My hair looks like this when it's wet:
http://www.7thsign.com/~izzy/gallery/cg/022309a
A combination of thin, fine hair and over-enthusiastic root curl, it seemed at first like there was nothing in my product usage that could help it. But these things work for me, and you could try them:
- Put as little product directly on your scalp as possible. I apply some leave-in/KCCC/gel right-side-up and then run some water over my head. This seems to diffuse the product. Then I flip, and apply as much product as I can upside down.
- When you're done with all product and ready to let it dry, take a cheap plastic pick (but a brand new one with no frayed plastic) and gently slide it into your hair, horizontal to the plane of your head. Very slightly, with teeny, tiny little motions, rub the pick back and forth to lift the very scalp-plastered hairs just off the scalp. Do not pull away from your head until you have stopped the rubs. Carefully pull the pick back out of your hair. Repeat in the next really bald area.
- and/or use teeny, tiny claw clips to lift hairs off the scalp while the shape is setting. Sometimes just 10 air-drying minutes can help me in this regard.
- plop for as little as humanly possible to gain the curl you want. I find that plopping, again, flattens the hairs against the scalp. Then I have to get the pick out (see above

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- as someone else said, once dry, after scrunching, insert fingers through upside-down hair to scalp and gently rub in the same way you would with the pick. Just your finger tips, softly on your skin, can help release the hairs from your scalp
There's something else but it's late for me. These tips may not work for you but who knows! I hope it helps.