Natural Reveal to Boyfriend?

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Hey everyone! I am a newbie here and this is my first post.

I have been seeing my current boyfriend for about 5 months and we are quite serious. He always compliments me and tells me how beautiful I am. But the thing is, he has never seen my natural hair. He has only seen me with a weave, and believes that is my real hair. I don't know if I should show him my real hair because I feel very insecure about the length. I am also slightly worried about his reaction because he frequently jokes about how upset he would be if I were to get a short haircut; and my real hair is short..

So my question is, do you think I should show my boyfriend my natural hair?

If any of you have been in similar situations I would love to hear about your experiences. Thanks!
Hey everyone! I am a newbie here and this is my first post.

I have been seeing my current boyfriend for about 5 months and we are quite serious. He always compliments me and tells me how beautiful I am. But the thing is, he has never seen my natural hair. He has only seen me with a weave, and believes that is my real hair. I don't know if I should show him my real hair because I feel very insecure about the length. I am also slightly worried about his reaction because he frequently jokes about how upset he would be if I were to get a short haircut; and my real hair is short..

So my question is, do you think I should show my boyfriend my natural hair?

If any of you have been in similar situations I would love to hear about your experiences. Thanks!
Originally Posted by curliathenmost
Show him sooner rather than later
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^ Sooner rather than later.
If he likes you for you, hair shouldn't be an issue!


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If anything he should be glad if you do, since you're being honest with him. And even if it's short, hair still grows! I think it's good for men to understand natural hair so they can stop seeing it as a oddity and realize the versatility and health reasons behind it.

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^ Sooner rather than later.
If he likes you for you, hair shouldn't be an issue!


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Originally Posted by MouseyMouse
Agreed

3B/3C
Fine thickness, medium density, high porosity

CG since 1/25/2014
BC 6/25/2015
Still figuring my hair out
If the guy doesn't know, like and respect what naturally grows out of your head then there is no long term future for you.

People don't stay healthy and young forever....
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I would tell him. Like others have said - he needs to like you for you, in all your natural-ness.
I was straightening my hair when I met my SO, I don't remember when I went curly, or his reaction, though he did know I straightened it so I don't think it was too much of a shock.
3b in South Australia.
Definitely show him. This shouldn't even be an issue! If he's a decent guy and cares about you, I see no reason why he'd even be bothered embrace your beauty and don't feel nervous or ashamed!
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If he doesn't respect you with your natural hair he was never worth it anyway!

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Are you wanting to transition into all-natural hair, and unsure of how he'll react? Are you interested in continuing to wear weaves, but want to show him every side of yourself, and not just what the rest of the world sees? Either of those seem like good reasons to show him the natural you, but I'd still discuss it with him beforehand; let his brain wrap itself around the thought that his ideal of your physical appearance might need some adjusting.
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I believe that the best type of relationship to have is an honest one. I would definitely tell your boyfriend, while you two are privately together, that you are presently wearing a weave. Let him know, that you do truly care about his feelings, which is why, you decided to let him know the truth about your hair.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with rocking your natural hair, while its in a short state. So, please try not to feel insecure about it. Your learning to love and embrace your natural hair in the current state that its in, is a key step that definitely needs to be made.

Please share with your boyfriend exactly how your natural hair really looks. I feel that it would be best to do so through words first, and then you can choose to do the "big reveal" after you get the weave taken out.

If a guy truly loves you, the love that he has for you will be unconditional. If it is not, then, you will need to ask yourself-"Is it really worth my staying in this relationship"?
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Last edited by Reservechic; 08-03-2014 at 08:00 AM.
Definitely show him. This shouldn't even be an issue! If he's a decent guy and cares about you, I see no reason why he'd even be bothered embrace your beauty and don't feel nervous or ashamed!
Originally Posted by BotticelliBrit
Very well said. I couldn't agree with you more!
3B, low density, high porosity hair

Clobetasol Shampoo or Darcy's Botanical's Daily Conditioning Cleansing Cream

Darcy's Botanicals Pumpkin Conditioner

Kenalog Topical Spray- Spray onto scalp twice a day or Clocortolone Pivalate Cream 0.1% used to apply to my scalp twice a day

Darcy's Botanicals Sweet Cocoa Bean Moisturizing Hair Whip

OR

Darcy's Botanicals Sweet Cocoa Bean Curl Smoothing Cream

***Diagnosed in June 2015 with chronic scalp eczema
Thanks everyone for the input and suggestions! I will definitely tell him I wear weaves, and then I will show him my real hair when my weave is out. I BC'd and am currently 1 year and 4 months natural for those who were wondering.
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My bf noticed me cause of my hair, n that was before i started taking care of it, i was always natural though would brush it and didnt really have a routine, anyway, he fell in love with my hair n me then. Maybe he likes your natural hair better (my bf would cut my hair off if i ever straightend or relaxed it, which is cute in a way) just be yourself

my hair: 3b, high porosity, high density and coarse hair (i think i finally figured that all out)
my hair loves conditioner only styling!
Oils and my own procuts are my hairs best friend
my hair goal length is bra strap length when curly.
Are you wanting to transition into all-natural hair, and unsure of how he'll react? Are you interested in continuing to wear weaves, but want to show him every side of yourself, and not just what the rest of the world sees? Either of those seem like good reasons to show him the natural you, but I'd still discuss it with him beforehand; let his brain wrap itself around the thought that his ideal of your physical appearance might need some adjusting.
Originally Posted by geekrockgirl85
Very much agree.

Back in my homeland, thick-black-shiny-straight-long hair is the standard. But seriously, not even half of the population have that. I tried 1001 ways to control my wave/curl without much success. Plus, with the crazy humidity, there's no way to hide it for too long. So, I just rock it naturally and dismiss any negative comments from people. Besides, I feel like it's my people's-personality-filter. If they can see me beyond my hair, then they deserve my love and affection. Heck, I've found a great bunch of friends and the most amazing man that way.

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