When did you embrace your curls?

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I didn't embrace my curls until recently (I'm 19). I stopped relaxing my hair on November 2011 after having it done since the age of 8. I did 2 big chops (or at least they were big to me, lol). The first one was February 2012, and the second one was March 2013. It feels so good to finally have my beautiful curls back! I wish I never started relaxing them.

This was my hair when it was relaxed
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This is my hair now!
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HUGE DIFFERENCE.
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I grew up in a "natural" home. I caught a lot of flak from other black people for it...to the point I didn't have any black friends. I didn't get why it worth completely ostracizing me for it. So I've always had natural hair. I tried a relaxer when I was 19 and then I cut my hair boy short. It was very short lived.

I think because of my experience I still don't "embrace". I grew up in a home where it was normal, but when I moved to a black neighborhood, from a white neighborhood, other people made me feel bad about it, even though I didn't at first.

I refuse to wear a hairstyle that doesn't allow me work out, swim, travel to remote place, or be comfortable outside in the rain or snow...it's just not worth it. And heaven forbid I get my hair professionally done all the time and wear weaves and what not I can't afford. Yeah, I don't feel as pretty and that sucks, but my vanity isn't worth my life.
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I grew up in a "natural" home. I caught a lot of flak from other black people for it...to the point I didn't have any black friends. I didn't get why it worth completely ostracizing me for it. So I've always had natural hair. I tried a relaxer when I was 19 and then I cut my hair boy short. It was very short lived.

I think because of my experience I still don't "embrace". I grew up in a home where it was normal, but when I moved to a black neighborhood, from a white neighborhood, other people made me feel bad about it, even though I didn't at first.

I refuse to wear a hairstyle that doesn't allow me work out, swim, travel to remote place, or be comfortable outside in the rain or snow...it's just not worth it. And heaven forbid I get my hair professionally done all the time and wear weaves and what not I can't afford. Yeah, I don't feel as pretty and that sucks, but my vanity isn't worth my life.
Originally Posted by Jessiebanana
I know exactly how you feel. I'm mixed, so I always felt like an outcast when I was younger. When I was around the white or hispanic crowd, I always wanted my hair to be as straight or wavy & flowy like theirs. I hated how course/dry/curly my hair was. && when I hung out with the black crowd, I still felt bad about my hair because I would constantly get told that I need to relax my hair.

But when I went to college and lived on campus, I opened up my mind more and realized that I needed to stop wanting what others have and accept what I was born with. Going natural was on of the best choices I ever made. I had times during my transitioning where I just wanted to give in because I hated dealing with my 2 textures. && when I cut my hair off I literally cried because my hair has always been long and now it was super short. But it was ALL worth it. I could care less what people say about my hair now because I love it.

I think it's great that you're staying natural, and hopefully over time you'll embrace your hair regardless of what others think. All hair is beautiful!
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When I was younger, I was natural till I was 13 years old & my mom let me get a perm cuz I was begging her for one. I hated having my ears burned from the pressing comb. At 33 years old, I decided to go natural & I don't regret it one bit. I love my curls. It took me about a month to accept my curls & get them to look right. But now my hair is healthy & I'm happy. My mom is getting used to the idea slowly, but she will be ok.
anissafersure, you have amazing hair! I have major curl envy right now

I embraced mine about a month ago? I'm 28 and have been straightening my hair daily for 8 years prior. And before that it was the old brush into submission and slick back ponytail. Yikes!

Since going on this forum and being inspired by all the amazing hair on here, I am now trying to get as much volume as I can! I got a few not so nice comments from some people (one girl said I should start wearing 80's clothing....what?), but the majority have said it suits me which helped a lot. The best thing is that as it gets better, the more I feel like 'me' if that makes sense.

Anyway, you should wear your hair out everyday! It's stunning, as are you
anissafersure, you have amazing hair! I have major curl envy right now

I embraced mine about a month ago? I'm 28 and have been straightening my hair daily for 8 years prior. And before that it was the old brush into submission and slick back ponytail. Yikes!

Since going on this forum and being inspired by all the amazing hair on here, I am now trying to get as much volume as I can! I got a few not so nice comments from some people (one girl said I should start wearing 80's clothing....what?), but the majority have said it suits me which helped a lot. The best thing is that as it gets better, the more I feel like 'me' if that makes sense.

Anyway, you should wear your hair out everyday! It's stunning, as are you
Originally Posted by zosia
Thank you so much! and I was the same way. I was always straightening my hair, and if my hair was curly then it went right up in a ponytail! Haha. But forums, blogs, and sites (especially YouTube) like this have also inspired me to just accept the curls I have. The people who judge your hair are just ignorant. They're usually the ones who don't understand curly hair and are just close minded. Congrats are deciding to embrace your curls!
I think that I accepted my fuzzy hair since birth bec it didn't start out super curly - it would go through periods of less curl, esp in the winter (and under hats). I had pretty crazy, fuzzy hair at times, but my mum kept it very short, so it never really got in the way, caused me pain (knots). I remember early on disliking hair salons - they'd do crazy things with my hair and apply product.

I was a teen in the late 1980s, and big hair was the rage. I fit right in! I never got the hang of hair dryers or curling irons. I did fight my bangs for years until, after one chemical straightening session, a portion of my bangs broke off at the root.....

I soon realized just how easy curly hair is - I'd 'wash' and go (which really was condition and go). I'd arrive at university classes with wet hair, same with work. I loved that my hair would essentially look the same whether it rained outside, snowed, or was sunny. Windy car rides were a problem though.....would blow the curl almost out of my hair (well, my version of straight hair)!

Once I learned to avoid bangs, and to condition daily, I found out that I was actually lucky to have curly hair!

I do find it a challenge, still, to have fun and funky styles. I enjoyed wearing a piece-y pixie for about 3 years, but am finding the growing out part to be a challenge as my head seems to get rounder and rounder as the curls don't have enough weight yet.

I remember, when my eldest daughter (gorgeous, thick, wavy hair) was about 4 years old, hearing her scream in the bathroom upstairs. I ran up to see her standing on a bench, in front of a mirror, screaming in anger at her hair, saying: Mean hair! Mean hair! she was trying to brush it dead straight....sigh....glad that she isn't a curly head as I'm not sure whether she'd ever embrace the curls!! (that being said, she is finally LOVING her hair since I started a modified CG method with her - sulphate free shampooing weekly, conditioning whenever it is wet).
Growing out a pixie (last big cut July 2012)
3a? 3b? Fine, dense. Porous.
Finally sulfate free. Avoiding silicones.
I started 2 weeks ago when I wore them in public

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Weekly Poo/Low Poo: some Shea M Poo.
Weekly Deep Treat-Dermorganic Intensive Hair Masque
Bi-Weekly RO:Tresseme Naturals - V.Smooth/N.Moisture
Daily Leave in:Shea Moisture Extra Moisture Detangler
Daily Oil: Olive Oil & Conut Oil Mix
Daily Styler: Shea Moisture Curl & Style Milk
6 months ago at the age of 39. Before that, I wore my hair short and straight, then grew it really long and wore it in a ponytail for years. Now it's back to shortish, but curly and fabulous thanks to this site!
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2C/ Coarse/ Normal porosity/ SW Florida/ Salt & Pepper
Cleanse: CJ Daily Fix, JC Cleansing Cream, TJ Tea Tree Condish
Condish: JC Too Shea, CJ Curl Rehab (both as RO & LI)
Stylers: UFD CM, CJ PP, JC Spiralicious, Darcy's Cream Gel & Cocoa bean whip
I started accepting my curly hair when I was about 13, so four years ago and I've been modified CG for about a year now!


Co-wash-suave naturals tropical coconut/vo5
Low poo-infusium23 color care shampoo
ROs-tresemme naturals, Vidal Sassoon, Pantene pro v, HEHIS,HETT
LI-SMC&SM
oils-EVOO,EVCO, jojoba oil, sweet almond oil, argon oil
stylers- FSG, SMCES,SMCS,LALSG, volumax mega styling gel
Cowash/Leave in- Suave naturals
RO-GVPCB
Gels- Biotera Styling Gel
SOTC-Biotera Curl Creme
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I accepted my curls Feb. 2012. I was sick of the hassle of trying to fit the 'type' that the media portrayed to be beautiful. I discovered this site, read the Curly Girl Handbook, and a lot of YT vids. Like others, there were times where I was crying as I was typing a new thread on here (lol), begging for help. But as I slowly educated myself, I realized that I needed to truly know my hair down to the ingredients. Now, when I have a issue, I try to dig deeper and research. I feel I have not only been happier embracing who I naturally am, but I also gained a lot of knowledge of what hair is.
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Co-wash, leave in, and gel: Alba botanica coconut cond., ogx mousse, &/or super wet look gel.
Curls
I didn't know I had wavy/sometimes curly on the ends hair until I was 60! I wore my hair in a pixie cut almost all of my life and let it grow out the year before I made 60. I remembered saying when in high school I had crazy hair, very poufy and it got bigger as the day went on. If you can imagine, it was at a time when we used fabric softener as a conditioner! And, I always brushed my dry hair, so it resembled a lion's mane, thus I chose to keep it very short. Here it is today:
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I'm 50 and I'm not sure I ever have or ever will 'embrace' my curls. I accept them now but, sadly, as the acceptance started my hair began thinning and it's never going to look that good that I'm confident with it.
3b in South Australia.
I always wanted brown or blonde hair and most of all straight hair. my mother never thaught me how to manage my curls. Even now she still doesn't know. (even though I'm trying to make her understand, she's 60 now). SO I'm mainly self-thaught. I think I started liking my curls when I was thirteen or so, when someone said my hair was beautiful. I never liked my curls before, mainly because the hairdressers said it was unmanagble. (haha)

I really love my hair now.

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3a/b cherub curls, normal porosity, low/medium density. medium/fine width.
CG since September 2012
and curly-hairlover since forever.
When I was 14, I went three months without cutting my hair and wound up with white man's 'fro with lots of curls. I got some compliments but mostly needling. There were a few male friends that said, "I looked like a girl." For the next 19 years, I went away from that look and went short and cropped, sometimes even buzzcut.

When I was 33, I started seeing male friends lose a lot of their hair so I got to thinking, "Well, maybe I should grow it out. I may not have it 20 years from now." I have thinned out some but then again I had a lot to lose. For the next seven years, I started going about 6-8 weeks between haircuts with curls really coming in after 3 1/2 weeks.

Last summer, I ended up going three months to really let the head of curls show. I even started using curl shapping spray from Garnier Fructis. Now I go every three months between haircuts and have my stylist leave it longer after cutting it.

I'm no product expert and every head of hair is different which is why I feel uncomfortable giving advice. Ladies, just remember, "getting your man to accept/embrace his curls is probably a bigger battle than finding the right products."

I'm just glad I finally came around to loving my curls in my early-to-mid-30s.

"Curls aren't just for girls."

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