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Old 11-10-2007, 11:21 AM   #1
 
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I just wanted to tell you a very annoying comment I received about my hair.

I had it pulled back (no halo frizz haven't gotten that since I was eight) and it looked just fine. I was walking with my mom to the mall and as we were walking accross the sidewalk right beside the mall a woman with short, pin straight hair came up to me and said "I love your hair, but don't you ever straighten it? I know your type of hair, it can get like a bush and I think relaxing it would do wonders. Try doing once or twice a week to keep it managed. I have a daughter with your hair and it has been so much easier to brush out since we have been following out that routine."

First thing I thought was, huh? And then I thought if you have been relaxing your daughters hair for that long twice a week than that kid must have a head full of fried noodles. I felt sorry for her daughter. And then I thought, why are you giving hair advice to a stranger? And BAD hair advice to a stranger!

She wasn't meaning to be rude. It was just a very annoying and ignorant comment.
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Old 11-10-2007, 11:43 AM   #2
 
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I feel sorry for her daughter, but she meant well.
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Old 11-10-2007, 11:45 AM   #3
 
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WOW! People just amaze me sometimes. It's hard enough for me to walk up to someone with beautiful curls and tell them how gorgeous it is and ask them what they use and where they get it cut. I couldn't imagine giving negative, unsolicited advice to a perfect stranger. Unbelievable.
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Old 11-10-2007, 12:37 PM   #4
 
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I feel sorry for her daughter, but she meant well.
She may have meant well, but I find it EXTREMELY rude to give unsolicited advice to a stranger. To me, it just indicates a complete lack of manners. If someone said that to me and I was in a good mood, I might ask her what exactly she thinks gives her the right to poke her nose in other people's business. If I was in a bad mood, I'd be likely to give her some unsolicited advice on something that's "wrong" with her look. You would never walk up to an overweight stranger and start giving them diet and exercise tips... why do people think it's ok to comment on people's hair?
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Old 11-10-2007, 01:12 PM   #5
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Here is something odd that happened to me last night. I was in a restaurant with a group of friends, but happened to be talking with my closest one. I was having a killer hair day - I mean possibly the best I have had on CG. I even broke out the red lipstick I was feeling so good. I'd been given a couple of compliments from other fringe friends there earlier in the night - ah good hair day validated ...so I am sitting there w/ close friend and she looks across the room and zeros in on this girl with hair the same length and curl formation as me (it looked somewhat crunchy though) and was like "oh WOW I love her hair." I was a little dumbfounded b/c she'd not said anything to me, not that I was fishing, but my hair was JUST like this other persons if not better and she was ooing over it. Was just odd. Felt kind of annoyed.
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Old 11-10-2007, 03:11 PM   #6
 
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To purdycurly: People are mostly ignorant beasts. She probably thought she was helping, but let's face it, her remarks were unsolicited and had only one message: she saw your hair as inadequate somehow and she was arrogant enough to suggest that she had the answer (to a question you never posed). I wish that woman were here in front of me right now so I could tell her to shut up and mind her own business! And then I would tell her kids to run away from home. javascript:emoticon('')

And to Amy (ACH): That's an interesting situation and all I can say is that our friends tends to not really see us after a time. In some ways that's good because it means that they are seeing our insides rather than our outsides, but it also means that they might not be paying as close attention to us as, say strangers on the street might! Some might say your friend was jealous of your hair and so couldn't register it, let alone compliment you on it, but I never like to think that kind of thing about a friend, so let's assume that is not the case here. I suspect she really wasn't paying attention to you and that it was an innocent oversight. Next time, you could always just say, "Hey! But my hair looks good today, too! Haven't you noticed?"
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And to Amy (ACH): That's an interesting situation and all I can say is that our friends tends to not really see us after a time. In some ways that's good because it means that they are seeing our insides rather than our outsides, but it also means that they might not be paying as close attention to us as, say strangers on the street might! Some might say your friend was jealous of your hair and so couldn't register it, let alone compliment you on it, but I never like to think that kind of thing about a friend, so let's assume that is not the case here. I suspect she really wasn't paying attention to you and that it was an innocent oversight. Next time, you could always just say, "Hey! But my hair looks good today, too! Haven't you noticed?"
I was thinking along those lines too.

Purdycurly- God, that's so rude! I would've told her that no, I don't ever straighten it, it doesn't get like a bush, and if she learned how to take proper care of her daughter's curls, she wouldn't have to relax them (also that she shouldn't be trying to brush her daughter's curls in the first place!).

Well, ok- I wouldn't have really said that... because I wouldn't have thought of a good comeback till long after the conversation was over.
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Old 11-10-2007, 04:12 PM   #8
 
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I would have been like.. do I know you?
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She was extremely rude and I would have told her so.
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Old 11-10-2007, 09:23 PM   #10
 
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I have a daughter with your hair and it has been so much easier to brush out since we have been following out that routine."
Ack! She brushes her curly daughter's hair?? No wonder she thinks curly hair gets all bushy and needs to be relaxed.

She was very, very rude to give unsolicited advice to you.
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