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Firstly, are you CG?
What is your hair type?
What's your routine?
Knowing these things, it would be a lot easier to help
I'm not CG because I work out a lot and I just can't not wash my hair after sweating so much... I use HETT shampoo, and Pantene Pro V Full and Thick conditioner.
I'm a 3b with some 3a in there, and I usually wash my hair maybe twice a week. Otherwise, I wet it in the shower, condition it and put in either HETT gel or Noodle Head Mousse and plop overnight.
I'm thinking maybe it could be the length dragging it down? I'm currently at Bra Strap Length.