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hipchick 11-12-2009 06:45 PM

If you never get compliments on your hair
 
would you wonder if you need a different more flattering hairstyle? What do you think?

rudeechick 11-12-2009 06:48 PM

Post a picture. We will be honest. And complimentary:happy7:

Pops G-Ma 11-12-2009 06:52 PM

Maybe you never get compliments because your hair has always looked great. If you've once had an awful style then changed it, people would notice.
I never get compliments but when i first transformed from straight to natural, i got them all the time, now nothing, unless I ask. Do you like your hair and do you think it looks good?

wavy wonder 11-12-2009 07:06 PM

my husband told me yesterday he thinks my curls are vey unflattering on me... but then again, i have seem women on tv etc that have GORGEOUS curls and i ask him if he thinks it looks good and he says, "ehh".

PeacexPassion 11-12-2009 07:14 PM

Wavy Wonder, tell your husband that straight hair never gets that gorgeous tousled bed-head look that you KNOW he loves :]

and maybe it is time for a switch up, it depends on how long you've had the same style.

CurlFace 11-12-2009 07:23 PM

Well that wasn't very nice of your husband, wavy wonder!!

In regard to the original question - it could be just because people are used to how your hair looks - but not because it looks bad.

I think it's time for me to get a trim - not looking forward to it...

nynaeve77 11-12-2009 07:32 PM

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Originally Posted by wavy wonder (Post 1162382)
my husband told me yesterday he thinks my curls are vey unflattering on me... but then again, i have seem women on tv etc that have GORGEOUS curls and i ask him if he thinks it looks good and he says, "ehh".

I hope he enjoyed his stay on the couch. :lol:

hipchick 11-12-2009 07:38 PM

Maybe people are used to the way my hair looks and that is why. BUT I also think my hairstyle doesn't flatter my heart shaped face. The style kinds of drags my face down. I think a style for a heart shaped face should either frame it or somehow make the face shape look more oval. I am an artist and a bit of a perfectionist and it really seems off to me. Granted, I am growing out a bad cut but it shouldn't take a year to find a flattering look!

Wavy, why on earth would your husband say that to you?? How did you respond to him when he said that?

wavy wonder 11-12-2009 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by hipchick (Post 1162417)
Maybe people are used to the way my hair looks and that is why. BUT I also think my hairstyle doesn't flatter my heart shaped face. The style kinds of drags my face down. I think a style for a heart shaped face should either frame it or somehow make the face shape look more oval. I am an artist and a bit of a perfectionist and it really seems off to me. Granted, I am growing out a bad cut but it shouldn't take a year to find a flattering look!

Wavy, why on earth would your husband say that to you?? How did you respond to him when he said that?

I wasn't offended....hmmm, maybe I should have been. i don't know, i asked what he thought of my hair that particular day and he sort of beat around the bush and said it. But when i question him....NOOOOOO he doesn't want to talk further about it. I don't get it , for sure. Especially when i see a hot girl with hot curls and for him to say Ehh says something. oh well, I like um.. the curls, I mean :) oh and i guess the hubs ,too:scratch:

wavy wonder 11-12-2009 08:08 PM

LOL, just asked him if he liked my hair tonight and he said yes. He's worse than a girl:tongue5:

onethousandcurls 11-12-2009 09:44 PM

I think your waves for sure flatter you, wavywonder, as far as I can tell from your siggie pic.

Men think girl hair is straight hair.

mschoen 11-12-2009 10:05 PM

I get complments from strangers, but my friends rarely say anything except
 
If I compliment their hair, they'll say "you hair looks great. Your hair always looks great". So while they don't regularly say something, I don't worry that that means mine looks bad.

I'm sure you're beautiful!

rockthecurlz 11-13-2009 12:23 PM

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Originally Posted by wavy wonder (Post 1162460)
LOL, just asked him if he liked my hair tonight and he said yes. He's worse than a girl:tongue5:


guys are so silly sometimes

xcptnl 11-13-2009 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by wavy wonder (Post 1162436)
Quote:

Originally Posted by hipchick (Post 1162417)
Maybe people are used to the way my hair looks and that is why. BUT I also think my hairstyle doesn't flatter my heart shaped face. The style kinds of drags my face down. I think a style for a heart shaped face should either frame it or somehow make the face shape look more oval. I am an artist and a bit of a perfectionist and it really seems off to me. Granted, I am growing out a bad cut but it shouldn't take a year to find a flattering look!

Wavy, why on earth would your husband say that to you?? How did you respond to him when he said that?

I wasn't offended....hmmm, maybe I should have been. i don't know, i asked what he thought of my hair that particular day and he sort of beat around the bush and said it. But when i question him....NOOOOOO he doesn't want to talk further about it. I don't get it , for sure. Especially when i see a hot girl with hot curls and for him to say Ehh says something. oh well, I like um.. the curls, I mean :) oh and i guess the hubs ,too:scratch:

My SO is not a lover of curly hair. I think it is just his personality. He likes neat and I think to him curly has the appearance of messy. But, I do not cater to his like of straight hair either so he must have decided he liked the curly hair enough to stick it out. :love10: We have been together for 10 years and out of those 10 years my hair has probably been blown out or straightened maybe 20 times. I do not think we have to love everything about our significant other but as long as the good parts outweigh the parts we do not like so much-we are good.

Gemini13 11-13-2009 01:11 PM

Like others have said, I normally only get compliments if I have a new cut or style. Or I might get a "your hair is getting so long!", something like that. I get the occasional random compliment, but not often. As long as I'm happy with the way it looks, it doesn't bother me.

hipchick 11-13-2009 01:19 PM

I think my issue is I am not happy with the way it looks. My face is longish and heart shaped and my Deva Cut seems rectangular. It really drags me down and makes me look older. I am supposed to wait another month for a cut. Maybe it will be shaped differently as my old butchered cut grows out more or maybe Deva Cuts are not for me. I hope the latter is not the case though!

xcptnl 11-13-2009 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by hipchick (Post 1162983)
I think my issue is I am not happy with the way it looks. My face is longish and heart shaped and my Deva Cut seems rectangular. It really drags me down and makes me look older. I am supposed to wait another month for a cut. Maybe it will be shaped differently as my old butchered cut grows out more or maybe Deva Cuts are not for me. I hope the latter is not the case though!

I was really feeling like you before I got my hair cut last week. I have an oval shaped face which supposedly can take just about any style (is that right or am I making that up??). Anyways, as my hair got longer and pulled out the wave/curl at the top I felt dragged down too. Now that I have some fullness on the sides and my top is fuller because it is not being pulled by the length I feel much perkier. Can you get just a trim maybe?

msjanani 11-13-2009 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by xcptnl (Post 1162989)
Quote:

Originally Posted by hipchick (Post 1162983)
I think my issue is I am not happy with the way it looks. My face is longish and heart shaped and my Deva Cut seems rectangular. It really drags me down and makes me look older. I am supposed to wait another month for a cut. Maybe it will be shaped differently as my old butchered cut grows out more or maybe Deva Cuts are not for me. I hope the latter is not the case though!

I was really feeling like you before I got my hair cut last week. I have an oval shaped face which supposedly can take just about any style (is that right or am I making that up??). Anyways, as my hair got longer and pulled out the wave/curl at the top I felt dragged down too. Now that I have some fullness on the sides and my top is fuller because it is not being pulled by the length I feel much perkier. Can you get just a trim maybe?


This is exactly why I've lightened up my top, gotten some loose bangs, and try to focus on volume over definition. I just felt like the straight down, even curls were making me look a little '90s. Now I like to wear my hair a little messy, instead of gunning for those perfect spirals every morning.

wavy wonder 11-13-2009 03:05 PM

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Originally Posted by xcptnl (Post 1162958)
Quote:

Originally Posted by wavy wonder (Post 1162436)
Quote:

Originally Posted by hipchick (Post 1162417)
Maybe people are used to the way my hair looks and that is why. BUT I also think my hairstyle doesn't flatter my heart shaped face. The style kinds of drags my face down. I think a style for a heart shaped face should either frame it or somehow make the face shape look more oval. I am an artist and a bit of a perfectionist and it really seems off to me. Granted, I am growing out a bad cut but it shouldn't take a year to find a flattering look!

Wavy, why on earth would your husband say that to you?? How did you respond to him when he said that?

I wasn't offended....hmmm, maybe I should have been. i don't know, i asked what he thought of my hair that particular day and he sort of beat around the bush and said it. But when i question him....NOOOOOO he doesn't want to talk further about it. I don't get it , for sure. Especially when i see a hot girl with hot curls and for him to say Ehh says something. oh well, I like um.. the curls, I mean :) oh and i guess the hubs ,too:scratch:

My SO is not a lover of curly hair. I think it is just his personality. He likes neat and I think to him curly has the appearance of messy. But, I do not cater to his like of straight hair either so he must have decided he liked the curly hair enough to stick it out. :love10: We have been together for 10 years and out of those 10 years my hair has probably been blown out or straightened maybe 20 times. I do not think we have to love everything about our significant other but as long as the good parts outweigh the parts we do not like so much-we are good.

yeah, I think he thinks it looks messy... especially on days I don't really do anything with it. And it's always the same. I don't think he hates it by any means, although, him saying, "it's not flattering on you", pretty much means.... hmmm.


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