ugh, my friend just said something that made me sad!!!!

My beautiful and smart and wonderful friend just told me that her younger sister, who has straight hair, has fallen in love, it's a whirlwind romance, they'll probably be married within a year, etc.

My friend, whose hair is curly but not nearly as curly as mine, then said that it made her freak out and she's been straightening her hair lately because she thinks that her curly hair is the reason why she's not in an amazing relationship like her straight-haired younger sister is.

Help me talk some sense into her, people!!!!!!!!!
If this guy only likes the sister bacause she has pretty straight hair, he's obviously not the amazing godsend she's cracking him out to be. And if that's not the reason he likes her, then she has no reason to straighten her hair.
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From my perspective (that of a lazy person), straightening is just ONE MORE time-consuming deception in the whole game of romance. As if removing the bodily hairs and generally trying to look good isn't enough work as it is.

But maybe your friend isn't lazy and doesn't see the logic of this argument.

If she's like one of my friends, who has always been envious of her sister's larger endowments, there's no talking sense to her. Maybe if she straightens for a month or so and whirlwind romances fail to occur, she'll move on.
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If this guy only likes the sister bacause she has pretty straight hair, he's obviously not the amazing godsend she's cracking him out to be. And if that's not the reason he likes her, then she has no reason to straighten her hair.
I think that pretty much sums it up.
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Aw that sucks. I think she's comparing herself to her sister and thinking, "Oh my gosh, my YOUNGER sister is in an amazing relationship and I'm not." Then, she's looking at her sister and thinking to herself, "What do I have that she doesn't?" The answer of course is straight hair. I often compare myself to my younger brother, and I actually quit playing sports because he's always been the amazing athletic one and I could never compete. I'm known as the smart one, and he's catching up to me and I hate it! I guess siblings will always have their seperate "labels."
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that's really insane logic.
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that's really insane logic.
Originally Posted by Suburbanbushbabe™
Yeah- I feel bad for her. But I think we have all thought this in the back of our minds if we straighten. Straight hair will make more appealing/attractive etc...
Just show her lots of love and tell her that she's waiting for a reason. I'm a firm believer in fate.
Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth. I sat at a table where were rich food and wine in abundance, and obsequious attendance, but sincerity and truth were not;
and I went away hungry from the inhospitable board.
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Really though not everyone thinks straight hair is better. In fact, the majority of guys I've dated prefer my curly hair over my straight hair because it fits me and is unique, I can get it wet whenever I want and it doesn't take long to style. I wonder if we did a survey whether or not men would really prefer straight hair over curly. Seems like men don't pay attention to all the super details like us women do.

Either way, I'm sorry that your friend feels like she is not with someone because of her curls. Hopefully she will come to love and accept her beautiful hair and find someone who will love her, curly hair and all.
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I wrote a funny research paper for one of my classes and it was on whether people found straight or curly hair more attractive. So I would go out with curly hair and then with straight hair and I always got more looks and more people talking to me when my hair was straight. However, now that I'm cg my curls look fantastic and I don't care if they prefer straight. And now people notice. so I think it has a lot to do with your confidence and not so much your hair.
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It upsets me, because she is SO pretty and awesome and I have no idea why a guy wouldn't be attracted to her!

Also, I admit, part of it stings because my mom has told me that my hair is a reason why I don't get too many boyfriends (let's leave out the fact that I work in a field that is about 90% gay men!) She says men look at me and can't see past my curls.

When I think of that and what my friend is saying right now...seroiusly, do men just not like curly hair?!

And I doubt any guys are sitting home obsessing over their hair, weight, whatever and thinking that girls won't like them the way they are.

Also, I admit, part of it stings because my mom has told me that my hair is a reason why I don't get too many boyfriends
Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine
I've heard variations of this... that my hair and my assertive personality are barriers in terms of attracting men. If it's true, it's too bad. Even though I am thermally reconditioned right now, it's not going to last forever. Curly hair is the default for me. As for my personality, that is even more fixed than the hair, which I can and will change (mostly for me anyway).
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I was at work yesterday, standing by the elevator and one of my co-workers (a guy who I've seen around but never actually talked to) stopped and was like, "You know, I wish all girls would keep their hair short and curly like that. Everybody always wants long, straight hair, but yours is so nice."

So I guess there are men like this in the world! Maybe they're just hard to come by???

On the flip side, my mom also hates my curly hair, CanItBeChristine-- she said that if I was younger and kept my hair "like that" she would be embarrased. I think she's just hatin' on my curls...
I just want to do what I want to do when I want to do it.
If she has to straighten her hair to get a guy, and then keep him, he's not the guy she really wants.
so I think it has a lot to do with your confidence and not so much your hair.
Originally Posted by finallylikemyhair
That's what I was thinking. It sounds like your friend's issue is her self-confidence, not her hair.
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