kids (mainly girls) your age, I find what he's doing rude and frankly manipulative and borderline abusive.

Again, I don't mean to offend you, but this is over the line.

I had my husband read your OP (also a teacher), and he rolled his eyes and said "that's awful."

I wish I had further advice for you, and I swear I'll stop posting on here - LOL! - but I just had to let you know that.

Hang in there, Hun!