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Old 03-27-2014, 05:29 PM   #1
 
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Question Am i too old for long hair?

I am 49 years, 5 months old and finally have a simple routine and think my hair looks nice; it' s now probably about 2 inches past shoulders. Anyway, someone commented that "older" women shouldn't have long hair. do you agree ? it's just that with it being longer it's nice and spirally and I like it but don't want to be out of style either. What are your thoughts?
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I think you should do what you like. I have no idea about what's in or out of style; I don't pay attention to any of that. I have my style and that's good enough for me.

Basically I vote for your style and if your style is long hair *go for it!*
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Old 03-27-2014, 06:02 PM   #3
 
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This is a great question!
I think the answer depends on the hair!
My family was encouraging me for years to let my hair grow out. I was wearing it very short, didn't realize its curliness and thought the only option was a blow fried bob and later its longer cousin. I would point out women with longer dry looking triangle hair and say 'see, not good'. Now I point out such women and say 'see, she would look so much better as a curly girl...a good cut, not necessarily short, some conditioner, and some gel scrunched in would make her look great'.
For myself I think I look much better with my hair length now (layered to just brushing my shoulders when dry) than with the severe short cut I had for years. The curliness perks up my whole look.
I haven't really had much length cut off in about a year and I think I will stay at about this length. It is short enough to be easy to deal with and long enough to pin up when the weather gets hot, and I like how it looks.
I'd say let it grow a while. If you get tired of it after a time get it cut, but remember there are lots of options between long and short!
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I am 49 years, 5 months old and finally have a simple routine and think my hair looks nice; it' s now probably about 2 inches past shoulders. Anyway, someone commented that "older" women shouldn't have long hair. do you agree ? it's just that with it being longer it's nice and spirally and I like it but don't want to be out of style either. What are your thoughts?
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Can't imagine where that rule came from! What weirdo thought that up? I've heard it, but I never pay attention.

I think the idea is that older women are supposed to be sexless and having longer hair is often associated with sexuality. Here's a news flash - we are still sexual beings.

Wear your hair the way you like and enjoy it!
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Old 03-27-2014, 08:52 PM   #6
 
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^ditto. Who makes up these ridiculous rules!? If you want hair down to your butt, do it. If you want to shave your head, do it. Have fun. Be happy. And don't let anyone tell you you're too old for anything!
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Old 03-27-2014, 10:43 PM   #7
 
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I think mostly it is the idea that long hair drags down your face. Well, yeah, if you don't DO anything with your hair. It's just a falsity. Or maybe if your hair is too thin to support it but honestly I think it's bull pucky. If you LIKE your hair long WEAR your hair long.
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Old 03-27-2014, 11:22 PM   #8
 
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be yourself, darlin..have your own style..if u like it long, go for it!we're only here once and we have to leave our own mark.
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Old 03-28-2014, 07:42 AM   #9
 
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If you want long hair, go for it!!!! It'll be beautiful.
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Old 03-28-2014, 07:53 AM   #10
 
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Did you ask for their opinion?
There are so many stereotypes out there, like you're supposed to get a "mom cut" and drive a mini van, haha.
Do what makes YOU feel good.
Like Muzz said, you're only here once.
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Old 03-28-2014, 08:03 AM   #11
 
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I would've asked them why older people are not supposed to have long hair? Betcha the person would have stumble over their words, or not even have an answer at all.

That's like saying you're not supposed to put mayonnaise on french fries. (omg if you haven't tried it, it's amazing!)
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Old 03-28-2014, 09:10 AM   #12
 
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Or gravy on your fries!
There may be some "rules" out there but just remember, What Not To Wear was cancelled.
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Old 03-28-2014, 09:17 AM   #13
 
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That is so ridiculous. Wear your hair the way that makes you feel beautiful and your confidence will be apparent to everyone.
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That "rule" came from people like my mother, who were in the generation that bobbed their hair. All their elders had long hair, and wore it up, and to them, long hair looks old, therefore short hair looks young to them. Hairdressers took up the cause because it brought women into the salons at regular intervals to have their hair done, generating more business.
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Old 03-28-2014, 12:43 PM   #15
 
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If long hair makes you feel happy, beautiful, confident, then stick with it. Regardless of age, you can tell when someone is comfortable in their own skin. I'd much rather see someone happy with their long hair than going short to fit in with society's idea of age-appropriate and then being unhappy with their shorter style, however nice it might look.

Check out Daphne Selfe, who is an 83 year old model with long silver hair (looks to be bra strap length when straight). She's even done a photoshoot in a replica of Madonna's bullet bra outfit, and she rocked it. If she can do that at 83, then you can definitely keep your long hair at 49.
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Old 03-28-2014, 03:37 PM   #16
 
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I would say no to long hair if it's just a lifeless mess.

I think that long beautiful curls are awesome on anyone!

Do you!
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I turned 50 last December and was just thinking today that at this time next year, my hair will be almost hip length, as it's almost waist length stretched right now. I had this thought because I was rehearsing a Hula in my head that I will be dancing on Sunday for a volunteer event and I was thinking how much my hair resembles those of my kupuna (ancestors) who danced before me. I was also thinking how much shorter it was this time last year and how much it has grown since I went CG/mod-CG

And I am proud to rock this long graying wavy/curly tresses that happens to NOT be behaving this past week with the change in seasons! For me, short hair gives me a moon face unless I am painfully thin and I doubt I will ever be painfully thin ever again, lol

Do what you want; grow it out or cut it, but don't cut it because you're "supposed to" at a certain age. I scuttled a hairdresser because she constantly cut length off since I was hitting her idea of an age where I should be wearing it much shorter. My paternal tutu wahine (granny) had kinky waist length hair (stretched) that she had washed and set once a week into a bun. I can so see myself doing that when I'm in my 70s/80s, except I'll do it myself!
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Old 03-29-2014, 12:16 PM   #18
 
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I remember the Oprah movement about women over 40 should not have long hair past the ears or shoulders. Funny how Oprah herself has long weaves and wigs.

Do what you like. I am 40 and have hair to my waist when pulled.
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Of course you can have long hair! I think long hair is sexy, and it's a lie being sexy or even being a sexual being is only for younger women!
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Great answers, everyone. Let's not forget that a 49 year old woman is not exactly an "older" woman. I just turned 48 and I don't think of myself as an elderly or older woman. That's just ridiculous. Seriously. Where do these people get this stuff? What age is the line drawn at, too? 34 is young but 35 is old? Or maybe 39 is young but 40 and up is old. Who gets to decide what's "old"??
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