Considering relaxing my hair

I'm considering relaxing my 3b hair. I don't want to completely straighten it, just make it less curly, perhaps 3a. What kind of relaxer should I look into and ask hairdressers about? Or are they all pretty much the same?

My hair doesn't form a proper curl until it's about 4 inches from the roots so I wouldn't have to get it done all that often.

Is there any special way to care for hair that's been relaxed? Is there anytime when you can't do it because your hair may break off?

Thanks
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And I third. Your hair is absolutely beautiful. If you do decide to go w/ a relaxer please try a natural one first. There's also a thread about people w/ damaged hair from using chemicals. One lady kept getting relaxers even though she got burned every time. It really does damage your hair.
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Less curly? You wouldn't want to have my hair .
Your hair is really pretty, but I know that we see ourselves differently sometimes that other people. Your hair is just fine IMHO, but if there's nothing we can do to keep you from doing it then use a very mild relaxer. My 30 year old sister always uses a kiddie relaxer "No lye".
Aww! Thanks for the compliments girls!

My hair has just decided to become a big pile of poof! I've just moved to the tropics and my hair now looks nothing like the pictures, in fact it's even more curly and I just can't control the fluff - a combination of high humidity and soft water.

If I could just get rid of the poofiness that would be a start but most styling products make my hair a massive mess and sticky or dry.

What's lye? Is that an active ingredient? Or a damaging one?

I'm guessing going to a salon is the best idea if I do this?
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Your curls are very pretty with good length, but I can understand your desire for looser curls. I have relaxed (with mild, no lye formulas) on and off for years; worn my natural curls for many years; at one point, my mother had done curly perms to my hair to make the curls more loopy, big and even; now, I'm thermally reconditioned.

Here are two informative, basic links for you to read up on what you might be getting yourself into:

http://www.hairboutique.com/tips/tip6419.htm

http://www.lamasbeauty.com/beauty/ja...Faqs_print.htm

At a minimum, you can expect increased dryness and damage, as well as altered curls that may alter even more over time of re-relaxing or "transitioning" back to your natural texture. There are boards devoted to Transitioning and Straightening/Relaxing here. You may want to go back over older threads posted on those boards and browse through them, to learn from information already shared.

Good luck.
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Please don't!!!!!You have beautiful hair.
I live in the caribbean and believe me the humidity is baddddd!
My recommendation is to moisturize, moisturize, moisturize and stay away from glycerin in styling products. I'm having great results with Herbal Essences Body Envy. Set me Up is good too if you need more hold.
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If you do decide to relax, definitely inform yourself. I would also say spend the extra money on the Ouidad biosoftening, the Curlisto texturizer/relaxer or the Rusk anti-curl. They seem to be less harmful to the hair than the relaxers sold in stores. Whatever you do, do NOT use Oglivie Straightener. I used that once and my hair felt as if it had been shredded. I would also give your hair a chance to adjust to your new climate. I agree with the post about moisturizing. I lived in a subtropical place for years. A good rinse-out conditioner, styling product and haircut worked fine.
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Andre says no lye relaxers are worse than the lye-based ones.
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I'm going to have to join the folks saying don't do it - I had some chemical straightening done to my hair a couple of years ago. It was easy to blow-dry straight and I enjoyed it for awhile until two things happened - my roots grew out enough that I was getting poofy frizz, and I started seeing some seriously disturbing split ends and damage. Since I prefer having longer hair, I discovered CG and haven't looked back.

If you do decide to relax - perhaps you won't have the trouble I did since you aren't going for a straight look - make sure you definitely keep your hair moisturized and do deep treatments to keep it hydrated since your hair will be more dry and more fragile than it is now.

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i don't think you should relax your hair either!!

It sounds to me that you just need to fix up your routine.. Maybe a really moisturizing leave-in under a strong holding gel?? I've heard really good things about Shea Moisture Leave-in (i'm waiting for mine to come, so i can't say anything first hand) And I'm definitely an herbal essence gel advocate, which are good hold for cheap.

I know this probably isn't what you made this thread to hear; you wanted suggestions for relaxing! But, chemical relaxers are just soo damaging and you know your curls have the potential for being gorgeous from your pictures.

Here's another option: after you put product in, put the towel in your hair turban style - that always stretches out my curls.
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I agree with everyone else. I think you will really regret putting a chemical in your hair. Yes, it will loosen the curl pattern, but the price you'll pay is extra dryness and possible breakage. The shine, smoothness and luster of your hair will possibly be compromised and there is no guarantee that a relaxer will fight the frizzes. It may possibly make it worse.

Thermally reconditioning your hair will seal in the shine and softness of your hair, but it will also make it bone straight and you are only interested in going one grade up on the curl scale. Then there is also the formaldehyde issue with that procedure....

There are natural alternatives to loosening the curl pattern, albeit temporarily. There are mixes consisting of yogurt, coconut milk & lime, cows milk and also styling products made for relaxing curls. I am sure someone who knows more can chime in on product recommendations or a recipe for the milk mixes
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Thanks for all the kind words about my hair - it's really annoying me at the moment. I'm going to give my hair time to get used to the climate but I'm not completely ruling out relaxing my hair a bit. I'll have to look into it a bit more and speak to some hairdressers before I do anything. So in the meantime what products or type of products will help with fluff and poof in the tropics?

My hair is easily over moisturised, which could be causing the fluff. At the moment i'm using a bit of Frizz Ease serum (never thought I'd use that again!) and Frizz Ease gel (worked OK in England by itself but here it dries my hair like no ones business, hence serum). I still have some Boots curl cream (that stuff does not travel well!) but it makes my hair feel really odd here. I'll have to go shopping, one good thing is there is so much more choice in hair products than in England!
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I don't think Frizz Ease is good/strong enough for keeping your hair from poofing. I would definitely try more products especially something strong like Re:Coil and Biosilk Rock Hard Gelee. While we didn't have a really hot summer here in Chicago, those products kept me looking curly throughout the humidity.

I paid $600 and had my hair straightened using the Rusk method and it always looked terrible. Everyone told me when I went back to curly how much better it looked.
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I paid $600 and had my hair straightened using the Rusk method and it always looked terrible. Everyone told me when I went back to curly how much better it looked.
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What did your hair look like after the straightening?
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Laura your hair is beautiful and chemical relaxers never come without consequence.
I'll step off my soapbox now... You can do what CIBC does to her hair. It seems to give nice 3Aish results and it looks easy.

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When I went to Mexico this last summer the humidity made my hair a giant dry poofball. I found that if I used lots of re:coil, HE body envy gel AND devacare ArcAngell, then diffused, my hair looked nice and didn't poof up as the day went on. I know you want less curl and re:coil is a curl enhancer, but it worked wonders for my frizz in a v. humid climate.

I agree that you should think carefully about a chemical relaxer - it may be a solution to one problem but may cause more headaches in it's wake!
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So in the meantime what products or type of products will help with fluff and poof in the tropics?

My hair is easily over moisturised, which could be causing the fluff. At the moment i'm using a bit of Frizz Ease serum (never thought I'd use that again!) and Frizz Ease gel (worked OK in England by itself but here it dries my hair like no ones business, hence serum). I still have some Boots curl cream (that stuff does not travel well!) but it makes my hair feel really odd here. I'll have to go shopping, one good thing is there is so much more choice in hair products than in England!
Originally Posted by curlylaura
can i make a suggestion? DITCH the Frizz Ease, was so bad for my hair, even if it was working for a while - i think it eventually promoted that poof and frizz for me. We seem to have some similar hair formation although im sure mine is a little more coarse/cottony - and while i can handle lots of moisture i know how that soft-poof thing goes....

on the relaxer bit.... please donnnnn't!!! I have a few techniques for loosening/manipulating my curls if i ever want to - i need to do a post about it some time. I do the "skip-curl" thing that they show on the CHS website (frizzoff.com) - but when i do the skip curl i twirl with more fingers (3) if i want a looser curl. If it works on my hair it make work on yours!

I usually only twirl the front pieces and if i plop right after they tend to hold that looser shape i created. i need to try more all over my head and see what happens.

i also used to do this and then bobby pin the curls to my head in the larger shape (with a mousse or something) and then blow dry completely before taking them out - and voila!! I had 3a/b curls instead of 3b/c

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