How does your mom feel about YOUR natural hair?

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Warning! most of these are pretty funny and you're a monster if you laugh at me! lol

Mom's various reactions when I first told her I wanted to go natural in 2012, right before senior year in high school.
1. Your head is too big.

2. You have bad hair.

3. We just aren't naturally pretty. referring to her and I.

4. You can go natural after I get my prom pictures. Right now you're getting a perm.

5. I just prefer the sleek and classy look.

and my all time favorite is, 6. You don't have hair like best friend. My best friend is biracial.

When I became fully natural in June 2013 to present
1. Motherland!

2. Kizzy!

3. Whatchu gonna do with your hair? Me~ ...It is done...

4. You ain't goin' nowhere with me looking like that!

5. You need to comb it!

6. Stop washing it so much! Dirt make Black hair grow!

7. All your daddy's kids got his good hair but you. Me~ but, but, awww

8. Runs her fingers in my head and says Woo!! Me~ Ack! Don't do that! Frizz!!


So share your moms' reactions to your natural hair! Did she love it? Hate it? Or indifferent?

Last edited by NappyHeathen; 06-27-2014 at 06:51 PM. Reason: spelling error
My mom loved my natural hair when I BC 4 years ago, her response was I always knew you had "good hair" LOL
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My mother's reaction has been much the same. She hates my hair. LOL. She once said that I don't have the type of hair for natural hair. What does that even mean?
Fine Strands, High Density, (Seemingly) Normal Porosity
Wow. It's sad when your mom doesn't like your natural hair. My own mom loves my curls and my color. My family has never said negative things about anybody's curly hair, even though most of them have stick straight hair naturally.


I'm definitely a "curly" 2c. Sometimes curly and sometimes just wavy upper layer with a ringlety under layer. My hair has been thick and coarse since birth. Strawberry blonde in color that can and does change depending on the type and amount of light.


All in all, I'm happy with my hair type but almost for sure think yours is prettier.
My mom LOVES my hair. However, my step mom says things like:

Why don't you straighten your hair?
Your hair looks dead. (and I always reply "ALL HAIR IS DEAD")
It's not shiny. (I stopped dying it dark, which did create a shine to it)

Annoying.
Type: 3a/3b
Hair length: Hip length.
Products: GVP Conditioning Balm, Kinky Curly Knot Today, Curly Hair Solutions Curl Keeper, Biosilk Rock Hard Gelee, Kinky Curly Custard, Jojoba Oil
Guess I'm lucky.. my mum always loved my natural hair and couldn't understand why I'd want to straighten it all the time.
I genuinely don't understand the deal with societies apparant dislike of natural black women's hair... why???
For a start, afro hair looks completely and utterly awesome.. and curly, crazy hair just looks so wild and sexy.. Why is straight hair so glorified? When it's something that ANYONE can have? Gorgeous big curls on the other hand are almost impossible to achieve if you have straight hair.
Have you seen people like Beyonce with their natural hair? It's absolutely stunning!! I think it's sad when I see her with it straightened and dyed almost blonde.. such a shame!
Rant over...
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@Entropy it's about racism.

Lots of styles Black people can easily wear use to be, and in some cases still are, unacceptable to White employers. So lots of Black people internalised this.
That's very true. It originated during the slave trade. When Africans were sold into slavery and brought to America, a part of surviving was to look as white as possible which meant straightening and relaxing the hair. It sort of evolved from there. I think everyone should watch the documentaries: Good Hair by Chris Rock and Dark Girls. These will give you the idea that in Black culture looking white has always been preferred. It's very upsetting since I firmly believe that we need to accept who we are inside and out. Black people have a very rich culture no matter where they are from: Jamaica, Haiti, Africa, and many others that should not be allowed to die out because some people within that culture are too afraid to embrace it.
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"If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present." -Lao Tzu
I know it's racist, which is why I don't understand it..
But also, why aren't more black celebrities etc embracing their hair?? It's almost like a nod to racism :\
My mom was not happy when I told her that I was not going to continue straighten my hair. Granny still wants to press my hair. Now my mom is transitioning to natural hair. My mom is an 8 year breast cancer survivor. After having chemo, her hair is wavy. When straight, her hair looks like a white person's hair. But like most black women she prefer's straight hair. She says it looks better. That was last year. Now she's owning her hair and accepting mine.
My mom's biggest issue with my hair is that I don't shampoo. Also she didn't believe I had root curl and she doesn't like the slick way I style my hair. Volume is her thing even.if it is frizzy.

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M/C, Medium/High Por, Normal Elast. Medium Density
CO: Generic conditioner, Hair Academy Deep Cleansing CO
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GEL: WELLA New wave gel rock & hold, Rudyprofumi Hair Gel formula extra strong
DT: EVOO, C.O+protein condish

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I had stick straight hair until I hit puberty and it frizzed out! A friend convinced me to let her put gel in it one day and poof I realized I had curly hair NOT frizzy!! My mom was convinced I permed it. I'm not how she feels but I like it curly and straight. Spouse prefers it curly.

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My mom was mad at me for relaxing my hair, I think she almost told me three years in a row everyday to stop relaxing it, lol
I know it's racist, which is why I don't understand it..
But also, why aren't more black celebrities etc embracing their hair?? It's almost like a nod to racism :\
Originally Posted by Entropy
A celebrity's job is to look amazing all the time. It's not just black celebrities that have straight hair or even fake hair. I suppose you've heard of Cher, yeah? Her natural hair is still as long as it was in the 70s. She wears wigs. It's just easier.

Besides, we shouldn't be looking to celebs for acceptance. We should accept ourselves. The world will follow.
~Belle Bohemienne

"If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present." -Lao Tzu
My mom's biggest issue with my hair is that I don't shampoo. Also she didn't believe I had root curl and she doesn't like the slick way I style my hair. Volume is her thing even.if it is frizzy.
Originally Posted by KaZenner1990
My mom always wants to blow my hair out. If I don't use a flat iron it'll poof and frizz. She grew up when it was beautiful to have Farrah hair and hates to have her hair curly. She's such a product junkie too! If it promises shiney, straight, and smooth hair she buys it, uses it twice, and puts it on a shelf. She doesn't believe me when I tell her I only use conditioner to wash and 2 products to curl!
~Belle Bohemienne

"If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present." -Lao Tzu

Last edited by BelleBohemienne; 06-29-2014 at 03:55 PM.
My mother actually has been wearing her hair naturally curly for years. I was the one who told her that she didn't need to wear her hair straight anymore. Her hair is naturally beautiful in its curly state, so i told her that i felt that she looked better to me with curly hair than straight hair anyways. So, she listened to me. And, she stopped getting her hair straightened. Now, she only gets her hair dyed, which i do (as i am her own personal hairdresser). Plus, my grandmother(her mother) wore her hair natural her whole life along with her mother before her. My great grandmother had very fine textured, practically straight hair. Her her hair grew to be well below waist length. My mother's mother had very fine textured, wavy hair. Her hair actually grew to being floorlength. However, she would only wear here hair down only a few times a year. Instead, she would mainly keep her hair in a bun. And, my mother has a mix of both fine and medium textured curly hair. Her hair has always been below shoulderlength ever since i have known her.

Also, my aunts and uncles on my mother's side all were born with naturally curly hair as well. They just had curl types and hair textures. So, naturally curly hair really has always dominated in my family. My mother has had absolutely nothing negative to say when i stopped relaxing my hair. My family is accepting of my curls and i really haven't experienced any negativity because of it.
3B, low density, high porosity hair

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Carol's Daughter Hair Milk Cleansing Conditioner
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Camille Rose Naturals Curl Maker
Camille Rose Naturals Curlaide Moisture Butter
Camille Rose Naturals Almond Jai Twisting Butter

Last edited by Reservechic; 06-29-2014 at 03:55 PM.
My mom's biggest issue with my hair is that I don't shampoo. Also she didn't believe I had root curl and she doesn't like the slick way I style my hair. Volume is her thing even.if it is frizzy.
Originally Posted by KaZenner1990
My mom always wants to blow my hair out. If I don't use a flat iron
Originally Posted by BelleBohemienne
She doesn't mind the curl she minds the lack of volume. The lion mane volume. Herself has very fine hair that lose volume rather easy so she kinda try to inherit me with her hair issues. My hair doesn't react like hers. Mine go fluffy and poofy as days pass with just flat roots but lately(from when I found a good routine) my roots when my wash day is dew they fuss and become staticy instead of oily. Who knows why?


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M/C, Medium/High Por, Normal Elast. Medium Density
CO: Generic conditioner, Hair Academy Deep Cleansing CO
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GEL: WELLA New wave gel rock & hold, Rudyprofumi Hair Gel formula extra strong
DT: EVOO, C.O+protein condish

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CG since Feb 2014
My mother's favourites:

Don't you want to brush your hair before we go out?

I have a blowdryer you can use.

What did you do, comb your hair with a MixMaster?
Peace,
Morgan

Baby Fine 3B, low porosity, normal density and elasticity
CGing since July 2008

Last edited by Morgan_Adcock; 06-29-2014 at 04:13 PM.
She.stooped saying anything about it because my hairdresser instructed me to.not brush my hair when I wear it curly. If I want I could detangle it in the shower with lots of condish.

{Stats for mobiles}
M/C, High Porosity,Normal Elast. 2c/3a Boticelli/Corkicelli
2C/3A Botticelli/Corkicelli.Color Treated
M/C, Medium/High Por, Normal Elast. Medium Density
CO: Generic conditioner, Hair Academy Deep Cleansing CO
DET/RO/LI: GNC Avocado And Shea Butter Conditioner,,NGJRC
GEL: WELLA New wave gel rock & hold, Rudyprofumi Hair Gel formula extra strong
DT: EVOO, C.O+protein condish

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Goal: WL when curly
CG since Feb 2014
I've almost always worn my hair in its natural state, except for a very brief flat iron phase in 2004. My mom also has curly hair that she never accepted or knew how to care for, so when I was a child she brushed mine, and it always looked like a big poofball.
As a teen in the 80's, my kind of hair was in, so I just teased it really high and thought I was SO cool. lol
In the 90's and beyond I started experimenting with a lot more products. My mom has always thought my hair was pretty, and she would always say she wouldn't fight hers if it was as pretty as mine.
She thought it was really weird when I first went CG (not using shampoo!), but after she saw my results she changed her mind and asked me more about it, and I lent her the book, and she is finally working with her own natural hair and getting compliments!

It makes me sad that the black people have had to endure so much racism that they've been conditioned not to like their own natural hair, which is beautiful just as it is. I'm seeing more and more wearing their hair natural, and hoping this will help. To me it is a waste to straighten naturally beautiful hair just so everyone can look the same. Not all of us have stick straight blonde hair. And it would be totally boring if we did.

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coconut oil or jojoba oil to SOTC
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Last edited by CurlyDiva71; 06-29-2014 at 04:33 PM. Reason: typo

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