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View Poll Results: For the people who became natural, would you ever relax your hair again?
No. I love my beautiful, natural hair. 18 78.26%
Maybe. I might get bored with my natural hair in the future. 4 17.39%
Yes. I think I might do it tomorrow. 1 4.35%
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Old 07-20-2005, 01:45 PM   #1
 
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I had signed up to this website a w hile ago and wasn't sure if I wanted to be a curly head. I made my final decision: I am going to be a curly head It's so wierd that I never knew that Curve Salon was famous. I seen it in a Sophisticate's Black hair magazine long time ago but thought it was just a regular hair salon. I guess not. I will keep everyone posted and will be asking alot of questions to the senior curly heads and hope to get advice from everyone. I would also like to thank suncy who was a great help with providing me with so much info.

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I will never, ever relax my hair again. Those chemicals are no joke. This picture scared me

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Old 07-20-2005, 03:38 PM   #3
 
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I voted in your middle category, even though boredom is not the right motivation for me... I will never relax my hair stick straight again - the last time I did that was in hs.. However, texturizing is still a very real option for me. I am able to use a mild no-lye relaxer for about 8 minutes and get results that I like. If I texturize, I only need to do it 2-3X a year. So, although it is damaging, I think it is still OK for my hair, especially since I never use heat other than for deep conditioning. My primary motivation for texturizing is to have a more predictable and polished look for work. When I texturize, I also don't use as many hair products - mainly I use a high quality conditioner and a touch of leave-in. With natural hair, I need conditioner, a leave-in and gel to provide control and prevent frizz. I also play around with a lot more moisturizers and light oils when I am natural.
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Old 07-20-2005, 03:51 PM   #4
 
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I don't know. I'm still transitioning, and when I am natural, I'll probably stay that way for a while, but I can't swear I won't texturize or relax for the rest of my life - I might do it for a new look. If I decide later in life to cut my hair, I'll probably texturize or relax first and then do the BC.
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Old 07-20-2005, 04:18 PM   #5
 
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Ditto Curltopia and Amneris!

Today I definitely won't relax my hair, but I don't know about tomorrow.

I am very new at this and don't know how my hair is going to behave once it's below the shoulder. If I continue to get the right cut and use the right products and it's still behaving like today, then I don't see the need. However, using a relaxer to soften my curls sounds awfully tempting on some days!

Today, I love my hair, tomorrow? Who knows?
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Honestly, I felt like relaxing my hair because I was getting frustrated with my hair roots but after seeing the pic, I got nervous. I didn't know the relaxer can do extreme damage! I feel sorry for the lady in the photo; she looked like she was about to cry. Wow, I am planning to texturize my hair (when I go to Curve) and since the process is very short, the damage to my natural shouldn't be bad. Ladydning, I do agree, too. I don't know how I would feel the next day. I might just call my older sister tell her to keep 6 pm free so she can relax my hair but so far, so good; relaxing my hair is far from my mind...
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I voted, "No. I love my beautiful, natural hair."

I feel like I can confidently say that I don't plan on relaxing my hair in the future. The only reason I relaxed my hair in the past was because of my lack of patience and knowledge concerning taking care of my hair. I was 14, and thought that relaxing was the only way to "tame" my hair.

I love my natural hair, but I'm also good at straigtening my hair w/o relaxers, and can switch it up when I desire a change. That's the beauty of having curly hair......if you want to wash and go, you can do that, and if you want a straighter look, you can do that as well.
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I love my curls. If I wanted something different. I would just straighten my own hair or get a weave or something, but I am never altering my texture again. Relaxing doesnt allow for alot of alteration in change. Its straight and thats about it.
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I voted that I would never relax my hair again. I don' t even think that i want to straighten it either. It's just so against who I am and for what I stand.
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You know, I tried for years to "transition," and I always stayed on the fence about relaxing again-and I always would end up relaxing it. It wasn't until I made the commitment to chop it all off and start from scratch that I fell in love with my natural hair and vowed never to alter it with any kind of chemicals again (including texturizers). I think it's really hard to maintain commitment to all-natural hair when you're still struggling to manage two very different hair textures.
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Honestly, I felt like relaxing my hair because I was getting frustrated with my hair roots but after seeing the pic, I got nervous. I didn't know the relaxer can do extreme damage! I feel sorry for the lady in the photo; she looked like she was about to cry. Wow, I am planning to texturize my hair (when I go to Curve) and since the process is very short, the damage to my natural shouldn't be bad. Ladydning, I do agree, too. I don't know how I would feel the next day. I might just call my older sister tell her to keep 6 pm free so she can relax my hair but so far, so good; relaxing my hair is far from my mind...
A texturizer is a relaxer. That's the relaxer I'm trying to transition from. If you're worried about chemical damage and want to be all natural, a texturizer may not be the way to go. Texturizer is just a way of dressing up the word "relaxer", but it's the same chemicals.
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Old 07-21-2005, 08:54 AM   #13
 
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My guess is that Zahira999 means:

Relaxer-implying straight hair, take the curl out

Texturizer-implying leaving some curl in just loosening it a bit. A texturizer is a technique done w/relaxer creme or "texturizer creme" for that matter.
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Any chemical process still has the potential to do damage to the hair,
even a texturizer. And then it depends on your hair texture. I got a texturizer before a long time ago before I knew what my texture was and it ended up giving me waves and not curls because my natural curl pattern isnt very tight. So just be careful in your decision, you may end up with something you dont want.
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Any chemical process still has the potential to do damage to the hair,
even a texturizer. And then it depends on your hair texture. I got a texturizer before a long time ago before I knew what my texture was and it ended up giving me waves and not curls because my natural curl pattern isnt very tight. So just be careful in your decision, you may end up with something you dont want.
yep - and I never ever got straight hair from a relaxer. It was always very wavy and curly and had to be blown and pressed to look completely straight. That's why I switched to a texturizer. My texturized and natural hair are similar in some ways, but VERY different in others.....
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I think it's really hard to maintain commitment to all-natural hair when you're still struggling to manage two very different hair textures.
I like my natural hair a lot, but commitment is kind of strong for me in this context... As long as my hair is healthy and presentable, I am cool with it. Right now I am pretty far along in transitioning and happy with my hair, so I guess am making "the commitment" to stay natural. And I really don't have a problem with radically different textures of my hair as the chemicals wear off - it is pretty gradual for me. But if I start to become unhappy with the appearance of my hair, I don't see a problem with using a mild texturizer again. I'm trying not to do it because I think that all natural hair is more healthy, but not because of some "commitment" .. Maybe that word just rubs me the wrong way - I promise that I'm not trying to pick on you!
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I think different people have different reasons for being natural. I wear my hair natural because it is who I am. I don't believe that having straight hair makes me prettier and more accepted. I accept my hair as God made it. It never crossed my mind when I decided to go natural that it was healthier. Some people do it just because it's healthier.
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Oh, Lip Glass's post makes Portae's make more sense now... Yes, there is a racial/ethnic component to wearing my hair natural. I still get a lot of guesses that I am philipina or chinese but when I mention that my father is black, I often hear "oh, that's why your hair is curly." I also get spoken to in spanish a lot more with my natural hair. But when my hair is texturized it isn't stick straight and that is not my personal beauty ideal, even though I greatly admire jet black, stick straight asian hair like my mother's. I think that look is very beautiful, but it is not a look that I try to copy with chemicals. Since I am always seen as some sort of woman of color, whether I am texturized, transitioning or completely natural, I base the decision of how I wear my hair more on factors like hair health, consumption of products and how presentable my hair looks.

But I can see how this would be different for everybody.
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Relaxers and texturizers don't make my hair more managable. My hair is actually HARDER to detangle when I use relaxers and texturizers. I am probably the only one though.


I have grown to love my nappy hair so much that I have no desire to relax it at all. I usually try to avoid the use of the word never, but I have to say I will never use relaxers/texturizers again.
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