"Is your hair real?"

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Today at work I wore my hair down and TWO different people asked me if it was "real". One lady yanked on my hair and said it's so pretty she wondered if it was a wig! What if it had been?! Haha. I just laughed it off because I thought it was the weirdest thing to ask if it was "real" and not "naturally curly" like people usually do. I did have a patient tell me my hair was beautiful and my curls were perfect and not frizzy at all. Totally made my day! So tell me, what's the weirdest thing someone has said about your hair?
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Today at work I wore my hair down and TWO different people asked me if it was "real". One lady yanked on my hair and said it's so pretty she wondered if it was a wig! What if it had been?! Haha. I just laughed it off because I thought it was the weirdest thing to ask if it was "real" and not "naturally curly" like people usually do. I did have a patient tell me my hair was beautiful and my curls were perfect and not frizzy at all. Totally made my day! So tell me, what's the weirdest thing someone has said about your hair?
Originally Posted by adRN
There's always the "is your hair permed or natural question?" As a guy that question is somewhat comical since guys getting perms is so 1984. Nonetheless,I take it as a compliment.
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I got the same question from an African woman the other day. She thought I was wearing a wig too. But she did say that she liked my hair.
She yanked your hair????!!!! Rudesby!!
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No touch my hair, let alone yank on it!
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Right?! People always feel like they have the right to touch my hair. It's very strange!
Something similar has happend to me a couple of years ago. My boss was talking to me about his daughter who is a hair stylist. I wanted to say something about my hair, when he interrupted me saying: "but this isnīt your real hair". I tried to explain that I have naturally curly hair, but Iīm sure he still belives that I got a perm.
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Hahah. This is great. When I was a little girl I had 3b short bright blond hair and my mom said strangers would just come up to me and start petting my head.. She said it happened all the time. Hahah people are strange.
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Something similar has happend to me a couple of years ago. My boss was talking to me about his daughter who is a hair stylist. I wanted to say something about my hair, when he interrupted me saying: "but this isnīt your real hair". I tried to explain that I have naturally curly hair, but Iīm sure he still belives that I got a perm.
Originally Posted by themhappycurlz
Isn't strange how when you have curly hair people (some anyhow) assume you that you did something to get it that way? Even as a guy,I get asked if my hair is permed.
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Lol. I have it bad too because many black women will wear a curly wig instead of their hair. Yes a lot of people ask if I'm wearing my hair.
I also get that question as well, then the follow up question "how do you get it to curl like that?".
I am a person who likes my space and does not like being touched by strangers or without consent. I have batted away many hands that have tried to touch/yank my hair, then the people stare at me as if I'm the rude one.
If i don't batt hands away physically, I say "Please don't touch my hair" in a polite but firm tone, and they still look offended. It's an eye-roller really.
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Good for you! I don't like people touching my body without me inviting it either

I just had a thought
The next time someone grabs your hair, reach out and start fondling her breasts simultaneously
If she slaps you, slap her back

I can imagine that scene. "She touched my boobs"
"well she fondled my hair"
"Arrest this woman"
"Arrest her first!"
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Last edited by dixygirl; 05-03-2014 at 10:16 AM.
It's great that you're getting compliments, but that lady should not have yanked your hair like that. o_0;;

This happened to me when I was relaxed, it wasn't a female it was a male. He asked if my hair was real. I turned around, we were on a bus, and said yes, and turned back around. He then proceeded to yank my hair out of my head, I guess he didn't believe me. I turned around after yelling 'ouch', and glared at him. I was so mad I couldn't even say anything. He cowered in his seat and mumbled that he was sorry. It sounded like he was about to cry and he still had my hair in his hand.
People need to know it's not cool to touch people's hair without permission, let alone yank on it. No manners, I'm telling yah =w=;;

Good for you! I don't like people touching my body without me inviting it either

I just had a thought
The next time someone grabs your hair, reach out and start fondling her breasts simultaneously
If she slaps you, slap her back

I can imagine that scene. "She touched my boobs"
"well she fondled my hair"
"Arrest this woman"
"Arrest her first!"
Originally Posted by dixygirl
Oh my gosh, this made me laugh so hard :'D
Yup! People definitely get offended when I pull away when they try to touch my hair/ask them not to. First of all, why would you just go up and touch someone and secondly it makes my hair frizzy! I really hate when people dont just "pet" my hair but they try to rake through it with their fingers. I lose my mind! The lady actually came up behind and yanked on my hair otherwise I would have tried to stop her!
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I've heard that people in Russia and China think it is good luck to rub someone's head with natural hair. I think some others think that in the US too
I def will pull back at least
I've gotten the "is that all your real hair?" question a few times in the past 10 years or so. It is still a weird one to me because it is relatively new, but with all the hair extensions and clip on's sitting on store shelfs it's not really unreasonable.

I get asked if I have a perm fairly often. Only two people slightly annoy me with it. One has been looking at me, at work, for 10 years. In that time I have used a flat iron a hand full of times and occasionally halfway blown out my hair and put it up in a way that gets it semi straight. Most of the time it has been as is. Short, medium and long YET she still asks me once a month if I get perms. The other really does not have good memory retention, or hearing, or concentration and she asks if I have gotten a perm every other week. Literally every other week for 3 years. I love her to death and know she can't help it but between the two, I want to scream.

The funniest was probably a friend who was no where remotely near the realm of sober one night (in our wild early 20's), and stroked my hair for 2 hours while we were watching Predator 2. He kept saying "it feels like spider webs. silky, and sticky spider webs". You may get your hand stuck in there but it wasn't sticky to anyone but him. Haha. I could not stop laughing. He was a Biology major at that time with a passion for spiders, and it was coming through.
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Last edited by Fifi.G; 05-05-2014 at 12:14 AM.
I once had someone imply to me a long time ago that if you have to style your hair and use any amount of product, it's "not real." As if people are supposed to magically get up each morning having toned bodies, perfect faces and exquisitely formed hair without any effort.
Once, about 20 years ago, I went to a salon I hadn't been to before for a haircut, and the stylist looked at my hair and said "Wow, that's such a good perm!"
I think he felt kind of stupid when I told him it wasn't.

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I've gotten this question many times. Most often, they ask if it is weave first and then say, "Oh, it's your natural hair?" Then they start telling me how lucky I am to have such good hair. I always found it interesting.

And when I went to Germany in high school, the culture was much different. They would come up to you and ask you to touch your hair, but wouldn't just put their fingers in it (like some people have done to me here in America). But, they were fascinated by my hair and skin color.


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I also get that question as well, then the follow up question "how do you get it to curl like that?".
I am a person who likes my space and does not like being touched by strangers or without consent. I have batted away many hands that have tried to touch/yank my hair, then the people stare at me as if I'm the rude one.
If i don't batt hands away physically, I say "Please don't touch my hair" in a polite but firm tone, and they still look offended. It's an eye-roller really.
Originally Posted by Always@night
I find it more than a little strange that people assume that just because your hair is curly you had to do something (like perm, weave, etc.) to get it that way. That's why when I spread my curly love I also start by saying they have beautiful hair then after they say thank you, I say as a fellow curly I like to compliment others and it leads to good conversation. As for touching my hair, I'm not going to get bent out of shape if a female does it but a guy doing it more than creeps me out.
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