Lately I've given up gel because I've been trying to find a way to control my hair with drugstore products without making it hard/crispy/crunchy. So far a mixture of mousse, leave-in conditioner, and hairspray has been somewhat working. What about LOOB? Does that keep your hair soft? A lot of people have been talking about it. (I'm half white, half black with 3b/3c hair, and you can only tell it's a bit 4a if you touch it)
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LOOB isn't crunchy or hard at all.
Loreal Studio Tightly Wound spray gel is another good one for soft flezible hold. The two work well together too.
All the Studio stuff is BOGO at Walgreens so it's worth a shot. They're pretty good about taking stuff back or exchanging as well.