Sometimes, curly hair isn't all we want to make it out to be

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For a long time I held a lot of pride in my curly hair. I loved it, I got lots of compliments on it and I thought it defined me.

But, to be honest, curly hair is very high maintenance. It takes forever to dry, endless amount of product, lots of care (pineappling, plopping, diffusing, sotc, checking the weather!!!).

It may be beautiful, it may be sexy and it may be very unique. But its NOT by any means convenient.

So in spite of all the doubts and the fear of letting go of my curly mane, I cut it into a pixie...

And have never been happier with myself.

I no longer have a head full of beautiful red curls, but I have confort, zero bad-hair days; I don't need to spend a lot of time styling or money on products to achieve fabulous curls... I feel I can focus my time and efforts I finding other beautiful things in me instead of feeling frustrated when my hair is not cooperating.

Curls are magnificent but, sometimes, it's ok to let go of them.

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3A: med/coarse texture; high porosity
<3 Honey rinses
Loto, would love to see pictures.
Not everyone looks good with a pixie haircut. I'm glad it works for you!
*3B, medium/fine, normal porosity, normal elasticity, shoulder-length when dry.
I totally agree with you loto! My husband is very supportive of me ,but sometimes when I tell him how people compliment me of my curly hair, he would say "did you tell them that you did put in efforts to get it to look that beautiful?" I dont blame him. I was not mad at him coz he was not harsh on me. He made me realize the fact.

We would love to see your pixie cut by the way
3a with some 2a-2c, Medium/Low Porosity
Co-wash:deva no-poo/Vo5 kiwi
Detangle:Suave
Leave-in:Shea Moisture/GVP conditioning Balm/AOHSR

Since long hair- I finger twist in big chunks, which helps till 5th day hair
Gel:LA sports
Plop: Old T-shirt for 15 minutes ,diffuse
good for you! i wore a close to shaved look for a few years before getting tired of having to cut so often to maintain it.

i've since grown that out and have struggled with how to best care for my curls. i'd spend hours washing and styling to get perfect definition and zero frizz. i've since freed myself from that routine.

i wash my hair when i feel like it. styling takes less than 5 min if that long. i don't rinse out conditioner, just squish some gel in, and just go. i don't bother with it again until the next time i decide to wash it. which could be two weeks later. all i do is wake up, shake out my curls and go.

frizz no longer bothers me, i embrace it.

i love what you said, "Curls are magnificent but, sometimes, it's ok to let go of them. "

brilliant statement.
3c-4b. probably.
medium/coarse texture.
(extremely)high density.
low porosity, normal elasticity.
co-wash: suave naturals daily clarifying condish with drops of rosemary oil.
detangling conditioner: tresemme naturals.
deep conditioner: curly kinks curlycue renew, b.a.s.k. cacao bark, honey/evoo.
I think it's great you're enjoying the freedom of your new cut. Whatever your hair type, going really short sometimes can be liberating and look really good.

To be honest, for most of the time I've had my hair naturally curly it was very low maintenance - I used a cheap shampoo and conditioner (often probably with cones), applied a coney serum or a curl cream in about 1 minute max and just let air dry. I never knew or thought about any of the issues like product or technique or weather that we discuss here. My hair was in great condition and I was happy with my curls - they may not have been at their maximum potential or looked like some of the hair on here, but it was fine and it was easy.

I discovered CG and all the tips here after my hair got damaged by highlights being left on too long at a salon, and since then it has become more difficult. I can't go back to my old methods as shampoo would be too tangling, also now I have found out all this info I want to give it a try. But I think if your hair is undamaged it shouldn't be necessary to do all of it if you don't want to. It is great to do it all and make the most of your curls if you're enjoying it, but if it is a problem then there are easier ways. Now if you are gray or colouring gray it might be harder to keep condition and style easily, not sure but I'm guessing I may find out all too soon. I know it isn't easy for everyone to maintain even undamaged hair, and can only speak for myself, and right now I've been tempted to do something similar to you sometimes!

Anyway, congrats on going for it and good news that you love it! I think you're spot on that we can let go of things and obsessions sometimes. Actually in a way I'm trying to not worry too much about perfect curls in the sense that my curls fall out so quick since the colour damage, but I'm trying to be happy with very loose waves second day if they are not too puffy and frizzy, trying to tell myself if it looks ok it doesn't matter if it isn't curling much.

Pixie cuts are so cool too!
UK based wavy

Mostly waves, but curls and straight bits too!
Fine to medium, high porosity, medium density, very low elasticity
Highlights damage (growing it out), seems to like protein and need lots of moisture.

Cleanse - CJDF, trying out low poos ; Co wash- Uk chemist brands, Urtekram Rose or Aloe, Hairveda Amala Cream Rinse; RO - varies, Tigi Moisture Maniac, Desert Essence Coconut ; Leave in - Keracare natural textures; Sealant - argan oil
Trying out new things, still looking.

Last edited by lucyprimrose; 02-20-2013 at 11:59 AM.
I love me a good pixie cut. The only problem is they're expensive to maintain when your hair grows out as fast as mine does. But think of all the time and effort and products you're saving money on. (Yes, time and effort is money. It's opportunity loss.) It probably evens out. I agree with the others. I'd love to see it. I think most people can pull of a pixie cut or short hair cut, it just needs to be tailored to their face.
3A - C, HP, ME, HD. (Coarse, High Porosity, Medium Elasticity, High Density.)

CG since Nov. 2012

Poos: SM Moisture Retention + Yucca Baobab, TJ's Tea Tree Tingle
Condish: TJ 'sTea Tree Tingle*, SM Moisture Retention* + Curl & Shine + Yucca Baobab, Yes to Blueberries
Stylers: KCKT*, SM Curl Enhancing Smoothie* + Curl & Style Milk*, KCCC*, FSG*, CJ Pattern Pusha, Curl Keeper
Sealers: Jojoba* or Grapeseed* oil

* = HG

I had a pretty short cut at one point and loved it. It was SO easy to maintain and the curls just enhanced it. If I could get rid of all this baby weight I would cut it again in a heartbeat. I just love the funkiness of it.
Rae ~ 2c/3a ~
Wife to a 3c Curly Guy
Mom to a straight and a curly.


"The Longer the Hair, the Bigger the Blob."

Porous, very dense but fine hair. Medium everything else.
CoWash: Tressemee naturals
RO: Generic biolage and generic joico k-pak
LI: Tresemee
Miss Jessie's Pillow soft curls, diffuse 50%, add KCCC and diffuse to 80%.
Always wash upside down.
I think most people can pull of a pixie cut or short hair cut, it just needs to be tailored to their face.
Originally Posted by dusalocks
I don't think it could ever work on me. :( I'm jealous of other people who can pull it off.
*3B, medium/fine, normal porosity, normal elasticity, shoulder-length when dry.
OP, I agree. When I first went CG I stressed so much about what to use and ingredients and dew points and went crazy. Could never achieve "perfect" hair. Now, almost 2 years later, there's very little change in my naked hair. Decided my hair wasn't all that damaged to begin with... which makes sense, since I didn't straighten every day (maybe once a week at most) and mostly put it into a ponytail. But I'd convinced myself that since I used a sulfate poo, conditioners with 'cones, and sometimes straightened that it had to be SO damaged.

Now I do whatever I feel like with it. Proper technique and cutting out heavy 'cones has given me 99% of my good hair days. I did quit highlighting and did start using protein. Sometimes I go all out and go for a great curly day, and sometimes I just wash it and put it up. That's what I've done all week to be honest. Cowashing doesn't work for me, but so what. I still sulfate poo once a week. My hair is fine and easily OC'd and frankly, it loves a good sulfate wash. I buck the "rules" and do what works for me. If I want to straighten it, I do. I don't feel like "myself" anymore with it straight so I don't do it often, but sometimes it's a fun change. As long as I don't notice it getting damaged, I'm fine with it. It's my hair, I want to love it and have fun with it, not stress over it 24/7.
fine, thin, normal/(low?) porosity. Mod-CG. Usually I can't co-wash more than 1x a week, & sometimes I have to use T-Gel in rotation due to scalp issues.

Co-wash: VO5 Volumizing
Poo: Giovanni 50:50
RO:TN, Nexxus Youth Renewal, Alba Coconut
LI: KCKT
PT: gelatin PT, ION EC
Stylers: Giovanni mousse, TIGI Curls Rock amplifier (a-cone), Curls Rock Strong Hold Mousse
Gels: SCC spray gel

I could never get away with one - but am envious of those who can!!!

If love to see a pic, too, b&a would be nice!
2c/3a/3b, Fine/med, Dense, high porous, & normal elas.

Lo-poo - Renpure Keratin, SMR, Giovanni SaS
clarifying - mix Johnson's H2T with low poo
Co-wash - Suave Nats. clar. or coco.
RO - GVPCB, Ion Eff. Care, TN.
LI - SMR, Cure Care, or RO
Seal - MO or Jojoba
DT - + honey, ACV, & EVOO to SM masque & GVPCB
PT - Gelatin!, CNPF
Styling - FSG, AIF, BRHG, LALS/PS, GF curl spray gel, SM Souffle/Smoothie, LOOB
Oils - MO!, EVOO, jojoba, GSO, SM Elixer, EVCO, VO5 Hairdressing
Oh ye of little faith, guys. Pixie cuts can be tailored to any face shape I promise. Even rounder ones. You can have a graduated pixie cut that's longer in some parts and helps frame the face. I'm so good at it. I can often flip through a fashion magazine and fine a cut/shape that will suit a friend. I convinced my roommate to cut her hair short some years ago and she looked like a fashion model afterwards. However I love long hair just as much as short. I don't understand the obsession with it though. On this site I notice a lot of people have crazy length goals like waist. That just sounds like a lot of maintenance and added expense to me. (Especially since curly hair tends to eat product.) It also can be hazard. I had hair that long as kid and it would get caught in chairs, on door handles, zippers. One time my father closed the passenger side window in the car just as particularly strong wind had tossed my hair out the window. I guess I'm lucky I wasn't scalped.
3A - C, HP, ME, HD. (Coarse, High Porosity, Medium Elasticity, High Density.)

CG since Nov. 2012

Poos: SM Moisture Retention + Yucca Baobab, TJ's Tea Tree Tingle
Condish: TJ 'sTea Tree Tingle*, SM Moisture Retention* + Curl & Shine + Yucca Baobab, Yes to Blueberries
Stylers: KCKT*, SM Curl Enhancing Smoothie* + Curl & Style Milk*, KCCC*, FSG*, CJ Pattern Pusha, Curl Keeper
Sealers: Jojoba* or Grapeseed* oil

* = HG

I am surprised by how much attention this curly hair thing takes. I spent less time fussing about my hair when I straightened all the time. The big negative to curly can be that it is variable based on weather, product, and technique. Straight is just straight.
High Density, High Porosity, Medium Texture, 3B with some kink

DT: SS DDMT - HG
Lo-Poo: No Preference
Co-wash: CJ Smoothing Conditioner
RO: CJ Strengthening Conditioner - HG
LI: CK Satin Roots
Styler: CK Coil Jam
Other Likes: Castor Oil; CK Twist Whip, MD CSC
Dislikes: Wheat Protein; Aloe LIs or Stylers

Maybe I'm just naturally high maintenance but I don't have that much trouble with my hair (at least not anymore). I know which products to use, I can get up to 5th day hair easy and I use the same products no matter what the weather.
I have actually found that shorter hair is harder for me. Its harder to style, it doesn't hold curls for as long so I have to restyle it more often. And yeah it would be super annoying to have to cut it all the time I don't know how boys do it.
Long hair I can just moisturize, put in a braid and I look super cute. Especially when my workplace requires you to wear your hair up all the time. My short curls will be swished in a hat causing MORE restyling.
Short hair requires constant wash & gos and I love buns and braids and twists too. Short hair annoys me so much lol I much prefer, medium to longer lengths.
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Fine Strands, High Density, Low Porosity
CG since August 2011
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I agree, as far as hair goes in general. I also believe anyone can wear their hair short. We shouldn't wrap so much of our looks into hair anyway.

I will say that being CG is as complicated as you want to make it. I use three products max. I'm not like some people with their paragraph routines. I do use pricier products, but I also eat organic foods and five million allergies! I'd do it anyway.

And I'd take straight easy to manage hair in a heart beat. I could care less about being unique.
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Last edited by Jessiebanana; 02-22-2013 at 10:40 AM.
I see your point, but 'tons of product' or even any, is not a given. I don't use product and my hair's fine. It's not always needed.






BSL stretched (longest it's ever been and growing rapidly!), past shoulder curly. Hair goal is hip length.

3a-b/f-m/ii. Soft and silky texture and prone to tangles. Can't get second day hair, even if I kissed the feet of fairy's

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On this site I notice a lot of people have crazy length goals like waist. That just sounds like a lot of maintenance and added expense to me.
Originally Posted by dusalocks
My hair goal is hip length (while curly) it might be more maintanence but

A) It's what I want for my hair.

B) I'll be less fussed about the perfect-ness of the curls, so it may actually be LESS maintenance

C) I don't use any products but conditioner to wash my hair with, so, not really any extra expense.
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BSL stretched (longest it's ever been and growing rapidly!), past shoulder curly. Hair goal is hip length.

3a-b/f-m/ii. Soft and silky texture and prone to tangles. Can't get second day hair, even if I kissed the feet of fairy's

Follow me on Instagram! Weightlossandcurls.


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