You mention AOHR and Jessicurl DT's, but if your hair is that dry, maybe you need something as rich as AOHR for everyday, too, instead of the GVP cond. balm, although most people find it to be a very good conditioner. If your hair is still squeaking after it, it mustn't be enough for you
Deva One, even the old formula, didn't do much for me - decent slip but not all that conditioning. B'Leave-In
- yuck! And you were wise, IMHO, to discontinue LVNPG - I just didn't find it to be very conditioning, and my hair isn't especially dry (Can't stand the smell either - used it as a base for a henna gloss Sunday night and had to wash my hair this morning. I just couldn't stand to smell it another day!)
SheaMoisture Leave-in is very moisturizing, but too heavy for me to use very much - it could be just what the dr. ordered for you, though! This is where most order it from: www.beautyofnewyork.com/shopping/XKVM200207KB0319.htm
I also like to use a generous amount of FOTE AVG first thing out of the shower for some added moisture and then it gets sealed in by my gel and other styling product(s). Then I often reactivate curls and products the next day with a 50/50 water/aloe mist, which again adds moisture. Sometimes if my day 2 hair is particularly droopy, I scrunch in straight
Mag sulfate in Re:coil
could be drying your out, especially if you're using it all the time - it does that to a lot of people.
Like Sessac, I sometimes use just a touch of KBB butter or cream to SOTC, especially on day 2 hair.
Are you getting any protein? If your hair's thin and porous, you probably should be. I really like AO GPB myself, both as a rinse-out and as a longer DT. My hair likes its proteins better than, say, Joico K-pak (or knock-offs) or Nexxus Emergencee . . . .
One other thing I really like is Komaza Honeycomb Rejuvenating treatment - my hair drinks it in, but the oils don't weigh me down as oils usually do. It doesn't feel greasy at all. Their leave-in is very good, too, again almost too rich for me. Plenty of their other products are supposed to be really good, too, but I haven't tried them: www.komazacare.com/haircare.html
I got mine at Afrokinks per Komaza's own recommendation because they were out of it at the time.
Hope something here helps ya'll!