Do you think women over 40 should have short hair?

On Oprah yesterday there seemed to be an emphasis on coloring the grays and cutting hair short to look "fresh" and younger. Personally, I am 45 and stopped coloring my grays. I just found the time, expense, and damage to my hair to not be worth it for me. And, to be honest, I think with my hair real short, I look too much like my mother!! So, I'm hoping to grow it to at least shoulder-length when dry. I'm hoping that with healthy hair and the right attitude, the length of my hair won't matter. What do you think - am I deluding myself?
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hell no!
here's my mom on the lower left and i think she rocks the long hair:
My response is to them!

I'm 41 & not about to cut my hair shorter than shoulder length & maybe not even that short! I despise short hair on myself. It just doesn't suit my face even if the length pulls the curls out.

As for color, I think the grays add a natural highlight. I'll add in some lowlights, but I'll never again get anything that lightens my hair because it's so damaging.
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It probably depends on the face shape, etc. But IMO I think whatever floats your boat, tickles your fancy, or toots your horn!

I used to work at a retirement community and this one man had a daughter with the most beautiful waist length silvery gray 3B hair.....she was pretty too, and I don't think it made her look washed out or old. She was probably in her 50's.


Plus, my Mom is 54 and has almost BSL 3B hair, and I think she looks great. So yes, I agree with lazy loops
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I think anyone can have long hair at any age. It's more about hair being taken care of and looking healthy instead of just letting it grow long and looking hagardly.
I do think that sometimes trimming and longer layers (shortest being near the face) can help people look better.

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I thought every single make-over on Oprah looked great. That said, it totally depends on the individual, their hair type and the shape of their face. My mom is over 40 and she has very long hair and it fits her perfectly. I don't know that she would look as good with, say, a chin length bob.
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No way. When I'm 40+ (I'm only pushing 30 now) I hope to have BSL gray curls. My color has always been natural, and I think gray is beautiful.

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... it totally depends on the individual, their hair type and the shape of their face. My mom is over 40 and she has very long hair and it fits her perfectly. I don't know that she would look as good with, say, a chin length bob.
Originally Posted by CurlyQTPie
Agreed. My sis is 50 now, and she never looked good with really long hair at any age. She has a long slim face and it just dragged her down and didn't look good. She grew it out a few times in her youth, never looked that good. However, she has a perfect face for around shoulder length or even above. She can rock a short bob! It really flatters her features.

I'm 44 and not going to ever go short because of age. I have had it BSL to above shoulder throughout the years, regardless of age, just for change. It's below shoulder now and I'm planning to grow it to about BSL again to see what the curls do, now that they are older and changing. But I plan to keep some face-framing layers that have always been flattering.

Not to be snarky, just FYI: if you search, there have been several threads about long vs short on older women. Good info in them!

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chicpower - your mom looks great and very young! Nice looking family you have.

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I thought every single make-over on Oprah looked great. That said, it totally depends on the individual, their hair type and the shape of their face. My mom is over 40 and she has very long hair and it fits her perfectly. I don't know that she would look as good with, say, a chin length bob.
Originally Posted by CurlyQTPie
I agree. I had very, very short hair from my 30s into my 50s. I'm 56 now. I started growing it longer 2 years ago. It was well past my shoulders, but I decided it looked best just skimming the tops of my shoulders. That's where it is now, and where I intend to keep it for the foreseeable future. I do get color, though. Not quite ready to go completely gray:-)

edited to add: My avatar pic is from last summer. My hair is longer now.
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I don't think a woman should automatically cut her hair because she turns some certain age. However, some folks look better with shorter hair, no matter what the age.

I think the problem comes in because a lot of women get so attached to their hair, they won't cut it off or experiment with different looks because they get so attached to the length. Style is often sacrificed for the sake of length. Women like that, to me, even younger women, often seem like they are in a rut or frumpy.

The woman above in the photo is very beautiful and though her hair is long, it suits her well and has a "style." Having a style is important (which worries me sometimes because I fear I am getting into this rut myself of just have a big blop of curls with no shape).


As for color, I am not ready to go gray yet. I'll probably end up being one of those old women with the fake-y looking black hair!

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You should wear whatever suits your face shape and hair type. I think it should have some style no matter your age. Long, stringy stuck up in a bun or ponytail all the time isn't flattering at any age. I'm 49 and I just had my below the shoulder cut by my DH not because of age but because I'm very petite and it was just too much hair for me. He accidentally on purpose gave me a bi-level bob. I love it, price was right too!
I'm 44 and am in the process of growing my hair so I'd say no.
Not necessarily. Unless the hair is in bad condition. But that is true regardless of age. I like the idea of long curly gray or grayish hair.
I think a woman should choose a style that looks good on her. Being 40 shouldn't be a factor.

One of the prettiest women I know is in her mid-40s and has waist length grey hair, she's gorgeous.
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I got tons of compliments when I had 1" short grey hair (see my fotki for pics). Especially when I wore my black glasses. It looked very futuristic. However, I got really boring and I got alot of stangers come up to me and start talking about their chemo (like I was also going through chemo, too) . But when I started growing it out grey I just felt OLD.
So I started coloring it again.

I'm hoping I'm not too old to have it past my shoulders. I feel more feminine with it longer; although on bad hair days, I start thinking about getting it chopped again. It was virtually maintenance free.
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Another vote for no. I'm 42 and my stylist likes me to keep my hear shoulder length. (plus it is curlier when it is longer?
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%$#@ that, LOL ... I'm 44 and my hair is past my bra strap dry and about to my waist wet. I color because I like a little funkier look - my natural hair is dark brown, but I color it a dark brown/plum - not because I'm worried about the grays. And if I'm lucky enough to go the same beautiful silver my mom is, I'll be wearing waist-length silver curls till the day they lay me in the ground
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