Okay.. I am having problems. I use KCKT as leave in, and SM milk for a curl cream. It hydrates and softens my curls, but i dont get hold and i need hold. I have ecostyler olive gel, but that alone or with KCKT, it seems to give hold, but dries or frizzes out my hair.. Do i need leave in, curl cream, AND gel? What am i doing wrong? Also, i find that i have a curl resistant area around the bottom of my ears (mid shaft) that just flys out amd is uncontrollable, while the bottom curls mostly curl together way easier. I use SM moisture retention shampoo, and im trying to figure out the right balance of conditioner, im experimentjng with Tresemme Naturals and the conditioning balm from matrix/biolage. I also csnt get my hair to do good on the second day. Plz help!