New to the Forum: Really sad about my curly hair

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Hi! After reading and reading everything on the forum, I finally made an account! I can't decide if I have 3a or 3b hair but here is how I would describe it: REALLY thick, REALLY dry, REALLY frizzy, REALLY poofy and REALLY REALLY INSANE LOOKING!!! I really want to love having curly hair but my curls look awful. My hair is so thick that the bottom of my hair kind of fans out as if I have an umbrella of curls on the top of my head. I only wash my hair about 3 times a week but it is so, so dry. Here is my regimen: I wash my hair at about 5:00 then put in a curl cream and an anti-frizz cream in and let it air dry all night. I put it in a loose braid while i sleep. The next day, my hair just looks frizzy, not even curly. I am so frustrated with my hair. It has the potential to be gorgeous but I guess I am doing everything wrong. Does anyone have any advice?
Welcome to the forum!
There is a lot of information on this site and on the web so it can be overwhelming if you are just starting out.

If you are washing your hair three times a week I hope you aren't using sulfates. Washing your hair with shampoo too often can cause dryness and If your hair isn't getting enough moisture it will be dry. Maybe you should try a deep treatment each week and see if that helps with the dryness. I'm sure there is a lot of info on here about how to deep condition your hair and other methods and suggestions to help combat dryness. The search bar is your friend

At the beginning of a healthy hair journey it's best to cut out all bad habits. Read some of the articles on the site, there are some great ones on how to care for curly hair, what to do and what not to do.

Treating your hair gently, caring for it, cutting out all the harmful products and replacing them with products that work for your hair as well as developing a new and improved routine are some of the first steps I took when I decided to commit to my curly hair. Avoiding heat most of the time was also a vital part of taking good care of my curls.

I think when you find the right products for your hair you will be able to tame the frizz. Also maybe letting your hair dry in the braid overnight is ruining your curl formation. Personally I can't braid my hair when I go to bed because my curls won't be nice and formed they would be squashed and flat. I use the pineapple method before bed and I make sure I wash my hair with enough time for it to air dry before bed but there are other methods that may work for you and I'm sure if you search for it on here you will find some options and styling suggestions to help you develop your routine.

good luck!
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Last edited by Ericachristina; 01-15-2013 at 08:21 PM.
Hi! After reading and reading everything on the forum, I finally made an account! I can't decide if I have 3a or 3b hair but here is how I would describe it: REALLY thick, REALLY dry, REALLY frizzy, REALLY poofy and REALLY REALLY INSANE LOOKING!!! I really want to love having curly hair but my curls look awful. My hair is so thick that the bottom of my hair kind of fans out as if I have an umbrella of curls on the top of my head. I only wash my hair about 3 times a week but it is so, so dry. Here is my regimen: I wash my hair at about 5:00 then put in a curl cream and an anti-frizz cream in and let it air dry all night. I put it in a loose braid while i sleep. The next day, my hair just looks frizzy, not even curly. I am so frustrated with my hair. It has the potential to be gorgeous but I guess I am doing everything wrong. Does anyone have any advice?
Originally Posted by PurpleCurls93
Some things you learn from trial and error. Some things you learn from naturally curly.

One, start shampooing less. Maybe once a week at most. Even better check out the curly girl method

How to Follow the Curly Girl Method for Curly Hair: 15 steps

and maybe you could try the no-poo route which means not shampooing at all (just conditioner washing) or using a sulfate free gentle cleanser.

Two, up your conditioner usage. Seriously. More conditioner = less frizz and less volume.

Three, figure out your hair's properties. Go to livecurlylivefree.com and read up. It's a font of information.

Four, go get your hair reshaped if you can. The fact that you are getting a shelf or umbrella look means whoever last cut your hair did not do it correctly. I'd get a stylist who has curly hair because I don't trust those who don't have it. You can use the search bar under "salons" at this site I believe to find a curly hair specialist in your area if you want. And read the reviews. I always use yelp reviews before I try someone new.

Five, I'd recommend styling your hair differently than you are now because it's obviously not working. There are many ways to style from scrunching and pumping to raking then scrunching to this super soaker thing I just heard about and yeah it makes my head hurt too. Nevertheless I've already found a quite simple routine that works for the most part. I also have 3A/3B hair that is thick and it turns out even thicker than I thought since I was recently told its coarse. Nevertheless it looks very pretty, shiny and coily since I've given up products that contain sulfates and silicones and started styling a different way.

Again I cannot emphasize enough the fact that your hair properties are super important in figuring out what products will and won't work for you. Please research that first. Since we have similar curl patterns though I am posting my whole styling routine to show how simple it can be for some folks.


I wash and style in the morning so that my hair can air dry the way I styled it and it looks nice throughout the day. It doesn't take me long. I conditioner wash although I recently have been tinkering with that since the co-wash I was using I think may've been causing product buildup and irritating my poor scalp with a nasty preservative it contained. So the past few days I've been gently washing my scalp in the shower with diluted tea tree oil. It's already made a world of difference as my scalp is no longer itchy or dry. Then on the rest of my hair just past my crown I slather on conditioner. I let it sit and then detangle very gently with a wide toothed comb. That is the LAST TIME I detangle my hair because I want to encourage my hair to clump and not frizz. I rinse then get out of the shower and apply kinky curly knot today leave-in conditioner all over my sopping wet hair (maybe three quarters' size worth, I have long hair) until my hair has the consistency of slick seaweed. Then I take my microfiber towel and scrunch up absorbing as much excess water as I can. Then I take my kinky curly curling custard and apply liberally on either side of my hair (although I've been experimenting with sectioning my hair in four) and scrunch up. I let it air dry (usually takes an hour or an hour and a half) and my hair ends up looking very pretty.

Don't give up. Your hair is probably gorgeous and has lots of curl potential but you don't realize it. Try and look at pictures of you hair when you were really young maybe. My hair was so curly as a child and it is only recently that I can begin to see glimpses of that kid again minus the frizz. You're in the right place. This site is lots of fun and the ladies on the forum are very helpful. Keep reading and experimenting. And try not to buy any products that are very expensive until you know your properties.
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Good advice from both above. Definitely don't braid at night if you want curls. You're keeping it from curling. If you pineapple, hair doesn't have to be 100% dry - I often do it with mine a bit damp, and it actually gives me more lift on top the next day from it having dried that way.

Sounds like you need a good cut with layering from what you say about its physical shape.

Really, really check out www.livecurlylivefree.com - you'll learn more in that one place in a shorter amount of time than about anywhere - everything from washing, conditioning, etc. to styling and cutting. Tiffany (known here by username Struttswife) is a curly herself, and practices what she teaches. Many, many here have gone to her for cuts and advice.

Watch for someone here who seems to have hair similar ato yours and "stalk" them to see what they're doing and using and how.
2C/3A/3B - modified CG - med./fine, normal/low porosity/normal elasticity

Current Main Rotation: MG217 medicated or Aim2Health 'poos for scalp, YTCarrots or Elucence cond., Spiral Solutions Protein & Deeply Decadent Cond., CJCCCC reg or lite, KCCC, Giovanni LA Hold Hair Spritz + lots more, sporadically

HG Method: Super Soaker + Smasters-ing, brief upside down diffusing w/360o diffuser then clips/clamps & air dry. Newly gray - stopped my henna glosses!

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