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I recently cut my hair into an asymmetrical short cut. One side is chin length and the other side gradually gets longer. The very front piece touches my shoulder.
I feel awesome! I feel sassy, unique, and more feminine! Everyone told me to not cut it and that short hair would make me look boyish or mom-ish. ( the mom thing is kinda rude toward the mamas out there!) why do people feel this way toward short styles ? Miley Cyrus's hair look wicked cute to me... I admire her brave decision to go that short, but people say she looks ugly now!
Sorry about the rant, I love healthy long hair but I also love a cute short cut. Why is society so negative towards women having short hair!? Opinions!?!?
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I have almost BSL hair now, but I've been growing it out from a near pixi that I got while pregnant with my 2nd kid. I got it before I knew I was pregnant so it wasn't the mom cut. I just love short hair cuts! I think it's sassy, and hot.
While pregnant my hair grew super fast so dh dared me to grow it "as long as I could handle". I can't believe how long it is, but I still long for the short cut. Especially with the heat starting!

I think a woman should do her hair in whatever way makes me feel the most like herself and the sexiest. If you feel ugly with long hair than chop it! If you feel self conscious with short grow it. Beauty is in diversity! If we all were the same, no one would stand out.
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What is kinda funny is the fact that more men like my new cut than ladies do! My roommate hasn't really said anything about it, she is obsessed with long karshasian length hair so she probably dislikes it regardless if it looks good on me or not. She keeps saying that short hair is what moms get over and over again. She has long BSL 2a-2b waves that she fries from blow drying it straight every day, and to be honest I find her hair unhealthy and boring. Not trying to be mean but I think her hair would be prettier if she let it be wavy and lost a few inches of dead ends.
I feel more feminine wearing my wavy hair down in the funky bob than throwing it up in a messy bun allll the time. I think society needs a reality check!
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Long hair is always feminine while short hair can be feminine or masculine. I don't like Miley's haircut or color, but I like the same cut on Pink, Halle and Winona Ryder. Miley doesn't look ugly; I just think it isn't the most flattering on her.Super short hair is hard to pull off. It draws attention to the face so it only works for those who have certain face shapes and features.

Mom hair or the matronly look refers to the fact that lots of mothers neglect their looks because they are tired and have little time to worry about themselves. Obviously there are mothers who have found a balance, but many struggle.

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I think attitude toward short hair will shift over the next few years as the cascading long hair trend evolves into something else. Short hair has enjoyed just as much prominence as long hair has over the decades, the 20's and 30's are a pretty good example. Also the 80's, volume was far more important than length. It depends on culture, too.

The asymmetrical style has evolved in response to the Kardashian/Repunzel look. It was only a matter of time before people started wanting an alternative to clumping piles of messy hair on top of their heads. When I cut my hair off I had it asymmetrical too, I really loved it but I had to straighten it everyday.
I can't speak for everybody, but I'm sure there are some of the fashion-conscious out there who might feel a little threatened that a new style is edging it's way in. I'd suggest if you're finding people coming up against your decision, it probably says more about them than it does about you. =)
Do you have a pic of your new cut?

I really like Miley's new hair, I think it looks great and she's young so why not? Beauty is so subjective. It must be stressful being young and under the microscope, I don't think I could shrug off that kind of global scrutiny, I get defensive enough when my mother questions me!
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I think you should wear your hair the way you want. Everything else is sort of irrelevant.
And them there are people like my former hairdresser who believes that once a woman hits a certain age (and in her opinion, I must have achieved that distinction), we should have shorter or short hair. She is my former hairdresser, because the last time I saw her, she cut almost two inches off my hair, and my hair was NOT damaged. She also told me that as I got older, my hair needed to be shorter. Fail.

I take Polynesian dance lessons and traditionally, the dancers have long hair. Also, where I am from (Hawaii) a lot of us women of a certain age (or older), have long hair. My paternal grandmother was 100% Hawaiian and had her curly hair washed, set, and styled once a week into an updo on the top of her head. I remember seeing her brush it out once (def not CG, lol) and it went from a little past shoulder length to just past BSL. I am at BSL and want to get to almost waist length; with my new hairdresser and e CG method, I hope to be rocking that length by this time next year.

Any hairdressers know what that certain age is? I'm guessing somewhere around mid-40s?
Speaking as someone who had a pixie cut, every man I've ever asked has said he prefers long hair. Long hair = sign of fertility. Long hair = feminine. Blah blah blah. Nevertheless, I still had men interested in me with short hair. So. . . take that Mom and relatives! I think it would be great if women would start wearing their hair shorter when they're young and longer when they're older. Defy the stereotypes. I also don't think short hair is matronly if it's a cute cut and you know how to rock it. I do think it can look matronly if it's not the right cut and you don't know what to do with it. I walked into a salon once and while I was waiting a 40-ish blond woman with long, admittedly sort of thin straightish hair came in. There were so many things they could've done with it. Texturized it. Gave it some flip. Maybe highlights and lowlights. But the stylist convinced the woman to cut it all off and dye it red. You know what red I'm talking about. Menopausal red. The woman left looking ten years older and like Sally Jesse Raphael. She could've gone shorter without that happening. Geez.
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I think attitude toward short hair will shift over the next few years as the cascading long hair trend evolves into something else. Short hair has enjoyed just as much prominence as long hair has over the decades, the 20's and 30's are a pretty good example. Also the 80's, volume was far more important than length. It depends on culture, too.

The asymmetrical style has evolved in response to the Kardashian/Repunzel look. It was only a matter of time before people started wanting an alternative to clumping piles of messy hair on top of their heads. When I cut my hair off I had it asymmetrical too, I really loved it but I had to straighten it everyday.
I can't speak for everybody, but I'm sure there are some of the fashion-conscious out there who might feel a little threatened that a new style is edging it's way in. I'd suggest if you're finding people coming up against your decision, it probably says more about them than it does about you. =)
Do you have a pic of your new cut?

I really like Miley's new hair, I think it looks great and she's young so why not? Beauty is so subjective. It must be stressful being young and under the microscope, I don't think I could shrug off that kind of global scrutiny, I get defensive enough when my mother questions me!
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And them there are people like my former hairdresser who believes that once a woman hits a certain age (and in her opinion, I must have achieved that distinction), we should have shorter or short hair. She is my former hairdresser, because the last time I saw her, she cut almost two inches off my hair, and my hair was NOT damaged. She also told me that as I got older, my hair needed to be shorter. Fail.

I take Polynesian dance lessons and traditionally, the dancers have long hair. Also, where I am from (Hawaii) a lot of us women of a certain age (or older), have long hair. My paternal grandmother was 100% Hawaiian and had her curly hair washed, set, and styled once a week into an updo on the top of her head. I remember seeing her brush it out once (def not CG, lol) and it went from a little past shoulder length to just past BSL. I am at BSL and want to get to almost waist length; with my new hairdresser and e CG method, I hope to be rocking that length by this time next year.

Any hairdressers know what that certain age is? I'm guessing somewhere around mid-40s?
Originally Posted by KauaiMareCurl
I think once your hair is thinning it looks bad long. Some people's hair stays the same till they die, but scraggly long hair (regardless of age) is tacky to me. With that said I don't think you have to instantly get a mom cut either, there is a middle ground.
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Oh my gosh your hair cut is amazing.

I think hair length is really a personal decision- it's based on hair texture/curliness, face shape and lifestyle. I have BSL hair. I tried short hair and it wasn't for me. As long as you like your hair that's all that matters.

I've never noticed a specific backlash against short hair in general... but I've noticed a specific backlash against bad short hair. For example, Michelle Williams awesome pixi cut get's praised constantly. However, I can think of a lot of too short hair cuts that were probably not the best choice for the person wearing them which get negative reactions.
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Last edited by collegecurly27; 06-16-2013 at 08:34 PM.
PurpleCurls - you look super cute!

And them there are people like my former hairdresser who believes that once a woman hits a certain age (and in her opinion, I must have achieved that distinction), we should have shorter or short hair. She is my former hairdresser, because the last time I saw her, she cut almost two inches off my hair, and my hair was NOT damaged. She also told me that as I got older, my hair needed to be shorter. Fail.
Originally Posted by KauaiMareCurl
Hey, I have one of those former hairdressers too! She kept urging a short cut, coloring, and straightening. "You should let me try a <some straightening treatment> on you!" "You looked so cute with your super-short glossy black hair!" I'm now doing what makes me feel the most like me, what makes me happy. She always hated my hair after I stopped coloring a few years ago. She lost my business after being her client for 10-15 years.
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