bad haircut... AGAIN
So, last year I had a horrible haircut and spent about a year growing it out. I have recently been very satisfied with my hair, but was in desperate need of a trim because the ends were looking bad. I'm starting a new job soon and wanted a refresh.
My old stylist, who I love and does great work, has retired from doing hair :( So, I got a referral from a friend with very curly hair (her hair always looks good!) I went to her stylist, and the results were horrible!!!!
She cut the layers so much shorter than the length of my hair, when we discussed long layers ONLY. They do not blend in at all... in fact, a bunch of them on the right side and in the back actually stick out from the rest of the hair in a very noticeable way. It causes the underneath part (the longest part) to look long. thin and stringy, and the layers to fluff outward. I have several holiday parties coming up and am starting the new job soon, and I am feeling embarrassed and upset.
It takes such a long time for my hair to grow out, making this more frustrating. I do not want to re-cut it because I don't want to lose any more length... and I am not sure there is anything that can be done at this point without just letting it grow and maybe trimming up the length in a few weeks to even it out. My loved ones tell me it isn't bad and I am overreacting, but this is just so opposite of what I wanted I can't believe it.
I CANNOT UNDERSTAND why even "curly stylists" are so clueless. I know there are really wonderful stylists out there who do great work... but they are so few and far between it seems.
Any advice or love to help me understand or at least stop obsessing over this is appreciated :(
I feel for you!
I am so sorry this happened to you. I really understand what you are going through. I got a really really bad haircut this past July, and I'm still recovering from it. I too talked "long layers" to my stylist, and she even kept saying it as she cut....but after she was finished with me my hair looked like a style from the 80's. The shortest layers had been cut a little less than 2 inches from the top of my head!!!!! Not only did I want to cry after I left the salon, I did cry!!! The hard part about this when it happens to you is that there is absolutely nothing you can do to remedy it (except hair extensions, which believe me, I considered). What I ended up doing was trying to focus on something about myself that is an asset and play that up. I bought some pretty lip gloss and eyeliner and took extra time with my makeup so that I felt pretty for reasons other than my hair. I also learned to accept my new style and would often tuck it behind my ears and wear pretty earrings. I would do a side bang as well and use a straighting iron to smooth them out. Have you tried straightening your hair with your new style? That actually might look cute on you..... You will get through this. I'm STILL getting through it, my shortest layers are now long enough to put my hair in a pony tail, but I'm growing it out to all the same length at this point. I hope this helps a little. I know it's frustrating, but you'll get through it.:happy10:
Thank you so much for your support. I am just so frustrated :( I don't want to heat style it because I am trying to avoid damage, but I've been trying to use heavier products that add some weight (even though it's not my favorite look, I prefer it more bouncy). It's just depressing. It makes me so angry that these flippant hairdressers don't listen and we have to live with the consequences.
I will try focusing on one of my other assets. Maybe I will treat myself to some new makeup. I just feel so sad :(
Sorry you had to go through another bad hair cut. It really is kind of a gamble with curly hair, isn't it? I agree with your idea to keep away from damaging thermal processes. I like L2LMC's idea to take advantage of creative styling and makeup/earrings if you are so inclined.
Can recall styling with wide, cotton headbands after bad cuts. Or some sort of fun, classy looking headband or scarf. Even hats on occasion.
A little more involved idea for elongating your curls is to section your hair (while wet) and execute some finger twist curls. You might "fuse" some of the shorter hair into that long under-layer of your hair that you say looks straggly. Then, you could just let it all dry that way. Once it dries you could even take those dry twists and gently pull them apart into more elongated curls. (A modified "twist out" style.)
I bet you'll figure out something that works for you. I know it's tough, especially at first. Some of us are battle worn from all the bad cuts we've racked up. Sorry you're part of our club but thank God hair grows back, right? :blob:
oh hunny i am so sorry and believe me when i saw i feel for you :(
i've been trying to grow my hair out for years. in march of this year i wound up going to a different hair stylist (i had an opportunity to go somewhere expensive for free. i thought this was a good idea) I said no layers and he ignored!! i lost some length but the layers didn't even fall correctly- sounds so similar to what you are explaining. they just kind of hang there awkwardly and my longest parts look scraggly and weird. i was so frustrated!!:angry5:
then i needed a trim in sept bc i'm prone to split ends so when i went to my usual girl of over a year, instea of trimming she somehow made those stupid layers even worse!!! i'm pretty sure my sides aren't even now and they just hand awkward and annoy the crap out of me.
sorry to hear you are going through this. but i can certainly relate. i wish i can give you better advice.
scalp massage 2-3nights a week with stimulating growth oils seems to be helping my hair grow. not like miracle or super fast or anything, but i do feel it helps.
from now on, i'm trimming my own hair because i don't think i can make my hair look any worse then it does right now
Thanks ladies. I think I am going to invest in some new hair accessories too. I really love my flexi 8 so maybe ill get more of those for half up styles. I also tried something new today sort of what Korkscrew described where I basically intertwine the short bits with the longer ones. It's not great but a little better maybe.
It sounds like many of us have experienced this same crappy haircut! Diane, I think I will look into cutting it myself too. I don't think I could make anymore of a mess than these stylists do!!! For the record I watch your videos and think your hair looks great :) but I know how it is when we see the uneven parts and have the difficulty of styling it even if others think its good.
Thank you all for the support. I literally cried about this and felt so stupid but it helps to know I'm not alone!
Don't feel stupid! I'm so sorry you got a bad cut. I've been growing mine out since last December when I asked for a trim, and he copped my chin-length hair to around my ears/jaw :( In the back, it was so short, he used a shaver.
Well, over the past year of growing it out, I've learned a lot about my hair. For instance, how much it curls short vs. long, how headbands can completely fix a bad style, how I can use bows and clips, what length I need for a ponytail on a bad day...
I would take advantage of this and use it to experiment! Maybe in trying new methods and styles, you'll find one that really flatters your hair :)
thanks for watching my vids & for the compliment jaclyn!
i'm slowly learning how to use a bit of pomade on the layered ends to kind of make them blend a little bit better.
and you are def not stupid for feeling bad about the haircut. feel free to message me anytime if u need someone to vent to about it!
it really blows my mind how hair stylists can't accept the term "trim" its frustrating
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