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lovelyhoneyme 08-07-2009 12:03 PM

How Did Having Curly Hair Affected Your Life
 
For years Since I was Little I would Straight my Hair
All I saw on Tv is people Dislike Curly and Adversting to Straight your hair, At school people made fun of me because of my curly hair every girl had smooth straight hair I tryed everything to make my hair permently Straight but I couldnt I used to hate the way my hair looks
now im Starting to accept curls in my life and Be happy what i Have. Even though its so hard to take care of.

dernhelm 08-07-2009 01:44 PM

:cheers: It's great that you're accepting your natural curls! It's who you are.

I've always worn my hair curly my entire life. I've straightened my hair maybe 4 times, but it just didn't feel like me. Luckily I never had any negative comments about my hair, at least not to my face.
:blob2: Hooray for curls!

wookiemouse 08-07-2009 03:14 PM

I never, ever straightened mine. Never had a desire to! But I also didn't know until much later in life NOT to brush curly hair. My school years were pretty much one big afro. :) I don't remember being made fun of, but I did think that that was just the way my hair was and to accept it. Only later - when the Frizz Ease line came out - did I jump into the silicone pool and found out I had CURLS.

Stacy

PrettyMedusa 08-07-2009 03:22 PM

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Originally Posted by wookiemouse (Post 1056247)
I never, ever straightened mine. Never had a desire to! But I also didn't know until much later in life NOT to brush curly hair. My school years were pretty much one big afro. :) I don't remember being made fun of, but I did think that that was just the way my hair was and to accept it. Only later - when the Frizz Ease line came out - did I jump into the silicone pool and found out I had CURLS.

Stacy

This. I had no idea how I could get the tangles out WITHOUT brushing, and I think there was this mistaken idea that I could make my hair lie "flat" if I brushed it, thus making it more "straight."

Unlike you, I did have the desire to straighten my hair, only because I didn't really know what to do with it (luckily, I've never had a way with a blow dryer or flat iron). But I personally always found gorgeous, soft, boingy curls much more attractive than straight hair.

Nobody really made fun of me either, but certain family members did make it hard. I remember my mother yanking my hair out with a brush every morning and my dad telling me that I should wear it tied back all the time because it was too unruly.

I did fry my hair with a blow dryer almost every day for years, so by the time I was about 20, I had a ton of damage, split ends, brittle hair, etc. I still use a blow dryer with a diffuser, but I don't think I've had a split end in about six or seven years.

Curls rock!

*Angela* 08-07-2009 03:41 PM

When I first read this question I thought to myself that having curly hair didn't have that much of an effect on my life. But then I started thinking back...

I remember being about 9 or 10 and wanting hair like Marcia Brady. I would wear a long sleeve turtle-neck top on my head and pretend it was my hair. This was about the same time I talked my mom into getting a home straightener kit...which she attempted to apply but I still ended up with the same frizzy hair that she didn't have any idea what to do with. I also remember being teased by boys in elementary school...the one that stands out was when they would rub my hair and say my b*lls itch. Hilarious right?!?

It wasn't until after I graduated high school that I found mousse and my hair life changed. I had curls. And they were defined and no longer frizzy and I started liking my hair.

I did relaxing my hair in my early thirties (and even then I didn't lose my curl) but I didn't like the upkeep. I find that I am really low maintenance and like to keep things simple. Now I'm more concerned with the health of my hair. Of course I like it to look good too.

I like that when people describe me to others they refer to me as the girl with curly hair. It's part of who I am and I love my curls now...most of the time ;-).

diggity 08-07-2009 04:15 PM

I still struggle with acceptance of my natural hair texture. It's not as bad now because I feel a lot more confident, in general. I go out with my hair curly, good and bad days. And I also straighten sometimes. But for many years, I felt like my hair was hideous and that I had no chance in being accepted or considered attractive because of it. Part of the problem is that I didn't know how to take care of my curly hair. Brushing, harsh sulfates, etc.

And people were definitely cruel. I remember one of my close friends telling me that my hair felt and looked like a Brillo pad. Another friend's brother said I would be really cute if not for my "bad hair." I remember going to a concert once, and it was very hot and humid inside. My hair had been behaving, but it frizzed out like crazy in the humidity. All of my friends were laughing and saying, "What happened to your hair?" When you're already insecure about something, those words can really hurt.

I'll also admit, having curly hair affected my life in some obvious ways. I didn't go swimming with friends too often because I didn't want them to see my hair after it gets wet and dries to a mass of frizz. I skipped out on trips to the lake or fun outdoor activities in the summer when it was really humid because I didn't want to be embarrassed by my temperamental hair. I think that's the saddest part of all - that I didn't feel free to just have fun and do what a kid or young person should do because I was afraid of how my hair would react.

The last year of high school, I discovered flat irons. I wore my hair straight from then on all throughout college. Then I tried going CG for more than a full year after college, and I did everything right.. but it just didn't work for me. My hair is very fine in texture and a lot of products and routines that are designed for curlies don't work for me. So now I'm back to a routine that uses some cones but largely focuses on gentle cleansing and lots of deep conditioning. So far, so good.

StruttsWife 08-07-2009 04:52 PM

It surprises a lot of people to find out I straightened my hair for 18 years...until I moved to Florida in 1997. And even then, I didn't stop because I wanted to...I stopped because I had to. Trying to straighten your hair down here, especially in the summertime, can be like trying to herd pigs.

It took a few years, but I learned to love and embrace my curly hair. And now my passion in life is teaching others to love and embrace theirs :)

sexyjacksparrow 08-08-2009 01:02 AM

I'd agree with the brushing thing. I thought my hair was wavy and big rather than curly when I was a teenager as I would brush it (and hence mostly wear it up as I didn't like the bushiness). I always thought I had really thick hair as there was so much volume. Turns out I don't!

It has only been the past two years I have really stopped trying to detangle whilst my hair is dry
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get frustrated and basically rip through my hair with a brush
I now detangle in the shower with conditioner and running water - my hair condition is so much better.

vähän kihara 08-08-2009 02:38 AM

It affected my life in that I have worn a ponytail almost always for years and years. If I straightened it, it would not stay straight, and I just didn't know what to do with my hair. I am still trying to figure it out.


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