When is it time to break up with your stylist???

I've been going to the same stylist for a couple of years now and have been pretty satisfied. She has never given me a BAD haircut. She's always given me really great service but, lately, I've wanted to change a couple of things with my hair and she's been resistant. Specifically, I've wanted to put more short layers in the front of my hair. She seems to think this would be disasterous on me. I just kind of envision something like the Melina Kanakaredes pic on the main page. And I'm so hung up on it that I'm thinking of looking around.

Is this another form of Junkyism??? Always looking for the bigger, better deal when something perfectly fine is already in place??
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I luckily don't have that problem as my stylist is one of my best friends so whatever I want she does, within reason, I asked her if layers would suit my hair, she said no as the shorter my hair is it sticks out more., but if thats what i wanted she'd do it.

But I'd say it's time to ditch them when they stop doing what you want, after all you're paying for it right?
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I agree that it's time to start looking when she disregards what you want. YOU are the client and YOU are paying for her services. She should do what you tell her you want done to your hair. I could understand her making suggestions, but the final decision is up to you.
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I agree - start looking for someone new. I had a stylist a long time ago who I really liked and she did a good job as well but same thing... I wanted shorter layers around my face and she refused to do it. I finally left her and found someone else.
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Just a point of view from the stylist perspective. You're right, the stylist should always do what the client wants in the end. But sometimes, there is a reason for the resistance. Example: Client A comes in and wants shorter layers. Stylist keeps talking her out of it because Stylist truly thinks the shorter layers are not suitable for Client A's hair/face shape, etc. Client A insists and Stylist finally gives in. Client decides she hates the shorter layers and they make her look awful. So Client A blames Stylist for giving her a "bad haircut." Happens all the time.

If you really like your stylist, then sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with her one last time. Make sure she understands you will not be blaming her if she does indeed give you what you want and you decide you hate it. You can certainly go and find another stylist, but think about what you're risking: you're asking to go shorter with a stylist about whom you know nothing and who doesn't have the slightest clue about your hair. Might be worth some thought.
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Just a point of view from the stylist perspective. You're right, the stylist should always do what the client wants in the end. But sometimes, there is a reason for the resistance. Example: Client A comes in and wants shorter layers. Stylist keeps talking her out of it because Stylist truly thinks the shorter layers are not suitable for Client A's hair/face shape, etc. Client A insists and Stylist finally gives in. Client decides she hates the shorter layers and they make her look awful. So Client A blames Stylist for giving her a "bad haircut." Happens all the time.

If you really like your stylist, then sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with her one last time. Make sure she understands you will not be blaming her if she does indeed give you what you want and you decide you hate it. You can certainly go and find another stylist, but think about what you're risking: you're asking to go shorter with a stylist about whom you know nothing and who doesn't have the slightest clue about your hair. Might be worth some thought.
Originally Posted by StruttsWife
Well said. I was going to post similarly. I have had stylists insist that a certain cut would not work, but they were good enough to explain WHY and come up with alternatives that I was happy with. When they didn't, or couldn't do something I knew my hair could do (from the past), I found a new stylist.

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I agree with Struttswife as well. I think the key is whether you really trust your stylist with your hair ... and to really know your hair. Before finding my current stylist (I hope I never lose her), I was relatively happy with the one I had .... she was the best I had had up until then. I also knew instinctively though, that although she was the best I had found - she still didn't really know how to work my hair. If you have been settling with a stylist because she has never 'wrecked your hair' ... when you said she never gave you a BAD cut, I suspected that this may have been the case ... then maybe it is time to start asking around.

I would do as much research as you possibly can. Checking the 'find a salon' on this website was how I found the one I currently see. Asking fellow curlies is another great way.

The mistake I have made is when I know I want a change and dammit I'm going to get one !! This normally hits me during PMS time or February - God help me if I'm PMS-ing in February. I am always very appreciative of anyone who at least tries to talk some sense into me during that period of temporary insanity.
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