mebarb

It's true that I have some damaged hair, but not all of it. I was just at my hairdresser who said she would go slowly so I wouldn't suddenly have very short curly hair. But it was looking frizzy and the damage was showing so it was time to do something. She held her fingers at about 1/2" to show me what she was going to cut off. She cut it dry.

But she just kept cutting - places she said looked very damaged. She said she had to cut a little near the top where it really looked bad. Again, she kept cutting. I didn't pay much attention because the first haircut she gave me was very good.

Well, I couldn't believe my eyes when she got done - at my jaw. (before it was about an inch above my shoulders). It spooked me out when I saw it! I hoped like anything that when it was washed it would look good, but oh, was I ever wrong! SHRINKAGE, SHRINKAGE, SHRINKAGE!!!!!!

I hate it so much. It's a pretty tight curl, so if we died it purple and put a hairnet on it, I would look exactly like the image of the old lady we all have in our minds!

She is excellent at highlighting. She says she goes about 5 times a year and retrains with Lorraine Massey. When she talks about "curly girl" she has so much knowledge. But I think she went Edward Scissorshands on me! I don't know what to do because I have no one else to go to. Also, I know that I have damage left that needs to be cut off. She did not schedule me for a haircut next month. She said it will take about 6 months for all the damage to be gone.

Should I go in a talk to her about it? Or should I find someone else? I really don't want to leave the house like this.

HELP!

GoddessCurls

Aw Hun, I'm so sorry. I know how bad that can be. I wish I had an answer for u...on the bright side it's probably super healthy. Maybe take supplements to help it grow. Maybe look to heavier leave ins to help weigh it down to combat shrinkage. Get some cute headbands maybe.

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mhen76

You may want to kindly let her know that you are having doubts about the haircut before you give up on her. Your hair may have been more damaged than you thought. It's really difficult to leave your hair in the hands of professionals then be unhappy with the results. My bet is she wants to keep you as a customer and will do what she can to rectify the situation and get you looking presentable. Maybe show you some different styling techniques you can use until your hair gets the length you want it. She can't put the hair back but damaged hair isn't going to give us good results either. After talking with her, if you still think you need to find someone else, then by all means do it. I just think you should talk with her first. Good luck to you!

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Jessiebanana

While she should have definitely respected your wishes, was your hair really damaged? I'd rather have it short and healthy and work with that than have nasty looking damaged hair.

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rbb

try different styles, maybe wearing it more to the side, or to the front, or pushed back???
and headbands! hides the length, let your curl come up over it. can look like you are wearing sort of an up style.
also, if you went in with hair an inch above shoulder length, and came out with jaw-length hair, that is not a big difference. it is more than 1/2", but not a lot more.
let your hair settle in, experiment with products and accessories, and your hair will grow. if the length is too short now, i'd wait much more than one month before i went back.
we've all been there.

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