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CurlyB_ 11-29-2012 05:59 AM

Peoples reaction on the CG method
 
I told my bf a few weeks ago that i was planning on going CG and explained to him what it exactly meant (goodbye to poo and silicones). To show him some results of other curlies i sent him to a thread of nc.com, and all he had to say was "but you already have curls, see this girls didn't have any or really few thats why they did all this crazy stuff you're planning to...you should spend your money on something useful rather than buying expensive hair products that you don't need!"

I wonder if I had damaged my hair more in the past few years if he would understand that it is not only about the curls, but about making your hair and scalp healthy and happy ...

Have any of you had similar experiences??
How did you explain to your loved ones what the CG method is, and what did they say?



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ShubhoR 11-29-2012 07:31 AM

Lol.. I'm from India and I hear cg products are not overly expensive over at USA.

I didn't tell my boyfriend that I was going "cg" ..but I explained to him the pros and cons of silicones, sulfates and silicon free products. Yes he was incredulous at first and kept joking that my hair will fall off if I try too many products. But he knows that I'm a product junkie and a cg and he supports it.

Have patience, hopefully your bf will come around and respect your decisions :)

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anonymous_22139 11-29-2012 07:50 AM

Since I only CO wash since 2009, people just get this sick look on their face while they say "you haven't washed your hair since 2009?"

I can't convince them that washing with conditioner is adequate, let alone superior for the health of your head and hair.

Even though they are standing, looking at me and my hair - even though they can touch it and smell it, they just can't believe it. They think I'm lying! :afro:

Geek_Chic 11-29-2012 12:52 PM

My b/f was completely supportive of my decision to go CG. He's a shampoo and conditioner guy, but was interested to learn about why sulfates and silicones aren't good for the hair or scalp. After a while, he even asked if I'd recommend products for his hair!

If someone I'm not as close to asks about my hair and how I get it to look the way it does, I just say I avoid using silicones and sulfates. I will get more technical if the person asks more questions, but typically they're satisfied with a simple answer. "I avoid sulfates and silicones" doesn't usually get the "eww" reaction that "I wash with conditioner" does.

If your b/f's complaint is mostly about "expensive products", you can start CG with drugstore products for under $10. As for you already having curl, unlike some others who started with damaged hair that had lost its curl, CG will still help your hair out. My hair wasn't heat damaged or processed when I started CG, and it looks and feels noticeably better after... shinier, softer, and with more consistent curl.

Marci 11-29-2012 06:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Geek_Chic (Post 2077974)
If someone I'm not as close to asks about my hair and how I get it to look the way it does, I just say I avoid using silicones and sulfates.

This is also my usual response when people ask about my hair. Works quite well, I think, without having to go into details about my personal hygiene lol.

MissDarcei 11-29-2012 06:15 PM

My boyfriend knows nothing about hair and washes his with bar soap lol so when I said I dont use shampoo because its bad for my hair he was like "Really? I didn't know that." He realizes I know much more than he does about hair lol

CurlyB_ 11-29-2012 06:56 PM

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Originally Posted by MissDarcei (Post 2078105)
He realizes I know much more than he does about hair lol

Haha I wish mine would too! :p




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CurlyB_ 11-29-2012 07:03 PM

Hey Darcie,
I just found out that you've got a channel? Could you post a link please? :)


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dianemary126 11-29-2012 07:27 PM

I always just tell people I stopped using sulfate and silicones. It's easier that way they usually nod and move on

MissDarcei 11-29-2012 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by CurlyB_ (Post 2078132)
Hey Darcie,
I just found out that you've got a channel? Could you post a link please? :)


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Sure it's Youtube.com/MissDarcei

ZuperElf 11-30-2012 09:18 PM

My husband has been politely curious and supportive about my transition. I didn't straighten or blow dry my hair, I've been embracing my curls for most of my life, so my change has been In product choice and technique. The change has been amazing, my hair looks and feels so much better. Sometimes he notices the difference, but mostly I think he just likes that I'm happy and feel pretty!

On the other hand, I tried telling my mom and lead with "I haven't brushed my hair in over a month!" She didn't even glance at my hair, she just snidely asked if I was trying to grow dreads... I wanted to reply that if I was going for dreads I would have made some progress towards that in a months time. Instead I explained the CG method and she then admitted that my hair did seem healthier.

The best reaction is from the women I work with who think it is fantastic and want to try it on their curly haired kids!

CurlyB_ 12-01-2012 06:22 AM

I've been trying to talk my mother into the CG method, as i have a 3 year old sister who has gor the most aodrable curls i've ever seen and i don't wabt my mom to destroy them by using agressive chemical products.
She only washes her hair once a week and during the restant 6 days she does NOTHING to her hair, no mosturizing, no dc, no pt.... It's making me really sad to see my sisters hair being destroyed like this! (last week my mom even had to cut some of her hair off because she had really bad dreadlocks at some spots)

I ordered deva no poo and one conditioner for me a few weeks ago and paid about 40€ (12oz) with shipping. Asked her if she also wanted me to order them for my sister (as i don't live at home anymore and she can't use mine with me) and she told me that 40€ is too expensive for hair products - i'd be ok with it, if i didn't knew that she pays 30€ every week for getting her hair straightened!!
I wish i could afford buying my sisters hair products, but i haven't been able to find any good and affordable products here in austria yet.

Sorry about letting my frustration out, but there isn't anyone else with whom i could "talk" about it...my friends think i'm exagerating and shouldn't mind because in the end it's just hair ...

Do you think i'm over reacting on this?

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ShubhoR 12-01-2012 09:35 AM

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Originally Posted by CurlyB_ (Post 2078785)
I've been trying to talk my mother into the CG method, as i have a 3 year old sister who has gor the most aodrable curls i've ever seen and i don't wabt my mom to destroy them by using agressive chemical products.
She only washes her hair once a week and during the restant 6 days she does NOTHING to her hair, no mosturizing, no dc, no pt.... It's making me really sad to see my sisters hair being destroyed like this! (last week my mom even had to cut some of her hair off because she had really bad dreadlocks at some spots)

I ordered deva no poo and one conditioner for me a few weeks ago and paid about 40€ (12oz) with shipping. Asked her if she also wanted me to order them for my sister (as i don't live at home anymore and she can't use mine with me) and she told me that 40€ is too expensive for hair products - i'd be ok with it, if i didn't knew that she pays 30€ every week for getting her hair straightened!!
I wish i could afford buying my sisters hair products, but i haven't been able to find any good and affordable products here in austria yet.

Sorry about letting my frustration out, but there isn't anyone else with whom i could "talk" about it...my friends think i'm exagerating and shouldn't mind because in the end it's just hair ...

Do you think i'm over reacting on this?

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Absolutely not. I have a 9 year old sister too, she has straight hair but it's dry and extremely prone to split ends. She isn't very patient and won't let me properly oil her hair before she shampoo.. Well I could go on and on about how her impatience and my mom's ignorance about good hair care just annoys me..but the thing is I understand your concern.
Maybe you can introduce your mom to this website . And you can start by telling her how regular straightening damages hair . If you can't find cheapie CG friendly products at the supermarkets, you can always go for natural stuff. Vinegar does clean hair gently and you can seal the moisture in with olive oil and castor oil. You can do this for your sister.
I live in a place where getting CG friendly products are barely available and buying online is not an option for me..i had to improvise.
Good luck ;)


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ShubhoR 12-01-2012 10:17 AM

It's probably not a good idea to use vinegar as a cleanser on a 3 year old child. A gentle shampoo will do I think but while the hair is still a bit wet to damp, sealing with a good oil should keep hair moisturized

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waterlily716 12-02-2012 04:26 PM

I've had some pretty weird reactions when I tell people I don't use shampoo.. Just check out the comments in some of my curly girl videos... smh. I think it's really a gut reaction people have, and they don't listen to the explanation behind it; they just make snap judgments.

But on the other hand I've had fairly positive reactions to it as well. I agree that saying no sulfates, no silicones is the way to go. Some of my friends and my mom have even asked me to type their products or recommend things without "bad ingredients." :) I've also discovered from other curlies that some of them avoid shampoo just like I do, without even knowing about curly girl. :)

The worst is when a girlfriend asks to borrow shampoo though lol. I just have to be like, sorry don't got none. Or hand them my no-lather cleansers, which isn't what they think of when they say "shampoo."

Tinfoilhat 12-02-2012 05:53 PM

I don't usually share my hair care practices unless someone ask me about it.

justdoingme 12-03-2012 01:39 PM

i've had people tell me that shampoo is damaging to their hair, and after explaining to them how it damages my hair as it's dry, i've had people say no your hair isn't dry. Like what?! And then people try to tell me that washing with conditioner is weird and it makes your hair greasy!

CurlyB_ 12-08-2012 06:32 AM

My mothers stylist just told her that her hair can't be healthy without using cones. WTH?

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Sandi 12-08-2012 02:14 PM

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Originally Posted by CurlyB_ (Post 2082533)
My mothers stylist just told her that her hair can't be healthy without using cones. WTH?

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It's pretty funny actually. A lot of hair people (people in the hair business) think that silicones are the greatest thing since sliced bread. I'm inclined to believe it's because (at least for the manufacturers) making such products is really cheap.

Sandi 12-08-2012 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by waterlily716 (Post 2079429)
I've had some pretty weird reactions when I tell people I don't use shampoo.. Just check out the comments in some of my curly girl videos... smh. I think it's really a gut reaction people have, and they don't listen to the explanation behind it; they just make snap judgments.

But on the other hand I've had fairly positive reactions to it as well. I agree that saying no sulfates, no silicones is the way to go. Some of my friends and my mom have even asked me to type their products or recommend things without "bad ingredients." :) I've also discovered from other curlies that some of them avoid shampoo just like I do, without even knowing about curly girl. :)

The worst is when a girlfriend asks to borrow shampoo though lol. I just have to be like, sorry don't got none. Or hand them my no-lather cleansers, which isn't what they think of when they say "shampoo."

I'm actually one of those curlies. I've pretty much avoided shampoo since I was about 8, because I hated the way it made my hair dry and brittle. I later found out about CG and was able to eliminate my silicone use accordingly.


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