Definitely #2!!! I always used to play with the underside of my hair throughout the day...twirl it, finger comb it, tug on it...nervous habit i suppose. well ever since i got my hair cut in march, you can SEE that part! but i just keep on playing with it. dah!
I heard once that doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results is the definition of insanity (I think this is usually attrib. to Einstein). This is me and my hair. The only problem is, with curly hair, sometimes you DO get different results!
I keep putting gel on soaking wet hair thinking it will work for me. I get something my DH affectionately calls "wet-dog" hair every time--loose, kinky waves (how can it be loose and kinky at the same time??? good question!) that never seem to dry. There is no crunch to scrunch, just heavy, flexible, plastic feeling strands.
-Suave Aloe & Waterlily cowash/leave-in
-Giovanni Direct Leave-In
-FOTE aloe vera gel