I have been struggling most of my life. I am a Caucasian red head with fine curly hair which I have straightened most of my life. It's very fine, so even when I straighten it, I would have to blow dry.
A couple years ago, I even tried extensions. I took them out because I had my first child and couldn't deal with the maintenance.
3 years ago I was blessed with 2 more children-- twin boys-- and let's say i don't have much time for hair maintenance.
I kept straightening and blow drying and flat ironing but my hair has thinned considerably, but I damaged it to the point where I was actually burning it off by doing this. Needless to say, my hairdresser cut it last time and suggested I leave it curly to help get it back to health. It is all different lengths, won't grow, but worst of all, I can't embrace the curls. They are soft but I don't like them on me.
I'm 40 and feel like no one wears their hair like this. So I have been slicking it back to avoid dealing with it. I am actually looking for a wig so I don't have to deal with it anymore. I really would appreciate any advice I could get -- maybe I should just go short short, as right now I'm like shoulder length in back, ear length on sides, and my hairline doesn't grow.
I would really like to go straight again, but everything seems to damage my hair and I wind up pulling it back as it doesn't withstand humidity even when straightened.
If you have read this far, God Bless. I want to feel good about myself and I know a good hair cut and style makes a big difference, bit it doesn't seem like I'm ever happy with it.