So after being CG for almost 2 months now my hair is shaping up quite nicely. The question pertains to my daughters hair. She has also been CG for almost 2 months. While her hair is better we are still having major problems. Our routine is for her to co-wash 1-2x per week and then follow with a conditioner heavy in oils (we use the Garnier fructis) then use some Afro-detangler and more GF for leave in. Usually at night or in the morning we spritz with some water mixed with conditioners or oils--depending on how dry it is (it is always dry!)
From here we've tried a few products..none work great. So for now she uses just the LA Looks Sports Gel or BRHG or the ABBA gel. We sometimes use the butters (BB or KBB) on her wet hair as well to add moisture and seal it in. We did find that the CJ AFG works to help keep the frizz down a bit.
I have very fine very thin hair that is about 2's top to 3A on the bottom. My ex has 4b hair. It is Z type, very very coarse, very dry. Since he has always kept it shaved pretty close to his head I have no idea how t would look longer or how fragile it is.
The problem: my daughter has BOTH types on her head. If you pull each type off it looks like 2 completely different heads of hair. She has a longer, more 2's to 3A like mine but more solid S shape with a ringlet on the bottom--with curls starting about 1 inch down on her head. This hair is blonde to light brown. Then she has 3c/4a-b type hair that grows straight up then does a 180 and goes down--looks like a cross between a Z and S. It is thick--so one of these strands is equal to about 10 of her more blonde-light brown hair, more coarse (though not like her dad's), is black with red (very dark auburn..gorgeous!), porous, and EXTREMELY fragile. I mean fragile to the point that pulling it back in a ponytail completely breaks it off. It literally can come off in your hand.
What has happened/is happening is that the products that her more 2C/3A type hair likes (because it is very fine and has low porosity) which are protein's and moisturizers just cause the other hair to go completely frizzy, fuzzy, and straw like. It gets even more fragile and breaks more easily.The hair that is similar to her dad's like's oil, butter's, etc which tend to weigh down her other hair.
The ratio seems to be about 80-20 with the finer blonder/browner hair being more prominent. It is what you "see" when you look at her head until you get closer. However as she grows this is shifting. Based on what we've seen I think her hair may eventually end up closer to her dad's in coloring (dark auburn black/brown) and pattern--as we are seeing more and more of the hair like her dad's. She is 12 and her hair got much curlier about 2 years ago. She was not a ringlet baby..it was wavy at best, very blondish/reddish, very fine and very thin.
So I am looking for suggestions. One of the major probems that occurs is that, due to breakage and being so fragile, she has a LOT of "frizz" since the darker hair not only grows up out of her head but it has much shorter pieces due to breaking. These pieces stick pretty much straight up.
The only styling type product we've used on her hair that seems to benefit her coarser hair is that Ohm's custard---I went through last night and picked out as many as I could find strands and just coated them with the stuff when her hair was wet. But the end result is that the other hair looks greasy this morning.
If anyone has any ideas that would be great. She starts school tomorrow and I, unfortunately, did a protein treatment last weekend because her more blonder hair was SO stretchy you could tell there was something wrong with it. While it helped that hair immensely now the darker coarser hair feels like straw and it breaks my heart
She is always pulling it back because it is so heavy and hot. I don't have any solutions for her other than to cut it short and then try to keep the strands somehow matched up so they grow evenly. But when I tell her that she gets so upset..she loves her long curlyhair
Here is what I have in samples: KCCC
, KBB Butter, KBB Cream, KBB nectar, KBB milk, CJ CALI, CJMTC, Kenra Conditioner, CJ SG, CJAFG, DMCHB, DMMC. I also make my own FSG with seamollient so we've used that on her hair as well.
1st one shows the frizz
2nd one is the first day after the new CG methods
3rd one is last week with CG methods for almost 2 months AND a good haircut to get rid of alot of the dryer ends (about 2-3 inches cut off) and to layer just a bit to give some volume