Help! I'm getting tempted to flat-iron my hair :/

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I've gotten used to my natural hair by now. I know how to keep it soft and bouncy and I know how to make it curly now. So I don't really miss or long for straight hair. I just really miss the length!

It sucks having hair that's growing but not being able to see the length. When stretched my hair is just past my shoulders. That's an okay length, but it's just not long to me. That's the main struggle I have with my natural hair. I see (and know) quite a few naturals who have looser, more 3-type curl patterns, so their length shows a lot more :/ Mine doesn't.

Also it's really hard for me to find natural hairstyles I like. I actually go on websites like Cutegirlshairstyles.com and do some of their updos and tiebacks, because it doesn't seem like there's as much of a variety of hairstyles in the natural hair community. I would love to find a female with natural hair who has as much of a variety of hairstyles as websites like Cutegirlshairstyles does!

I'm starting to long for the length and versatility of straight hair. Help!
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Step away from the flat irons!

Think of it this way....is it worth damaging the length your growing!!
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Last edited by CurlTalk; 12-15-2013 at 05:19 PM.
Curly natural hair is very limited in styles. I've had to accept this. I added bangs a month and a half ago just to have something different, and now I blow-out the bangs 2x a week when I wash my hair (just that small bit in front). It's the concession I made to have something change other than length. Well, I also added a lot more layering.

But if it's making you nuts not to have versatility than do a pro/cons in your brain. The pros of staying natural and with undamaged hair; the pros of flat-ironing. The cons of natural; the cons of ironing.

And consider alternatives--a different style of cutting, a shorter, not longer length (shorter can give a different look). Or products that elongate to simulate more length. Or rollers to have a style that's not fully curled, but not heat-damaged (you know, old style rollers, not hot rollers). Or a blow-out that's gentler for length. Getting length isn't the equivalent of stick-straight ironed hair. I have had blow-outs that leave my bottom wavy/curly and get a lot of length. I do that about 3x a year these days for a change (though I spent 1.5 years without a blow when I first went natural). Those moderate blow-outs were still damaging in a way, but less so, and they gave me 1 week plus of fuss-free, wake-up perfect hair.

If what you want is LENGTH and more FLEXIBILITY, you need to think outside the "flat iron" box. There are other options, from products, styling techniques, cutting options. Try the gentler options FIRST, before you cave to the blow-holes-in-your-hair-shaft consequences of ironing.

It doesn't have to be just a flat-iron, which is about as damaging as you can get. Why go to that extreme?

Try the non-damaging options FIRST, then keep trying until you find the versatility or lengthening you want.

But, ultimately, it's your hair. You wanna iron: iron. If that is ultimately what you really want--stick straight hair--then consider the options for that, too

Just accept the consequences. It's just hair. It grows back if you fry it to death.
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Last edited by MirCurls; 12-04-2013 at 01:37 AM.
I keep thinking about straightening mine too, but I'm ultimately too lazy. I always have been. I've only flat ironed a hand full of times in my life, and have not at all in two years. I like my hair in it's natural state the best and did not have flat iron related damage.

I do not strictly follow hair rules. My hair is much healthier than it was 2 years ago. I have to frequently blow dry in the winter, and I even use cones and regular shampoo from time to time. I now have a much better idea of what my hair can and can not handle.

If you do not find it wise to flat iron, listen to yourself.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

I've gotten used to my natural hair by now. I know how to keep it soft and bouncy and I know how to make it curly now. So I don't really miss or long for straight hair. I just really miss the length!

It sucks having hair that's growing but not being able to see the length. When stretched my hair is just past my shoulders. That's an okay length, but it's just not long to me. That's the main struggle I have with my natural hair. I see (and know) quite a few naturals who have looser, more 3-type curl patterns, so their length shows a lot more :/ Mine doesn't.

Also it's really hard for me to find natural hairstyles I like. I actually go on websites like Cutegirlshairstyles.com and do some of their updos and tiebacks, because it doesn't seem like there's as much of a variety of hairstyles in the natural hair community. I would love to find a female with natural hair who has as much of a variety of hairstyles as websites like Cutegirlshairstyles does!

I'm starting to long for the length and versatility of straight hair. Help!
Originally Posted by GotitorDont
Actually curly hair is versatile in that with the proper care, u can flat iron it and make it straight and when you're ready, just go back to your curls. Pinterest has a lot of different curly hair styles for each texture/curl pattern.
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^ I would agree. I think some make the mistake of pressing down too hard with the plates, doing it too often (depending on the state of their hair), etc. I personally would not see any massive harm in it if your hair is in pretty good shape, and you get the urge to do it.

When I first came here I would not have dreamed of it! My hair a wreck and very damaged from color. Now, I wouldn't feel bad about the occasional change.
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@SweetRellie @Fifi.G

Yeah when I flat-iron I don't get heat damage or lose my length. There is more daily breakage, but I only keep it straight for 2 weeks and then the minute I put water on it the curls come back just the same.

However I also see what everyone else is saying. What a dilemma :/ I'm going to keep trying to be happy with my curly hair but I haven't flat-ironed since June/July so I guess that's why I miss it.
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High density, medium porosity, thick with medium width strands, back grows faster than front

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@SweetRellie @Fifi.G

Yeah when I flat-iron I don't get heat damage or lose my length. There is more daily breakage, but I only keep it straight for 2 weeks and then the minute I put water on it the curls come back just the same.

However I also see what everyone else is saying. What a dilemma :/ I'm going to keep trying to be happy with my curly hair but I haven't flat-ironed since June/July so I guess that's why I miss it.
Originally Posted by GotitorDont

I definitely understand u missing your length. Have u read up on the greenhouse, inversion methods, or castor oil challenges? They're supposed to increase hair growth.
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Try wearing you hair in 2 strand twists or mini braids.

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