I hate when people say my hair is...

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The people who say "It looks better straight" when it's curly, are also the same ones who say "It looks better curly" when it's straight.

Make up your minds people!

I get the "Where did you get your perm done???" a lot. They look so disappointed when I tell them it's natural....
Originally Posted by MojoDojo
Yeah I've had people tell me my hair looks better straight or curly! Now most say they like it curly... And straight!
I hate when people ask if my hair is real!
Originally Posted by l.deon
Haha lots of my friends complain about that one I think I've gotten asked that a few times
You should straiten it!

it irritates me so much cause they don't understand just how much time that would take.
Originally Posted by ultracurlz
Yeah and in a way that's saying they don't like your hair the way it is! Like somebody else said, tell them they should curl THEIR hair!
For me the one that really takes the cake is, "are you bringing the 70s/80s man perm back?" I didn't even do that when it was popular for guys to do it.
Not curl related, but I have been asked ALL my life about coloring my hair. I've had people tell me that I need to redo my hair. In the summer, it is the worst. My ends turn bleachy blond, but the roots are dark. One lady swore I colored my hair. I told her over and over again that I didn't. She told me that I was lying. Ugh

In fact, I've only colored my hair three times in my life. I have only used the wash out kind that only lasts a month....red. I've always been petrified to do anything more permanent because I've heard horror stories about blond hair and dye.

My dd tells me my hair is really in style now and that people pay lots of money for it. They call it ombre. Whatever.
Not curl related, but I have been asked ALL my life about coloring my hair. I've had people tell me that I need to redo my hair. In the summer, it is the worst. My ends turn bleachy blond, but the roots are dark. One lady swore I colored my hair. I told her over and over again that I didn't. She told me that I was lying. Ugh

In fact, I've only colored my hair three times in my life. I have only used the wash out kind that only lasts a month....red. I've always been petrified to do anything more permanent because I've heard horror stories about blond hair and dye.

My dd tells me my hair is really in style now and that people pay lots of money for it. They call it ombre. Whatever.
Originally Posted by Curlee'smom
That whole "__ type of hair is in style now" is irritating LOL For years now I've been hearing folks say "curly hair is in now". As if a natural type of hair should be talked about that way. It suggests straight hair is normal and everything else is fashionable. Anyway, who cares whether or not curly or straight or blond or brown or red hair is in style? That's a non-compliment trying to act like a compliment ... I get why you're annoyed w/your DD's remark, even though it sounds like he's just trying to be nice.
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Not curl related, but I have been asked ALL my life about coloring my hair. I've had people tell me that I need to redo my hair. In the summer, it is the worst. My ends turn bleachy blond, but the roots are dark. One lady swore I colored my hair. I told her over and over again that I didn't. She told me that I was lying. Ugh

In fact, I've only colored my hair three times in my life. I have only used the wash out kind that only lasts a month....red. I've always been petrified to do anything more permanent because I've heard horror stories about blond hair and dye.

My dd tells me my hair is really in style now and that people pay lots of money for it. They call it ombre. Whatever.
Originally Posted by Curlee'smom
That whole "__ type of hair is in style now" is irritating LOL For years now I've been hearing folks say "curly hair is in now". As if a natural type of hair should be talked about that way. It suggests straight hair is normal and everything else is fashionable. Anyway, who cares whether or not curly or straight or blond or brown or red hair is in style? That's a non-compliment trying to act like a compliment ... I get why you're annoyed w/your DD's remark, even though it sounds like he's just trying to be nice.
Originally Posted by Korkscrew
Korkscrew, I can always count on you to talk sense. As a guy, I see a lot of going the shaved head look after losing their hair. I did that look in college about 15 years ago. We hear the "bald is beautiful" line. No thanks, I'll keep my curls as long as I have them.
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I've never had anyone say things like the above about my hair... most either compliment it, or don't say anything.

However, today I went to get my hair cut by a new stylist who "loves to work with curls" and after having a discussion about how much I love my curls, how much I take care of them, etc etc etc... he asks "so, do you want me to straighten it for you?"

I was speechless.
~Give me a head with hair,
long beautiful hair ~
I hate it when people say

"ITs messy"
" did you even brush your hair?"

"you have black people hair"

"i like it better when its not straight or curly, but inbetween"
I've never had anyone say things like the above about my hair... most either compliment it, or don't say anything.

However, today I went to get my hair cut by a new stylist who "loves to work with curls" and after having a discussion about how much I love my curls, how much I take care of them, etc etc etc... he asks "so, do you want me to straighten it for you?"

I was speechless.
Originally Posted by nattykins
That's horrific. Maybe he thought your hair was too curly for him to manage. Some of these stylists are mostly dealing with wavy or slightly curly hair when they say "curly". It's possible hair as thick and curly as yours or mine frightens them to their core and all they can think of is taming it.
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CurlyB - I had the same comment from my SO. Believe me, he only said it once!

A comment I've had a few times over the years is "I bet you hate it" or "you must hate it". Umm, why must I?

(I actually don't like it but that's not an assumption I think other people should be making)
3b in South Australia.
CurlyB - I had the same comment from my SO. Believe me, he only said it once!

A comment I've had a few times over the years is "I bet you hate it" or "you must hate it". Umm, why must I?

(I actually don't like it but that's not an assumption I think other people should be making)
Originally Posted by Starmie
Do you think those people were just jealous of your hair when they asked if you hate it? I ask because one time a lady said this to me and she happened to have straight hair that was thinning and dull looking.

Then again, I also wonder if some folks ask that for innocent reasons - because lots of times curlies respond to a compliment with things like, "I can't stand my hair" or "It's Hell to take care of". Maybe those ppl are used to hearing curly ppl gripe about their curls. Just some thoughts.
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I hate when people put their hands in my hair and say all surprised "wow, it's actually really soft."

It ticks me off this is such a shocker. Like what makes them think my hair wouldn't be soft? Actually my hair can easily become OC.
I haven't gotten "you should straighten it" so much as "you should cut it". The implication is my hair is too much. I usually get this from women - they think it will be more tame and tidy if it is short. But um, no. I've tried that. It is still big hair, just shorter. Unless I use a good deal of heat, my hair will not be completely tamed. And even then, there is no guarantee. I usually want to tell these peeps, if you don't like my hair and feel the need to say something, take it up with God.
Originally Posted by tricello
I get that too. Some relatives told me I have too much hair. Actually they said "you need to cut that mess off!!" i was thinking of cutting before that because my hair is super dense but now they ticked me off i let it grow grow grow. Actually their hair is breaking off and falling out from relaxers.
I hate when people put their hands in my hair and say all surprised "wow, it's actually really soft."

It ticks me off this is such a shocker. Like what makes them think my hair wouldn't be soft? Actually my hair can easily become OC.
Originally Posted by adthomas
Silly people. I wish they could hear themselves ... you know, if they could get themselves to imagine if someone said that same thing to them
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CurlyB - I had the same comment from my SO. Believe me, he only said it once!

A comment I've had a few times over the years is "I bet you hate it" or "you must hate it". Umm, why must I?

(I actually don't like it but that's not an assumption I think other people should be making)
Originally Posted by Starmie
Do you think those people were just jealous of your hair when they asked if you hate it? I ask because one time a lady said this to me and she happened to have straight hair that was thinning and dull looking.

Then again, I also wonder if some folks ask that for innocent reasons - because lots of times curlies respond to a compliment with things like, "I can't stand my hair" or "It's Hell to take care of". Maybe those ppl are used to hearing curly ppl gripe about their curls. Just some thoughts.
Originally Posted by Korkscrew
I think you're probably right on both counts. I know I'm guilty of moaning about my hair and, as you say, many curlies are prone to similar negative comments about theirs, so it's maybe not such a stretch that people have that assumption.
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3b in South Australia.
Like you, I'm guilty of moaning about my hair at times too in response to a compliment ... Lately I've been trying to just say thanks and leave it at that LOL ... A couple times though I've gone overboard and acted a little cocky, saying things like, "Yeah, thanks, I think my hair is wonderful too"
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I've never had anyone say things like the above about my hair... most either compliment it, or don't say anything.

However, today I went to get my hair cut by a new stylist who "loves to work with curls" and after having a discussion about how much I love my curls, how much I take care of them, etc etc etc... he asks "so, do you want me to straighten it for you?"

I was speechless.
Originally Posted by nattykins
Oh wow! That's amazing.
Totally hate when people say taking care of curly hair would be easier!
Uh you have no idea!
I hate when people ask if I used a curling iron. Like I've got time to stand around curling all my hair every morning. lol

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Poo: Garnier Fructis Pure Clean (yes, it has A Sulfate!!, but I have Teflon hair)
Co-wash (when I feel so inclined, which isn't often!): VO5 Kiwi Lime Clarifying Conditioner
Conditioner/LI:
same for both -- whatever I have in the shower at the time (I experiment a lot)
Style: EcoStyler Olive Oil <3
Dry: Diffuse or air dry, or both...depends on my mood

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