While I myself am strictly no poo, there are some who must poo every now and then (some more, some less).
This method is completely trial & error! There is no such thing as 'instant' results in the beginning! What works for someone else (even if their hair looks just like yours or is the same hair type) may not work for you! Sorry, but it is better to hear the truth now!
Anyway, for me, I co-wash about every 3 days unless I have been outside or worked out and then I must do it that day, or I feel dirty! Then you can use a leave-in (if you feel your hair is dry) and then it is playtime!!
The stylers are my fav part! There are a myriad of products you can try that will behave differently for everyone. Just to frustrate you, the same product may work differently for you, from day to day...(once again, a does of reality!) The methods of applying the products range from scrunching it in, raking it in, and some even use a comb to get some of the products in! Try them all until you find what works for you.
Personally, I scrunch everything..the conditioner, the leave-in, all my stylers, everything! I just have it in my head that any other method will pull out my curls! Probably just my OCD, but it works for me!
I would check out the threads and the google toolbar for any specific questions! There is a ton of information here, so read to your hearts content!
Also, check out this blog, written by a veteran of CG...
Hope this helps!