Stopping a bad habit

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Hi, everyone! I would truly appreciate your input on how to stop touching my hair. It's a really bad habit! I know I'm damaging it, ruining the curl, and making it frizzier than it aready is. Have you dealt with this issue, and how did you make yourself stop? Thanks!!!

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Mostly 2A; Fine and wavy
I have this problem, too, but mostly when it's wet. I always think if I can just scrunch a LITTLE more... and then next thing you know, I'm a frizzball. My solution is to diffuse almost immediately, to about 90%. If you do it when it's dry, I don't really have any suggestions for you. Sorry!
Mostly 2C (?). Med-fine, not sure about porosity.

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When are your danger times for touching and what are you doing/ thinking at the time? Are you looking in mirrors and trying to adjust or absent mindedly whilst watching TV or something else?
2a-2c, medium texture, porous/ colour treated. Three years CG. Past bra strap length heading for waist.

CO-wash: Inecto coconut/ Elvive Volume Collagen
Treatments: Komaza Care Matani, coconut/ sweet almond/ fractionated coconut oils, Hairveda Sitrinillah
Leave in: Fructis Sleek & Shine (old), Gliss Ultimate Volume, various Elvive
Styler: Umberto Giannini jelly, Au Naturale styling gelee
Flour sack towel, pixie diffuse or air dry.
Experimenting with: benign neglect
It usually starts with checking to see if it's dry. Then I find myself twisting a piece of it. Today, I didn't bother it until I was talking on the phone and didn't even realize I had started messing with it. I twist it while watching TV, driving, looking at the computer but not typing, etc.

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Last edited by FuzzyMonster; 09-13-2013 at 01:59 PM.
...anytime my hands aren't both completely occupied.

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Last edited by FuzzyMonster; 09-13-2013 at 02:01 PM.
Driving: both your hands should be on the steering wheel or controls, I can't suggest how to change that other than willpower and thinking of the safety aspect.

Other times: keep your hands busy or covered, take up knitting, wear thin gloves, paint your nails, hold something in your hand like a pen or ball or piece of silky ribbon, consciously clasp your two hands together. If you know roughly how long your hair takes to dry tell yourself you won't touch it until then: if you get the urge tell yourself to wait another ten minutes/ half an hour/ an hour, whatever is manageable.

With quitting smoking (another hand to head habit) people find sitting in a different chair or otherwise doing a slightly different routine helpful. I knew one client who loosely tied their wrists together with a short leash so they could still function but couldn't lift one hand without lifting both!!

Any improvement is progress so don't beat yourself up or quit trying because you touched once, it's tough to go 'cold turkey' on a habit. I haven't beaten my hair touching habit but it is much improved so I do feel for you.
2a-2c, medium texture, porous/ colour treated. Three years CG. Past bra strap length heading for waist.

CO-wash: Inecto coconut/ Elvive Volume Collagen
Treatments: Komaza Care Matani, coconut/ sweet almond/ fractionated coconut oils, Hairveda Sitrinillah
Leave in: Fructis Sleek & Shine (old), Gliss Ultimate Volume, various Elvive
Styler: Umberto Giannini jelly, Au Naturale styling gelee
Flour sack towel, pixie diffuse or air dry.
Experimenting with: benign neglect
When I read your post I said to myself that I only do this when I'm styling, I never let it be! But then I thought...I twist a piece here and there an hour or two later and then I'd fiddle with it everytime I see a mirror. I guess I'm just discovering my little hands addiction myself!
I'm sorry to say (not really) that I'm an unrepentant hair toucher with no plans to stop. I don't touch it while it's drying (much), but once it's dry I do fiddle with it from time to time. I like touching it, and honestly, what's the point of having hair you like to touch and never being able to do it? It probably creates some frizz, but not much, and I don't really have a problem with breaking the curls up or damage. I'm a rebel.

If you find yourself doing it without thinking while you're doing something else (watching TV, talking on the phone, etc.), then you need to make sure both hands are occupied so you can't start up with it without realizing it. Talking on the phone, hold the phone with one hand and doodle on a notepad with the other, squeeze a stress ball, or if necessary even just use your finger to doodle in the air. If you're really having trouble keeping your hands off, and your hair is long enough, just put it up so there's not much to play with. Come to think of it, maybe that's why I like touching mine so much--I spent 3+ years growing it out and putting it up in a bun most of the time, so now it's just fun to play with!
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3a/b, F, normal porosity

Wash with either Suave Tropical Coconut, As I Am, or CJ Daily Fix
Condition with STC or Yes to Blueberries and detangle with Denman, rinse very lightly (baptismal rinse)
Add LAL gel, either Sport or Wet Look, scrunch with flour sack towel, and plop
Diffuse 5 minutes, then air dry
have you tried putting your hair up in a tight high bun? this works for me because i always tough my hair, take a curl and play with it. undo the curl. scrunch non stop. act like im putting it back then let go. If I put it in a high bun, i reach for my hair and its up so I can't play with it. If you're trying to keep the style for the whole day i dont have tips but if your just watching tv before bed and don't wanna play with it I would try a bun
I have this issue as well, whenever I'm stressed. If I notice I'm doing it while I'm out somewhere, I put it up. If I'm at home, I pet or brush the dog. Better fiddling with his hair than mine. The main thing, as some of you have mentioned already, is noticing that you're doing it in the first place. That's the bit I find most difficult.
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2c/3a, dense, fairly coarse, normal porosity and elasticity, bsl curly, WL wet
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Co-wash: down under naturals, tresume naturals
RO: AOHR
LI: Giovanni Direct, Desert Essence curl cream
Stylers: kccc, HE smu, brhg
Oils: coconut, argan or evoo
These are great suggestions; thank you so, so much!

CurlyInTheFog, sometimes I feel like you do, because it's so soft and nice to touch--but what's the point if I'm unconsciously twisting it and not even enjoying the experience. I have a whole section of hair that won't curl now because I've done that so much! Why pet my own hair and damage it when I get the same feeling petting the dog, and petting the dog benefits him, too!

I like the idea of a hand leash. That seems like it might work the best for me because I do this mostly when one hand isn't busy.

I'll play with these ideas. Thank you, thank you!


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I'm sorry to say (not really) that I'm an unrepentant hair toucher with no plans to stop. I don't touch it while it's drying (much), but once it's dry I do fiddle with it from time to time. I like touching it, and honestly, what's the point of having hair you like to touch and never being able to do it? It probably creates some frizz, but not much, and I don't really have a problem with breaking the curls up or damage. I'm a rebel.

If you find yourself doing it without thinking while you're doing something else (watching TV, talking on the phone, etc.), then you need to make sure both hands are occupied so you can't start up with it without realizing it. Talking on the phone, hold the phone with one hand and doodle on a notepad with the other, squeeze a stress ball, or if necessary even just use your finger to doodle in the air. If you're really having trouble keeping your hands off, and your hair is long enough, just put it up so there's not much to play with. Come to think of it, maybe that's why I like touching mine so much--I spent 3+ years growing it out and putting it up in a bun most of the time, so now it's just fun to play with!
Originally Posted by CurlyInTheFog
I am just like you, CurlyInTheFog! Pre-CG, my hair just felt rough and producty if I wore it wavy/curly; since going CG, my hair feels soft and touchable, so I touch my hair. Pre-CG, I didn't like my BF touching my hair; since going CG, I don't mind him touching my hair
This just came up for me yesterday, when a stylist giving me a "hair tools" lesson told me I shouldn't play with my hair so much.

The thing is, when I'm working, my mind wanders and I fidget (it helps me think). I have restless hands.

I'm going to try to become at least more conscious of when I do it.........I never even realized it was a habit. At least you recognized it, which is a great first step.

Good luck to you

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Well, you could take up knitting

Aversion therapy can help break bad habits. One thing people trying to quit smoking used to do is wear a rubber band on their wrist, and snap it when they realized they were having a craving. It didn't work as intended for me, as I developed an aversion for rubber bands, but I suppose it could help.
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Peace,
Morgan

Baby Fine 3B, low porosity, normal density and elasticity
CGing since July 2008
Well, you could take up knitting

Aversion therapy can help break bad habits. One thing people trying to quit smoking used to do is wear a rubber band on their wrist, and snap it when they realized they were having a craving. It didn't work as intended for me, as I developed an aversion for rubber bands, but I suppose it could help.
Originally Posted by Morgan_Adcock
Ha, I did the rubber band thing, too, but it just got annoying. I just quit cold turkey. Less painful!
3a/b, F, normal porosity

Wash with either Suave Tropical Coconut, As I Am, or CJ Daily Fix
Condition with STC or Yes to Blueberries and detangle with Denman, rinse very lightly (baptismal rinse)
Add LAL gel, either Sport or Wet Look, scrunch with flour sack towel, and plop
Diffuse 5 minutes, then air dry
Good luck to you, too, @Claudine191. Congrats on your realization!

The rubber band thing has never worked for me. I would be snapping myself every two minutes. This is a serious OCD deal; I have been doing it for about 30 years, ever since I saw my sis tie her hair in knots with three fingers, which I thought was cool and learned to mimic. Maybe I need hypnotism or something.

Thanks again for the suggestions and support! So far no breakthroughs, but I'm keeping at it!

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Mostly 2A; Fine and wavy
In re: not smoking — I don't want to snap a rubber band. I just chew Nicorette.

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Yes, putting it up does help. I found something else that's helping. I wore a necklace today, and when I caught myself bothering my hair, I played with my necklace instead. Maybe wearing a necklace all the time and keeping my hands busy with it will do the trick!

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