I refuse to wear my hair straight!! Anyone else?

I like to wear my hair curly and I had never bothered to straighten it. To me, my curls are who I am. For my wedding, I wanted an updo with pincurls (I wanted a different look but still wanted to be curly). In order to do this, the stylist straightened my hair before setting the curls. While it was straight and down, my bridesmaids all told me how great I looked with straight hair. One tried to convince me that I needed to buy a Chi. Personally, I think my hair looks a lot better when it's curly.

My husband also saw me with straight hair because the stylist straightened it for my hair trial, and after she took down my updo she restraightened it. My husband claimed I looked good with straight hair (even though he has always said that one of the first things that attracted him to me was my curly hair), but that he likes it curly, too.

Any other curly girls out there prefer to wear your hair curly? I refuse to wear it any other way, no matter what anyone says.
I think there are alot of people on here that don't go straight very much at all, including myself!

I've had my hair straightened I think 3 times ever in my life. A couple of people told me it looked good but for the most part everyone told me they didn't like it. My husband said "you look weird, where are your curls?" when he saw me.

The only thing I would say I did like about it is that is was smooth and I could touch it as much as I wanted! Other than that I can't be bothered to straighten and am usually just trying to get my hair as curly as I can.
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I used to straighten very regularly and most people didn't even know my hair wasn't really straight but when I decided to grow my hair out and grow the color treated parts off, I stopped heat styling. Then I discovered CG and dofinitely never heat styled. Actually, before last week the last time I straightened was New Year's eve 2005 and that was just once for the special occasion so my hair would be predictable and I hadn't done it in months before that. Last week I suddenly decided I wanted to see how well my new dryer works (I got it for diffusing purposes but it came with a straightening attatchment as well). I also wanted to see just how long my hair really is now. So I straightened it last Wednesday. After straightening it takes a few days for my curls to really pop back up properly and I had a wedding reception to attend Saturday so I went ahead and did it again. Apparently straightening is like crack because I think I'm gonna do it again today, again just so it'll be predictable.
I've been adamant about no heat styling for the past couple of years but now it's kinda nice to have the option occasionally. I'm planning to lay off for a couple months after this time though. I don't want to do any new damage since I've worked so hard to get my hair in its current condition.
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I used to straighten very regularly and most people didn't even know my hair wasn't really straight but when I decided to grow my hair out and grow the color treated parts off, I stopped heat styling. Then I discovered CG and dofinitely never heat styled. Actually, before last week the last time I straightened was New Year's eve 2005 and that was just once for the special occasion so my hair would be predictable and I hadn't done it in months before that. Last week I suddenly decided I wanted to see how well my new dryer works (I got it for diffusing purposes but it came with a straightening attatchment as well). I also wanted to see just how long my hair really is now. So I straightened it last Wednesday. After straightening it takes a few days for my curls to really pop back up properly and I had a wedding reception to attend Saturday so I went ahead and did it again. Apparently straightening is like crack because I think I'm gonna do it again today, again just so it'll be predictable.
I've been adamant about no heat styling for the past couple of years but now it's kinda nice to have the option occasionally. I'm planning to lay off for a couple months after this time though. I don't want to do any new damage since I've worked so hard to get my hair in its current condition.
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I'm that way, now. I totally ruined my hair about a little over two years ago with color & thermal straightening. I cut it off really short. Since that time, I've been letting it grow out and have not straightened it. At 40 years old, I decided for the first time in my life, I was going to leave my curls alone and work with it in its naturally curly state. I was going to grow my curly hair out, even if it looked like a big bush. I made myself accept my curls.

I guess I'm pretty lucky, though. I don't think I've had anyone tell me they liked my hair better straight. Believe me, I had enough self-doubts about my hair and only hearing someone else tell me that would have been extremely hurtful. Today, two years later, it wouldn't bother me at all for someone to tell me they didn't like my curls and thought I would look better if I straightened it. That conscious decision I made two years ago to accept my curls paid off. I like my hair.

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I quit straightening my hair in the late 70s. It's only been straightened once since then, by my stylist. It came out nice, but it didn't look like me!
I use to blow dry my hair straight in highschool. After that I use to just brush it out and put it in a pony tail or barretts. Since finding this website I wear it curly all the time. I never want to go straight haired again.
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I used to blow dry my hair every day until I found this site. Now I straighten maybe once a month. I still like a change every once in a whiele.
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I've never straightened. There was a time back in the late 70's and early 80's when I used a curling iron to try to smooth the frizz into shaped curls, but that's about it.

To be honest, I never thought of straightening as a real option. I didn't want to have anything to do with harsh chemical treatments, thermal straightening was too expensive, and I didn't even know you could blow your hair straight. What can I say. I didn't get the memo.
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I've never straightened once in my entire life. The closest I've come was in high school when I used to put it back in a ponytail when it was wet. When it dried I'd have more waves instead of curls. I don't even know what I'd look like with straight hair, but I don't think it would suit me. I'm a curly - it's just who I am.
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I REFUSE to wear my hair straight - I went through that as a teen well into my 20's first with big rollers, and then with blow dryers. That all ended when I found someone who could cut curly hair to enhance its natural texture. I'm now almost 60.
But as I mentioned over on the curl-hater's comeback thread on the "Hall of Shame" section, along the way, I've also had HAIRCUTTERS who wanted to blow my hair out for a "different look". Well, I don't want that "different look" if it means making me look like every other so-called "well-groomed", generic-looking baby boomer woman.
In fact, I often wish my mixed-texture, 2C-3A hair were naturally even CURLIER! I can't tell you how many times I've seen women with THE most beautiful natural curls, and they bemoan the very thing that makes their hair the most distinctive, their natural curls. They need to come here-LOL!
My hair was naturally straight until I hit puberty. Then it got wavy and then curly. I started straightening my from 8th grade until the end of the first semester of my senior year. I had no clue what to do with the mess. Even when I straightened my hair was still frizzy so I wore it up everyday. Finally I got tired of straightening my hair and decided I needed someone to show me how to take care of my waves and curls. First I found an excellent stylist who showed me how easy it was to take care of my curls (and she's a straightie btw) and then I found this website. I've learned a lot on how to take care of my hair and I've only straightened a couple of times since. I definitely prefer to wear my hair curly. It is so much easier for me to throw some gel in and diffuse than to spend hours trying to get straight hair. Once I set my hair free, my curls/waves were so happy they got curlier. I was definitely a 2c when I started here and now I am a 3a.
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I quit straightening my hair in the late 70s.
Originally Posted by SuZenGuide
Same here. I kind of straightened my hair for a year or two (in 7th-8th grade?) with a curling iron after blowdrying it semi-straight. It always looked frizzy and thick (big). My stylist's constant needling finally got thru and I let the natural curls out again! I've never had it professionally straightened, and I've only done it once or twice when I first got married 15 yrs ago because DH was curious how it would look. He prefers my curls, one of the reasons he fell for me!

I will never straighten again! I love my curls!

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I think Castella put it well, I don't consider straightening an opton. Like
CurlyHairedTaurus, I had straight hair till I hit puberty. I went into shock- I had *no* idea what to with my hair, and as a biracial only child, I was the only one in the family with hair like mine, so no one was able to help me out. I begged my mom who finally allowed me to relax my hair. I realized right away that it was a mistake. It was all limp and lifeless, and from that moment I *never* wanted straight hair again. My hair's been blown out maybe 5 times since then, normally after being begged by a friend or hairdresser.

It's funny, I had a similar experience when I was getting my hair done for my wedding. They basically straightened it and put curls back in (if I had been on this site before then I would have gone with my natual curl pattern). I came back from the trial and took it down. It was pretty straight by then (they didn't use as much hairspray as on the actual wedding day! lol). My husband was like wow, so this is what you look like with straight hair! He then tried to tell me that it would be a nice change every now and then- I told him that I didn't ask for his opinion. Ha.
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ICurlyHairedTaurus, I had straight hair till I hit puberty. I went into shock- I had *no* idea what to with my hair, and as a biracial only child, I was the only one in the family with hair like mine, so no one was able to help me out.
Originally Posted by Gemini13
I can relate to this, except I have an older sister and her hair is not like mine at all (so even having a sibling doesn't guarantee that someone will know how to deal with your hair--it's a genetic lottery!).

Straightening is a PITA for me. It takes 2 hours for me to do and even then it's blatant that straight is not my hair's natural state. It looks okay, but I get way more compliments when its curly. And eys, my husband has made suggestions to go straight and he's asked "So you're never relaxing your hair again?" and I just say no. He loves my hair, but doesn't get that I am not switching the texture just for fashion purposes (he doesn't seem to get that color and relaxers require you to commit to touch ups and maintenance)
He then tried to tell me that it would be a nice change every now and then- I told him that I didn't ask for his opinion. Ha.
Originally Posted by Gemini13
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Unfortunately I am one of those curlies who thinks I look better w/ straight hair - even though my curls have gotten wonderful (thanks to all you guys) - My face looks better w/ it straight.

I gave myself a SHORT (to the jaw) bob the other day & I LOVE it straight (I kinda look like a little kid w/ it curly). So I'm sorry to say I've been doing a lot of straightening these days.
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I never straighten my hair anymore. I could give a hairy rats @rse who likes it which way. I do what I like period. I look best with big hair of whatever sort. I have a melon head.

I think if people knew how much we go through for a decent hair curly they'd stop acting like we could make an effort and straighten. Do they think we wake up like this?
2c/3a?
Low porosity, medium texture.
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I have never been able to get my hair straight. I too didn't get the memo on how to straighten my hair by blow drying. Why would anyone want to stand there all day with a brush and blow dryer messing with their hair?? I have fibromyalgia, and it causes pain in my arms, shoulders and neck to lift my arms up for that long.

I'm sick and tired of stylists styling my hair straight. I used tell them I want it styled naturally curly, but I got tired of fighting them. Now I usually tell them not to style it at all, and that actually costs less at some places.

To sum up, I'm always trying to get my waves more curly, not the other way around. I agree that sometimes it's nice to have a change, but most of the time I want to wear my hair in its natural state.
Straightening my hair is just an ordeal!
As soon as I discovered straightening irons, I would wash my hair every two weeks and blow-dry afterwards, without a brush or anything and it would get really scary huge. Then I would straighten it with my straightening iron (2-3 hours) and use some silicone-packed serum to make it shiny and frizz-free. Every morning I would re-straighten some strands that became curly overnight. I could do without washing for 2-4 weeks as my scalp produces almost no natural oil.
Now I just don't want (and don't need) to do it anymore as it's such a pain.
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